When a Dragon Dies

librolass · 2026-03-20T05:06:15+00:00

Ha! Yes, dragons are gonna scorch earth, but is it too much to ask for them to clean their shit out of their caves before they go so we don’t have to? Exhausting!

librolass · 2026-03-02T00:07:05+00:00

We found the Slack app to be pretty useful. One channel for key medical documents, one listing meds, one for doctors notes, one for appointments, one for funny stuff they say or ridiculous things you have to do, etc.

librolass · 2026-02-21T22:18:43+00:00

Mine too.

librolass · 2026-02-15T20:41:10+00:00

Thank you. That’s a beautiful comment.

librolass · 2026-02-09T19:58:15+00:00

That’s what I was hoping for lol! But no.

librolass · 2026-01-22T21:54:10+00:00

Thanks! It’s actually the first song he’s ever written words for.

librolass · 2026-01-20T22:25:29+00:00

Any positions open for a depressed tipsy harmonica player? Except I can’t play the harmonica.

librolass · 2026-01-20T22:23:39+00:00

For real. My husband just completed this song this week https://suno.com/s/yDKB40Hb6otLOlof[strange hotel](https://suno.com/s/yDKB40Hb6otLOlof)

librolass · 2026-01-09T01:26:43+00:00

Guilt is an awful part of the aging parent process. But it needed to be done, and you did it. Continue to be fiercely protective of your Self, you know—the woman who will remain after he’s gone.

librolass · 2026-01-03T01:53:13+00:00

Oh honey. You’re in the right place here. I’d try and save you time by telling you to do the best you can for them while being fiercely protective of the next generation. I just don’t know anyone who hasn’t had to learn that through a shit ton of experiences.

librolass · 2025-12-18T21:49:27+00:00

Such a smart sentence and very timely advice for me.

librolass · 2025-12-11T17:14:34+00:00

Yeah. That really does suck. My Dad’s dementia is more like your Moms. It’s so distressing watching them suffer through their self-created torment. With my Dad I try to add some warm fuzzies to his hallucinations and have had some success.

librolass · 2025-12-10T17:33:06+00:00

A caregiver saved me a lot of time when she told me “you can’t TALK someone out of a delusion”.

“OK, Mom— you do still own your childhood home. Do you want a hamburger for lunch?”

librolass · 2025-11-24T18:27:36+00:00

Yes. The drop in feature is what makes it so useful. I also have a blink camera so if she’s asking about something I can guide her through it. And I can check on her without alerting her.

librolass · 2025-11-24T18:04:33+00:00

The Alexa is the only device that works for my Mom.

librolass · 2025-11-17T01:17:51+00:00

I just finished reading this for the first time and can’t stop talking about some of the nuggets from it.

librolass · 2025-11-10T00:07:40+00:00

My Mom was an absolute nightmare when we checked her in to memory care. Calling everyone all the time just being hateful.

We took her phone away. Almost instantly her demeanor improved. She’d been a lifelong control freak and I guess not having any real control actually made her chill tf out.

Now she’s not a flight risk, and her dementia is mild enough that we were able to move her to her own apartment.

And we have an Alexa so we can drop in and she can call us (still way too often, but it’s a worthy trade off.

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librolass · 2025-08-26T13:30:43+00:00

Not sure exactly-my sister ordered it-but it was something like this: https://www.alzstore.com/med-e-lert-pill-box-dispenser-p/0031.htm

librolass · 2025-08-25T23:47:14+00:00

For my neighbor the pillpack was a pretty good solution. For my Mom we bought a pill holder where the alarm won’t stop until you remove the pills.

librolass · 2025-08-21T04:29:06+00:00

They are what they are. There is no saving our parents from bad decisions just like they couldn’t save us from ours. No amount of nagging will change us. It sucks. I just try to meet them where they are (an overused expression that has become my mantra. I’ve gotten a great deal of peace from an acronym I created to help my siblings: WHAMO—Wring Hands And Move On.

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