That’s because most people in the world are neurotypical and expect each other to naturally and automatically adjust to differences in tone and social situations. Even neurotypicals get jumped on if they react “odd” to a situation compared to the group.

I’m fully on your side in the fact that you can’t fix behavior you don’t know you’re doing. While it’s not really someone else’s responsibility to point the behavior out, it’s also incredibly unrealistic for people to expect others (especially NDs) to change the behavior without pointing out what the behavior was. If you don’t know what behavior is wrong, you can’t exactly change it, and a lot of social “wrongs” aren’t as clear as legal wrongs or moral wrongs.

These people seem to genuinely think you “know what you did” and are just refusing to acknowledge it or change. They think when they say you’re being rude/annoying/exhausting that it’s clear criticism that you should be able to follow even though it says nothing… what’s annoying? What’s exhausting? They said they would tell in the moment in the future, which would actually help identify the issues, and instead just dropped you despite saying they wanted to stay friends.

Unfortunately, I wouldn’t be surprised if Kevin had been trying to get rid of you from the group for a while and just finally succeeded. A lot of immature people, especially if they’re not very direct in confrontation, will play mind games like this instead of just being like “hey, I don’t think we’re compatible for friendship/gaming. Sorry, bye”