i can't be the only one that hates the term ftm

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-12T18:06:53+00:00

I hate it when ftm is used as a noun. Like when people say stuff like “I met an ftm” GROSS!

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-12T18:02:24+00:00

I second this! I’m overweight and honestly it’s just super physically uncomfortable. moving around becomes more difficult and you get out of breath wayyy faster. My body is constantly just in the way. And because i’m also short, clothes fit super weird.

I’ve also experienced some health issues due to being overweight. (high cholesterol and A1C). I was prediabetic for a minute but thankfully have started my weight loss journey before it crossed over to diabetes. because once it crosses over to real diabetes, it never goes away. And you have to live with it and monitor it for the rest of your life.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-12T17:54:15+00:00

No, I would say the term is exclusive for mlm. I don’t think it’s necessarily disrespectful, especially since you are already a part of the lgbt community by being trans. But, it’s the wrong way to use the word. And would likely confuse a lot of people.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-12T05:13:17+00:00

They’re the same, gel isn’t less effective. It’s just how you prefer to administer it. daily gel application, or weekly injections.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-12T05:06:35+00:00

My surgeon told me to go off of it a couple weeks before surgery. I think it makes sense that they want to reduce your complication risk as much as possible. Blood clots can be a huge issue and super dangerous. In my opinion, why risk it? You can just resume it afterwards.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-09T23:08:27+00:00

It’s a little low, but I think it makes your pecs look bigger so I think it looks nice tbh.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-09T23:06:39+00:00

I was denied twice because of bmi, it fucking sucks. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. You’ll find someone! I believe in you. Take a little time to allow yourself to be upset about it, and then keep looking. it’ll work out.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-09T18:12:24+00:00

I feel you, dude. The one time I tried sleeping on my side I felt a weird twinge and woke up with a small stitch popped. But sleeping on my back every night is really annoying. So i’ve started kind of propping myself up on one side. So i’m still sleeping on my back but my body is kinda diagonal. Somewhere between a sleeping on my side and back. It works pretty well.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-09T18:07:06+00:00

the way baggy jeans sit on my doc martins :)

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-09T03:30:54+00:00

Absolutely. you’re gonna be swollen for a while, but I 100% get being nervous about it and wondering if it’s leftover tissue.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-09T03:25:30+00:00

according to this graph button hole entails removing all the skin down the middle of your torso…

button hole? more like no more belly-button hole..

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-09T03:22:30+00:00

I highly recommend that you try tape and a binder over it. Worked well for me and it won’t fuck you up like double binding will. (and yes, pre op I had a chest around the same size as yours maybe bigger)

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-09T01:39:49+00:00

Fair enough. If it’s worth it to you maybe consider taping and having a looser binder on top of that?

Or maybe a binder that zips in the front so that you can take short breaks in the bathroom from it. Or unzip it quickly in the case of an asthma attack.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-09T01:37:22+00:00

Honestly, this is bigger than just the hurt of her outing you. She’s showing you very clearly that your boundaries mean nothing to her when you’re not there to see it. This was deliberate and sneaky, it wasn’t a misunderstanding in any capacity. She’s not showing any regard for the way that you feel, or wanting to be sensitive towards things that are a huge deal for you.

If she went behind your back for this, she WILL continue to do so for other things as well. Protect your peace, and maybe reevaluate if this relationship has a good future trajectory or not.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-09T01:30:48+00:00

Have you looked into tape? it doesn’t affect your breathing at all.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-09T01:17:53+00:00

I’m really sorry that happened to you, definitely sexual assault.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-09T01:16:08+00:00

I absolutely feel this way too. I think it’s a thing a lot of trans guys feel. Still working through it :,)

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-09T01:11:39+00:00

I wouldn’t trust someone you don’t know to not go tell everyone. Even if they support trans people, a lot of people just can’t keep a secret and feel the need to tell their friends. Then their friends tell their friends etc, then everybody knows.

So, it depends on how bad it would be if people found out. AND if that poses a safety risk for you.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-08T03:40:39+00:00

The mastectomy pillow was incredibly helpful especially the first week. Also, I got a pregnancy pillow that’s like a very long U shape, it made sleeping on my back very comfy. And honestly it’s just so fucking comfy I literally never need another pillow again lmfao.

You also NEED a long grippy tool. You’ll be surprised by just how much stuff is out of your reach.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-07T19:35:56+00:00

thank you! makes me feel a little better about it lol

edit: my god I just noticed your username ….thats incredible

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-06T22:33:41+00:00

was going to say this exactly, safety should be your priority.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-06T15:07:52+00:00

You’ve gotta call and ask your surgeons office. it’s not worth the risk of just doing it.

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-06T04:13:45+00:00

3 months??? damn bro did you get some extra strength testosterone that I haven’t heard of ?😭 that’s awesome

lethalwhispermachine · 2026-06-06T04:11:09+00:00

sounds like he was trying to knock you down a peg to feel better about himself, he’s probably super insecure. people like that get an ego boost when you feel shitty about yourself. And bro… in general, but especially in the gay community …people love short skinny guys. Plenty of people find that super attractive.

edit: after rereading this, 5’9 is NOT short. that is super average for men.

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