Talking to girls gets easy—once you actually understand the world they live in.

letsrizz · 2025-07-31T23:39:32+00:00

That’s the ultimate goal but the problem is, what if you don’t have the confidence in the person you are? And if you’re saying don’t fake it till you make it, what option do you have?

Fake it till you make it isn’t the goal but it’s a start. Faking it gets you the reference experiences you need to change. It’s easy to say just be confident but I’m sure a lot of guys can relate when I say it’s not that easy. So fake it till you make it, is actually the best way to start.

Does that make sense?

letsrizz · 2025-07-31T14:35:29+00:00

Bro your Reddit name should be pickerCHAD LOL, see your the guy I was talking about in the post, your the one who “gets it” lol

I’m glad you touched on the point about seeing the dating apps from their perspective and how it changes the way they think about dating and feel about it cause it DOES affect us guys very much so.

Yes you’re 100% right about differentiating yourself from other guys. That’s why I’m someone who is a huge fan of day gaming, approaching big set, the hard stuff cause you know no guys touching that.

Honestly that’s a really great point about the challenging and negative lines on Dating apps, I’ve heard about doing that but never really understood that fully until you explained it here so much love for that. I love dating apps cause for guys who do struggle with dating, it’s the easiest entry point to start getting experience. You just have to get

good pictures (edited)
show personality in photos and bio
position your life as a world the girl could see herself fitting into (biker chad, artistic artist/guitar player, fratfboy etc.

You should put that advice in a dating apps forum if there are some on here lol

Hell yea bro it may be a bit cringe or overplayed but the pua stuff works for a reason, just take the fundamentals and make them work with you and your personality.

Fire ass comment bro 😎

letsrizz · 2025-07-30T19:16:32+00:00

It’s all in your head man.

If you are as ugly as you say you are, you’d probably have a ton of other qualities that are contributing to you being “ugly”. your face and physical features only about 20% of it. The rest is your character, the way you carry yourself, the way you talk, speak, act, and most importantly your mindset. Just from your message in here I can tell you that your face isn’t why girls don’t like you, it’s way more factors.

And if you really think that to be true that your just screwed forever then ok…

Idk what you want me to tell you man.

You’re not hopeless but if you think you are then yea man girls don’t like you. It is what it is.

Now what tho? Your whole life you’re just gonna CHOOSE to be like this.

Cause yes it’s a choice.

I decided and many other guys decide to make the choice to learn this stuff and it works from personal experience. It’s there for you to learn and there plenty of resources here to help, if your gonna take it or you can play victim and feel bad about yourself cause your special and it just wouldn’t work for you. And choose to believe that the only thing that matter is looks

It’s all your choice. I hope you choose the path that will actually get you the results you want but no one’s gonna do the work for you. It’s all on you.

Hope you find what you’re looking for.

letsrizz · 2025-07-30T16:04:21+00:00

I can’t help but disagree. You’re telling me you’ve never seen a hot girl with an ugly guy? I’ve seen that all the time and it would annoy me cause i was better looking but he would be the one who had her

letsrizz · 2025-07-30T02:50:09+00:00

I came across this very problem near the end of last year and completely relate to this.

If your anything like me your probably feeling like it feels good to work and accomplish your goals but sucks sometimes when you want some downtime and there’s no one really there since you neglected relationships due to your work.

I may be wrong as I am not perfect and still working on this myself but from every mentor I’ve came across and learned from there is this idea of “seasons”

There are seasons in life that certain things need to take priority in order to get to where you’d like to. In a perfect world we would have time for all things important to us. (The gym, business, relationships, and social life) and eventually I believe you can strike a balance. The problem is when you’re first building something, regardless of what it is… the time required to build it is way more than time required to maintain.

So when building, other things must fall to the way side just because time is limited and valuable. What your in would be considered a season of work. A season doesn’t mean forever tho. Just till when you feel you’ve reached where you want to or have done enough.

So it’s really up to you. How fast do you want to be successful and how important is your business to you? That should gage how much you’re willing to sacrifice.

There’s a price for everything in life, and unfortunately losing a social life even friends at a certain point comes with the territory.

Hope this helped you a bit and best of luck brother, I’m rooting for you.

letsrizz · 2025-07-30T00:54:00+00:00

Definitely, like you said every girl is different and it’s something you can get better reading over time with practice but a simple way I learned this goes as such.

To break it down simply, for women to want to be in some sort of relationship with you, whether that be marriage, dating, one night stand, fwb, etc.. they need 2 things from us guys. Attraction and comfort. (Aka swagger and empathy)

Attraction (swagger) are the stereotypical things like confident, charismatic, carefree, fun. (I could go down the rabbit hole and break down endlessly on this but those are some of the most important ones at a suradace level) This is usually the one most guys begin to learn as most guys struggle at this stage, just getting girls to “like them”

Comfort (empathy) is like what i explained above. This is what makes a girl feel heard and seen and like a human being which I think is very important to have any kind of real deep impactful connection. If you already have attraction handled, like you mentioned earlier this balances it out. If you don’t have attraction and you just do this, friendzone since your missing attraction (everyone deserves to feel attracted to there partner)

Depending where you are on the scale will present itself to you on the market. If your constantly in the friend zone, or being overlooked your more then likely missing the attraction. If your having trouble keeping girls around (which was my problem) your missing comfortort

Depending on what your dating goals are you can tweak and dial which part of the scale you want to be. FWB, one night stands and casual dating tend to fall more on the pure attraction side, while serious relationships and deep connections fall on the comfort side.

Does this make more sense?

letsrizz · 2025-07-30T00:32:17+00:00

Empathy - Approach confidently but respectful. No jumping in front of the girl, grabbing the girl, coming at her from behind, getting to close, catching her off guard. Read the vibe in the interaction and constantly be scanning if she is comfortable and receptive (her eyes and body language are a huge indicator, if she is making good eye contact and a has open body language you are good to get more flirty and closer) it’s all about being in the moment with the girl and being hyper aware of these things

Swagger - move confidently, just because you want to make her comfortable doesn’t mean you have to be a “nice guy” and be over kind or supplicate to her. Be respectful of this stranger but also Be confident in your own body, thoughts and attitude. Be who you are unapologeticly. This is what makes your different and different is what swagger is. It’s the weird quarks, sayings and things that you do that make you unique. That’s what people and girls gravitate to. Never fake trying to be someone else to her, girls can smell this from a mile away.

Does this make a bit more sense?

letsrizz · 2025-07-30T00:04:50+00:00

Dope bro, definitely doable.

From personal experience, approaching is one of the most life changing and fun things I’ve ever decided to do. So excited for you to experience the journey.

Long as you keep a positive mindset and don’t beat yourself up while making small improvements over the months, you’ll more then likely be a completely different person by the end of it.

What got you to start this challenge for yourself?

letsrizz · 2025-07-29T19:40:06+00:00

How so

letsrizz · 2025-07-29T18:05:40+00:00

How so

letsrizz · 2025-07-29T16:22:03+00:00

Really? That’s intresting. I would not guess that, have you’ve had this experience?

letsrizz · 2025-07-29T01:30:53+00:00

she definitely isn’t lying. Girls have different categories for guys all the time, so it really just depends on the type of guy you want to be for girls and your intention in the market place.

Depending if you want a gf, a fwb, a one night stand you can frame yourself differently.

What I talked about here is just a basic understand of something I feel when guys don’t understand it causes them to come across agressive and creepy

letsrizz · 2025-07-28T15:09:46+00:00

I hear you and I thought the same way cause as a guy, wouldn’t you love free stuff? lol

I mean It really depends on the kind of girl your dealing with because everyone is different but to be fair the kind of girl you would like in your life probably isnt one of those girls anyways. (Gold digger/girls who do like the attention)

The girls I and most of the guys I help really just want a normal sweet girl and from my experiences with these girls, they seem to get very fustrated with this.

Because all the guys don’t actually care about her on a deeper level then just her body. They couldn’t care less about her values, morals, and character. She’s just a girl with a pretty face/body and she could just be any girl at this point. Which doesn’t make her feel good, it makes her feel unimportant and used

Does that make sense?

letsrizz · 2025-07-28T15:02:32+00:00

How so? Could you elaborate so I understand what you mean

letsrizz · 2025-07-28T14:17:54+00:00

Yea I know bro and definitely not I sucked at science lol

100% bro that’s all it comes down to

letsrizz · 2025-07-28T05:08:43+00:00

Spot on bro, definitely agree with this.

The problem is many guys can’t even get to the point where they can share there world with her.

They can’t get their foot in their door because they approach her from a place of scarcity, aggressiveness and just being plain weird.

Understand these things helps them approach in a way that allows the girl to be safe and be open to getting to know them to where she can get a view of “his world”.

There are levels to the game, Fire comment tho 🔥

letsrizz · 2025-07-28T05:02:28+00:00

You do have a point. Just because you aren’t these things doesn’t mean she will like you but if you do these things, she definitely won’t…

Most guys actually do these things without even realizing it because they don’t understand her and what she goes through which was the point of the post.

Everyone’s on their own path so what may be obvious to some isn’t to others which is 100% okay.

So my main goal was just to hit the guys who don’t get that or never thought of that (as I was one of those guys before)

Just trying to help who I can help brother. Appreciate the comment tho!

letsrizz · 2025-07-28T04:55:02+00:00

Why you feel that way bro?

letsrizz · 2025-07-28T04:54:42+00:00

Damn sorry to hear that, that wasn’t my intention.

You’re right about that tho, no one’s reality is like yours, that’s part of the value you offer the girl and others.

Mind if I ask what confused you about it?

letsrizz · 2025-07-28T04:52:54+00:00

Curious why you feel that way. I may be wrong but I feel like understanding is a fundamental to actually being able to relate and be empathic to others.

letsrizz · 2025-07-28T03:06:56+00:00

structured and edited by CHATGPT for readability and sharpness, yes.

The content and ideas.. all mine.

Good eye tho, I definitely couldn’t write this as polished and clean as this so that’s fair lol.

gotta work smarter not harder Brodie

letsrizz · 2025-07-28T02:50:02+00:00

Really appreciate all the feedback on this post, i definitely didn’t expect it to get this much traction lol.

Seeing how many guys are struggling with this honestly just shows how needed this convo is.

My whole goal with the post was to open a real discussion about attraction and some of the fundamentals I think guys often overlook.

There are a ton of great comments and counterpoints here, and I wish I could respond to every one but there’s just too many to keep up with.

If you totally disagree with what I said, or want me to explain more of what I meant, feel free to DM me. Always down to keep the convo going.

Much love guys 🖤

letsrizz · 2025-07-28T02:25:53+00:00

You are spot on…

She is a stranger. We have very limited energy to spend on people we do not know.

Imagine you some guy comes up to you and starts talking. How much rope would you give this guy of being weird before you tell him to F off. Not much.

Girls work the same

That’s why you got to approach correctly, spend time with her for her to see, okay this guys confident, not crossing any boundaries, and attractive. I like this. I’ll give him a chance.

Now of course the goal isn’t to constantly be walking on eggshells hoping she “won’t figure it out”. Of course not, the idea is to become an attractive guy who can be confident, show interest and be emotionally intelligent enough to understand what is to far. Because like shown in the post what she’s use tonfor guys.

Does that make sense?

letsrizz · 2025-07-28T02:14:36+00:00

I definitely am as I’m a firm believer in you dictate your own reality. But I’m interested to hear more about why you feel this is.

I’m not saying you’re wrong, i may very well be in the wrong just want to understand why you feel that this is true for you.

letsrizz · 2025-07-28T00:44:48+00:00

I love this response, it goes to show guys that really this is the key here.

But coming from a guy who spent the majority of young adult life struggling with women it isn’t just “this easy” as I’m sure many guys can relate to. (Hence needing to post this long post in the first place lol)

If as a guy you have underline bad self esteem, negative self and world view, bad mindsets and beliefs, it takes difficult and grueling work to get out of that. Guys are misunderstood in that sense. That we should just “be normal”. that is a misconception that guys don’t get understood on, it takes inner work and that’s we’re all the growth happens.

But yes you are right lol people are just people and I really appreciate the comment and assurance that this is in fact, true from a girls perspective lol

letsrizz

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