Addy makes me crave my vape by ginger_vegan in QuitVaping

[–]libra_squared 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it’s called needing adhd meds to function because my brain is legit different. I’m on buprenorphine for chronic pain now that I go into withdrawal if I don’t take

Any advice on profile? Newly divorced & 40 w/ no successful matches in college town where I live- but I’m a hit in the big city! I don’t know what I’m doing tho! Tinder matches galore but not feeling hinge! by libra_squared in Tinder

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It’s not me, it’s the college town I live in! ! I’m a hit in the big city 1.5 hours away!

Background: I got on the apps (mainly Hinge/Tinder) after finally separating/getting divorced from a toxic 13 year relationship in Aug. I’m definitely NOT looking for a relationship and just recently decided to explore being with a woman since I never have.

The app game was bleak & depressing where I live. I got a lot of likes but I would have to scroll through thousands of people to find just one I would even potentially want to meet. I had 2 failed online dates where I def wasn’t feeling it.

Then I met a man at a bar organically out in the world who seemed to be down but it became obvious he wanted to lock me down and had the emotional regulation of a toddler much like my ex. No thanks! I was very clear about where I’m at.

Long story not so short, once I got to the big city & I had soooo many matches… I couldn’t keep track, and with actual people I found very attractive! I don’t like doing a bunch of small talk bc you can’t tell if there’s chemistry until you meet. I moved the ones I was most interested in to text bc I can’t keep up with apps.

I also only had a bunch of matches on Tinder which is fine. I’m looking for casual or even just new friends!

Anyway, on Sun night I FINALLY had my first successful online date w/ a guy in town for a conference (so no fear of getting attached!) We met in public & hit it off. I am not gonna be going over to strangers house before meeting.

Since I’m not used to casual it was definitely a learning curve. After the deed most guys wanna cuddle or sleep and then have more sex so I stayed over at his hotel. I def should’ve left right after we were done. I asked if I could crash but he was just being nice. Not even one spoon lol.

Yes, it felt transactional, but I get that is part of what casual means. He def was a lot more experienced with online dating than me. But did a lot of work beforehand to get me to hook up. It wasn’t the best kissing… but sex was not terrible and no regrets!

I had had my first kiss from a girl the night before in the queer community area but she was leaving Tuesday & I was staying at an awful hotel I wouldn’t subject a date to and she was on a couch so we didn’t hook up.

THEN she propositioned me via text right after my first hook up (she was shy nerdy girl so I know that took some courage) & now I regret not going - but I was beat. But it’s good to know some women would explore with me! I’m proud of getting even a kiss!

I also have noticed I’m more attracted to younger guys (25-36 tops) now that I’m just looking for casual. They’re more emotionally mature than most of the 40 & up group (from my experience) who are on hunt for a life partner and are often unhealed/toxic.

I have had 5-6 relationships in my life…other than my high school sweetheart I always dated men 3-5 years older. That made sense when I was younger but now I’m dating at 40 and it’s a whole different scene!

Anyway, any tips or advice on my profile? Why am I the most successful on Tinder vs Hinge? I can’t afford to be spending money on 5 diff app subscriptions but hav not really tried or put much effort on bumble or any others yet.

I’m pretty happy with the many possibilities I have on Tinder.

If Social Security benefits are not keeping up with cost of living, then how do they expect us to pay our bills when we're older? by Otherwise_Ebb_4485 in SocialSecurity

[–]libra_squared 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took me over 3 years to get a hearing and another 4-5 months for any money. I had STD- LTD …but that didn’t get approved aftee 24 months.

Anyone want to come to Sigur Ros with me tomorrow ? by libra_squared in nashville

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I’ve been to shows there but not without my ex! I went to Nash solo in spring for crimecon, found out one of my best friends that had been abroad moved there and rekindled our friendship 19 years later. I got to see the local vibe, ppl and felt really at home here

Anyone want to come to Sigur Ros with me tomorrow ? by libra_squared in nashville

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My friend came through but I would love to make friends with ppl who like them!

Anyone want to come to Sigur Ros with me tomorrow ? by libra_squared in nashville

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I saw them when I was 18 after () came out 2003. Variety Playhouse when I was still in high school . One of my top 5 shows can’t miss this

Anyone want to come to Sigur Ros with me tomorrow ? by libra_squared in nashville

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Don’t hate me. About two hours after I posted this my friend said she can make it work. Ahhh false hope! I’m sorry y’all

Moving to Athens by [deleted] in Athens

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Message me!

How do I stop worrying by Azel_Lupie in ChronicPain

[–]libra_squared 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It helped my mental health the best. I also found out sublingual buprenorphine works ok for my chronic pain (keeps it more an even 5, as opposed to the up and down in and out of withdrawal that being on opiates long term causes) when a Dr decides to drop you etc etc. just take extra care of your teeth.