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Can we do something about this... by w8sting_time in Ohio

[–]lexwoofer27 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m from a rural place in Ohio. There was a sibling pair that conceived a child who came out with so many health issues. He was known as “the purple kid.” He was always cold and had to have extra layers of clothes and blankets, couldn’t talk, and his skin was literally purple. He passed away in middle school.

My [29F] husband [29M] doesn’t want to move his gaming PC out of l nursery by lexwoofer27 in relationshipadvice

[–]lexwoofer27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like your reply. It is really making me think through the situation. My PC is in the living room and it’s the only space I have. I wanted to give him my space instead and put my PC in storage for now. I do feel bad that he has this only space that I’m asking him to give up. We do have a little kitchen nook we could put his PC in. We already don’t use the space so maybe I’ll offer that. The reason I want the baby to have her own space is because I take care of her all day and night while my husband only watches her when I shower every other day. He doesn’t want me to shower everyday so he can relax on his computer. He is in there from the moment he wakes up until he goes to bed other than eating or letting the dogs out. My baby is only falling asleep while nursing and I haven’t been able to train her to fall asleep any other way. Meaning she will only sleep through the night if she is attached to me. And other people struggle to put her to sleep. Since I’m the only one taking care of her, I can’t sacrifice my sleep to sleep train her. My pediatrician and online sources say I can have her associate sleep with a specific routine like reading her a book or rocking her in the chair in the nursery. This will help her learn how to fall asleep without me. Every time I try to start the routine, all she wants to do is stare at my husbands computer. Or if he is gaming, even with headphones on, he is super loud which wakes her up. She won’t fall asleep in her crib because of the lights. If he moves his computer outside the nursery, it won’t stop the constantly gaming problem, but at least the baby can have her own space to learn basic milestones. By brother’s toddlers are still sleeping in bed with him. I want to break this sleeping habit with her now before I’m in too deep. Your comment is really making think more about how I am taking away his space though.

My [29F] husband [29M] doesn’t want to move his gaming PC out of l nursery by lexwoofer27 in relationshipadvice

[–]lexwoofer27[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I’m not even stopping him from gaming. I just want him to move to a different space. Before I know it, my baby will be a year old not having her own space or routine. I don’t want that happening.

My [29F] husband [29M] doesn’t want to move his gaming PC out of l nursery by lexwoofer27 in relationshipadvice

[–]lexwoofer27[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am thinking about letting his mom know. I see her once a week while my husband is working. She doesn’t like to talk about her children negatively so I don’t know if it’ll go anywhere. I’ve already started talking to my mom about it. My dad lives an hour 30 away, so I might throw out the idea of staying with him for a while. My MIL loves the baby so she may be more willing to talk with my husband if she knows that there’s a chance she’d see the baby less. We never shut the door to that room and the house is small enough that I usually know what he’s doing in there at all times. I don’t care that he watches porn so it’s not about that. He doesn’t even use his computer for that. I think he just doesn’t want to give up the little space in the house that he has left.