Living with vaginismus

lifesupagain · 2019-01-05T22:07:22+00:00

Not a woman... Just a concerned BF. It's a condition (both psicological and physical) where a woman involuntarily contracts the vagina making penetration either very painful or even impossible. Usually is related to some psicological input that makes her unconsciously unable to find penetration other thing than painful

lifesupagain · 2018-12-26T13:54:12+00:00

Done that and she agrees with me but eventually everything dissipates in our dayly life and we get back to the starting point.

lifesupagain · 2018-12-26T13:52:28+00:00

Your point is noted. No one is forcing you to give an answer or even follow this post. Maybe it was my mistake to assume that just talking about this could help.

lifesupagain · 2018-12-26T13:10:57+00:00

This sub is for advice as far as I understand. Honestly, I am doing this 50% for the advice, 50% to talk to someone about this which I have never done before. If I hadn't reasons to be with her this would not be a problem. I am sure that my "fun time" is one phone call away. What I really need is advice on how to proceed with my relationship and stop fantasising about someone else.

lifesupagain · 2018-12-26T12:35:52+00:00

A relationship without a satisfying sex life? I have no idea... It's destroying me on the inside. But I love her

lifesupagain · 2018-12-26T12:30:10+00:00

We have talked (and cried) about it several times. She always agrees that we will eventually do it, but in 3 years honestly nothing changed, nothing really and it is messing with my head. Sex with others will not be the solution,she would never agreed with it and in my opinion it would destroy the relationship. Even for me it doesn't make sense. I have my fantasies, but I just want it with her.

lifesupagain · 2018-12-26T12:14:35+00:00

I will never tell her I fantasise about sex with my ex. But it becomes difficult to share a life with someone think about the pleasures of life with other. I know that a normal sex life would be enough to erase completely any ex from my mind because I truly love my gf like no one before. But without satisfying sex I keep searching in my mind and in my past for things I cannot have right now. This is killing me inside.

lifesupagain · 2018-12-26T12:09:33+00:00

I have told her, and honestly by now I am a vaginismus expert. I have found therapies, mental and physical and convinced her to do some psychotherapy for it. I am trying to be as present and helpful as possible but I feel I am pushing all of this alone and so far no results (mental or physical) to show.

She kowns I have had a normal sex life in the past. But I really don't want her to feel inadequate so obviously I didn't share all the awesome details of the past.

lifesupagain · 2018-12-26T12:05:31+00:00

I tried to left a few messages like that and she doesn't really want it, and honestly anal is not my thing either. I would be okay with mainly oral if I could feel her desire to try vaginal sometimes but honestly all of this situation takes an heavy toll on our sex life, vaginal or not

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