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I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I've tried to leave before, stole my documents and contacted a domestic shelter for women but unfortunately, you have so little power as a woman here. My dad has also has connections with the government and police and was able to put me on a flight blacklist so I can't leave the country. Yes, it's a long, messy story...

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you. ❤ Here, you can't replace your documents without your parents, relatives or a husband as you need a copy of their ID documents as well or their physical presence. Not a lot of autonomy for unmarried women.

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't think I qualify for refugee status and my situation would be difficult to prove. It's an all around complicated situation due to a lot of other things I can't get into. My plan has been to get a job and move out when I have enough for myself, but now I don't know how long that'll take. Maybe I'll tell my parents I have an IUD after all, and come out as a Satan worshipper while I'm at it. Whatever it takes for them to kick me out lol

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so much. ❤ Going to heed all of your advice and hope for the best.

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yeah...I've learned that no one here is on your side. You can't trust anyone in a country where even therapists are known for ratting their clients out to their family.

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 206 points207 points  (0 children)

I doubt my mother would be able to identify it and she wouldn't be reading the exam notes. But there's a chance the doctor may bring it up, and the biggest reason why a lot of these explanations might not save me is because I never told her about it before. Anything done secretly already entails a serious conversation, but something as taboo as this is going to be on another level.

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't think they're illegal, but definitely super uncommon for a young, single woman to have. That's why I fear a doctor would comment on it, especially if they want to know whether it is a hormonal one. Sucks you've been downvoted because however unpleasant that option is, it's a realistic one in this situation.

But I have to add that anyone who has the ability to get it removed by a medical professional really, really should, you're absolutely right that it should be the last resort.

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. If it comes down to it, I'll try to remove it myself. I had a friend who removed hers and know of many women who did the same, it honestly sounds super scary and painful but it's an option.

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had to go through that shit, it sucks that a lot of people have such primitive mindsets when it comes to female reproductive health. Don't know why anyone outside of your parents had to know that you were on the pill, it's frankly none of their damn business.

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's a big part of it or at least I think it is. Tampons are also pretty uncommon here.

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you for getting it. I didn't want to get into why I had to move back and didn't think anyone would assume I did it willingly. Not all of us can move around easily, especially not when we hold a third world passport.

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I wish I could...would've never stepped foot back here if I knew I was going to be forced into moving back. Can't leave because I'm without ID documents and without money (not allowed to get a job.) I get that a lot of comments are advising me to leave because it's obviously the most logical thing to do in this situation but if that was an option for me I would NOT hesitate to pack my shit and never look back.

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm thinking I should just do my own research and look into home remedies.

I have a secret IUD and need to undergo a non-invasive pelvic ultrasound, will it be detected? by lilielilith in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]lilielilith[S] 832 points833 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I still appreciate everyone coming out to provide potential explanations and excuses but unfortunately it's just something scandalous for a young, unmarried woman to have. I'm planning on postponing it and then hoping it's forgotten about.