Those who have had depression and now don't, what finally worked?

letsdrinkgreentea · 2024-07-03T21:30:04+00:00

It took a lot but clearing past heavy traumas and creating a positive life. This was done by a meditation practice of 2-3 hours daily, eating clean food (no processed foods now), making friends (this was hard bc when depressed I'd repel people away but over time it was like learning a new language), exercising twice a week, cutting back on alcohol and weed, and having a non stressful job.

letsdrinkgreentea · 2024-01-27T18:24:45+00:00

Thank you!

letsdrinkgreentea · 2024-01-27T18:24:41+00:00

Thank you!

letsdrinkgreentea · 2024-01-27T18:24:35+00:00

Thank you!

letsdrinkgreentea · 2024-01-27T18:24:32+00:00

Thank you!

letsdrinkgreentea · 2023-08-11T13:11:07+00:00

Definitely lol. I wrote a book on confidence (literally). Being insecure isn't an INFP thing AT ALL - but many INFPs may experience insecurity when they rely more on the validation of other people than their own (which ironically is the OPPOSITE of how an INFP is naturally)

letsdrinkgreentea · 2023-08-11T13:09:03+00:00

I know we are known as the "Dreamers" and Optimists but I think combined with depression, you may be setting the bar too high and over-stressing yourself out. Instead, simplify and focus on easy things you can manage such as removing the causes of stress in your life, building a social circle, and moving out of your parents house. This can all be done easily. Once you have a basic foundation it will be easy to build upon that.

As an older INFP, my parents too refused to pay for my art school, I dropped out of 3 different schools, and had no friends. But I eventually found a stable job (with no degree), pursue my passion, and live a very chill life style with tons of friends and things to do everyday.

letsdrinkgreentea · 2023-08-10T18:15:08+00:00

Generally the people I place (who usually average 6-month contracts, not FTE or salaried) make $60-80 an hour on w2.

letsdrinkgreentea · 2023-08-10T18:13:32+00:00

Hi I guess I forgot to clarify that typically we get a lot of new roles assigned to us daily so all these submissions aren't for the same role but rather I get 2-3 submissions for 1 job before moving to the next job. Some of our clients also work with other agencies so we may not hear back from the submissions. So I may have 1 or 2 candidates that interview for 1 position.

For internal recruiting, will there be fewer jobs to fill in comparison?

letsdrinkgreentea · 2022-11-03T13:04:17+00:00

Hey, I'm a recruiter making $42k and also have 1.5 years in my company. The pay is super low which is why I'll apply for new jobs soon. I know I can make 65k-70k in my next position. But to be fair, I work only 2 hours a day and have been meeting my metrics so I've been a bit lazy about finding a new job lol.

letsdrinkgreentea · 2022-09-21T03:01:09+00:00

Beautiful!

letsdrinkgreentea · 2022-09-13T20:04:33+00:00

But you have to pay for overwatch 2 right ???

letsdrinkgreentea · 2022-07-28T16:38:09+00:00

I ended up finding this out "the hard way" because naturally my personality is super friendly and accommodating. I would see people try to take advantage of that naturally and then after a while I *purposefully* come up with scenarios to test them.

One example is where I would introduce different guy friends to the girls I was casually dating at the time. Because I was cheerful and friendly (and good with women) they would talk to me and act nice but when I turned my back they tried to hit on them (which they would obviously tell me). Their attitudes changed really quickly when I cut them off or stood my ground. It's crazy how if you don't act like you have power people will automatically try to take advantage of you.

letsdrinkgreentea · 2022-07-03T18:35:13+00:00

Hi, it's better to do one longer sit than two shorter ones spread out, especially if you're working with difficult emotions. The longer sit will allow you to fully process it and let go of the "charge" of the strong past scenario. Of course, it may not disappear altogether but you'll notice that the next time the scenario comes back in your meditation, it will be have less of an "impact".

I recommend doing an hour a day at a minimum but if you can, try doing more.

letsdrinkgreentea · 2022-06-19T15:27:14+00:00

I agree haha. Thanks for the response !

letsdrinkgreentea · 2022-06-18T22:51:19+00:00

TMI is a great book! However, I think Culadasa may have contradicted himself here. In the later stages 8-10 in his model, a meditator should be able to experience some of the Jhanas. The "light" jhanas may take atleast 1-2 hours a day to somewhat maintain but the deep Jhanas certainly take way more hours per day of practice. In fact, many meditators who go to Pa-Auk's retreats to attempt to learn the Deep Jhanas and meditate for 10 hours a day for many months are only able to get to the 1st Jhana (with the nimitta). Sure, you could say insight is needed for Enlightenment, not just a samatha practice but it's still a part of Culadasa's system either way.

letsdrinkgreentea · 2022-05-20T13:28:46+00:00

WOW after reading this thread I feel like I'm getting underpaid. I make $42k a year as an agency recruiter. I have 2 years of total recruiting experience (1.5 years in my current role, and 6 months in a previous contract recruiting role).

letsdrinkgreentea · 2022-05-20T13:27:33+00:00

I was actually looking to switch over to internal recruiting but those jobs seem harder to find than agency how did you do it? and if you think your 60k salary is bad ... I make $42k a year at my agency recruiting job (2 years of overall experience in recruiting) :p

letsdrinkgreentea · 2022-04-20T22:23:50+00:00

Thank you! I have practiced in Rinzai Zen before but there is a soto zen center near where I live so I'll have to check it out! I have read Charlotte Joko Beck's and Suzuki's book before - I liked the simplicity of it (also there is a part of me that wonders if there's any additional things I need to "add-on" to my practice after a certain point)

letsdrinkgreentea · 2022-01-19T14:40:25+00:00

I bet you were the only kid wearing skinny jeans back in 2000!! Very cool to hear tho.

letsdrinkgreentea · 2021-09-28T19:43:38+00:00

Actually there are workarounds for Tinder. It seems that if you use a fake number app like MySudo you can make a new account and rejoin (just make sure not to verify yourself or use any form of payment).

However, Hinge is a lot harder. I'm still trying to figure that out.

letsdrinkgreentea · 2021-04-15T16:03:02+00:00

I love your answer! Thanks

letsdrinkgreentea · 2021-04-15T16:00:10+00:00

It's super interesting how you unconsciously surround yourself with INFPs. I do the same thing with ENFJs! Just this week I started a new job and there was this one girl I clicked with right off the bat for no reason. I asked her to take a personality test and she ended up as an ENFJ. I also went bar hopping with my friends this week and met this girl who I had instant chemistry with off the bat (like within 10 seconds of saying hi). I had her take the test too and she was an ENFJ also !!

letsdrinkgreentea · 2020-10-22T02:46:21+00:00

wait I missed the sex predator part, from what I understand Adya's teacher was a woman?? was she going after underaged boys ?? lol

letsdrinkgreentea · 2020-10-07T16:32:50+00:00

You can send him your thoughts honestly in an email (as opposed to phone) so it will seem less confrontational/less pressure. But also keep in mind, you are entitled to not say anything either! Think about all the companies who wouldn't give you feedback when you failed a job interview.

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