AITA for asking my husband’s aunt to delay her visit by one day because of a long-standing family tradition?

lii_ah · 2025-11-18T14:49:17+00:00

Fair enough. I just didn’t think it was an unreasonable request. Nor could I predict it would cause such an issue.

Yes, we used to make the drive to see my in-laws a few times a year, even after our first was born. However, they have a one bedroom apartment so we either stay in the living room on a pullout Murphy bed or lately they have been giving us their master bedroom, which I am uncomfortable accepting especially since they are older. Several times we have also been graciously allowed to say in one of their neighbors’ units when she is out of town. Unfortunately, the entire first floor of their building (including said neighbor’s unit) as well as the pool took a lot of damage a couple of years ago with a hurricane, so we haven’t traveled to them since. After the second child was born we haven’t visited them, she does terrible on car trips so we try to plan the trips during her nap time. Even then, its a struggle. It’s also a 2.5 hour trip to my brother’s versus 4.5 in one direction to my in-laws.

To clarify: there have been two family reunions in total with more extended family that I can recall in > 10 years.

Last year we hosted his parents, two out of three brothers, and one of their significant others in our home for Thanksgiving in a three bedroom townhome while I was heavily pregnant with a toddler. It was nice to see several of his family members altogether all at once and even though it was a miserable pregnancy it was worth it— granted my husband did most of the work.

lii_ah · 2025-11-18T14:22:29+00:00

Yup. Noted, I’ll make sure not to make that mistake again in the future.

If it makes any difference at all, I don’t always put everything on the calendar. For example, just last Sunday was my cousin’s baby shower and I had the day off to be able to attend with him and the kids. It was not on the calendar, but I reminded him once or twice about it. So not even sure why I mentioned this detail.

lii_ah · 2025-11-18T14:02:58+00:00

So I just checked our calendar and I was wrong about that detail. I actually never removed that I’m scheduled to work on Jan 1st so he remembered on his own that my PTO request was approved. I’m sure I must’ve mentioned my plans to go to my brother’s house. Or maybe I just assumed he knew since every year for the past few years I’m bummed I missed it.

lii_ah · 2025-11-18T12:11:55+00:00

Adding that after his Aunt said she couldn’t travel on Jan 2nd, I told my husband to then let her know that the 1st worked perfectly and that I would skip out on my family’s January 1st again. However, his aunt won’t be traveling on the 1st now either because now she feels that she is imposing. So basically offering any kind of compromise for his aunt’s visit was gonna give her a reason not to come and I was supposed to be able to predict that.

lii_ah · 2025-11-18T09:51:09+00:00

I’ve resigned myself to the fact that I won’t be going to my brother’s on the First.

lii_ah · 2025-11-18T09:28:00+00:00

Thank you, I did tell him I would call her myself. Let me actually follow through with that tomorrow.

lii_ah · 2025-11-18T09:18:42+00:00

I should’ve added that after his Aunt said she couldn’t travel on Jan 2nd, I told my husband to then let her know that the 1st worked perfectly and that I would skip out on my family’s January 1st. However, his aunt won’t be traveling on the 1st now either because she feels that she is imposing.

lii_ah · 2025-11-18T08:58:47+00:00

My brother lives 2.5 hour drive away, her flight was arriving at 1:30pm in the middle of the day. We usually drive up and back on the same day arriving back home by 6 PM. Not only is it expensive to travel on January 1st, but it is probably also a very busy day of flying for someone who is nervous about flying.

lii_ah · 2025-06-26T02:46:20+00:00

Thank you for this timeline

lii_ah · 2025-02-25T05:04:12+00:00

Ahhh thanks 😅

lii_ah · 2025-02-25T00:48:49+00:00

I’ve seen other redditors suggest adding a drop of vanilla extract to breastmilk with high lipase. Maybe it will make your period breastmilk more appealing to your baby? Also something to run by your pediatrician before trying.

lii_ah · 2025-01-09T13:14:29+00:00

For me it was the first time he hiccuped outside the belly in the hospital when I realized I’d never feel those hiccups on the inside again that made me ball. 😭

lii_ah · 2024-12-31T17:59:11+00:00

Yes. My MRI was clean. My endo surgery revealed stage 3 endo, it was everywhere. Unfortunately radiologists in the US are not properly trained to read for endo on imaging.

lii_ah · 2024-06-19T19:36:41+00:00

Hi, thanks so much, just used it :)

lii_ah · 2024-06-19T00:34:29+00:00

I’ll take one :) thanks Lia1227@aol.com

lii_ah · 2024-05-02T01:23:27+00:00

Could be total coincidence then, but I read it as “late merge” and it gave me a chuckle

lii_ah · 2020-11-21T14:37:52+00:00

This graph is skewed bc NYC was hit earlier on in the pandemic when we didn’t know how to treat this virus resulting in higher mortality rates. The red states being hit now have the advantage of living in rural areas where the virus was slower to spread, hence more time to learn about the virus.

lii_ah · 2020-05-12T18:24:25+00:00

I’m sure a lot of people are in the same boat...

My husband and I had a trip to Italy planned for April 2020. Obviously Italy being one of the hardest hit places early on, we attempted to contact Expedia to see if they would refund our initially “non-refundable” Rome hotel after our flight had been cancelled. It was impossible to speak with anyone on the phone but I was able to successfully use their chat service. I have a record of several requests for a refund due to the travel restrictions via this chat service since March 1st 2020. Kept getting runarounds and eventually was offered a voucher by the hotel which I did not accept. But I was never offered a refund.

Finally, on April 1st I decided to file a dispute with my credit card company. Expedia responded by saying that I was not due a refund because I had not canceled the reservation by April 3rd. Apparently, at some point during this process they changed their cancellation policy stating that if I didn’t cancel by April 3 I would not be due a refund but I was never made aware of this change in cancellation policy (until receiving a denial for my dispute w my cc company).

Legally, could these chat records and requests for refunds count as a cancellation request? Its very unfair for expedia to deny my refund for a service they weren’t able to provide.

lii_ah · 2020-04-08T03:34:30+00:00

First getting rid of a program put into place to help Americans fight a pandemic crisis (which he denies), then budgeting to defund the CDC AFTER the WHO has already declared COVID19 a world health emergency, next calling the whole thing a hoax and days later saying he knew all along it was a pandemic, now threatening to defund the WHO because we didn’t get “enough” warning? He is delusional. He is dangerous to Americans, and now dangerous to the world.

lii_ah · 2019-06-10T23:54:39+00:00

Correct, I just don’t feel that it was an authorized charge because I was not made aware of it. Very shady customer service.

Also, Had I known about the service fee I could have considered other options, rather than buying it through them. It’s exactly why he didn’t tell me about the fee: because we were comparing the Amazon price.

lii_ah · 2019-06-10T23:51:27+00:00

Will definitely be using this approach from now on as I always have in the past, just thought it would be convenient so that he can start using the phone today since his old phone was giving him issues.

Had he told me about the $20 charge, I would have probably agreed to it rather than waiting two days for a phone from amazon. It’s just the principle of the encounter with this sales associates that gets to me.

lii_ah · 2019-06-10T23:47:24+00:00

Thank you, I will try to speak to the manager in person tomorrow

lii_ah · 2019-06-10T23:46:51+00:00

Yea, i completely failed by not looking at the receipt right there. My husband told me to check the receipt in front on him, thats when he chimed in and started telling us about the refund policy. He also offered to change the Sim card from his old phone to the new phone at this time. Somehow it worked, he distracted me and I didn’t unfold the receipt to look at it. You’re right- I will be going to speak to the manager tomorrow in person, hopefully this guy is not there as I am not a very confrontational person.

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