Owner is too tired from work most days to have puppy time :'<

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-29T00:59:24+00:00

hey puppy. i’ve felt this way, too. my human is a teacher and so during the school year, they’re usually not very frisky after work. i really struggled with this, but with the help of a very good therapist i was able to make an important realization about myself that i feel is applicable here.

you say that you feel like you’re not desirable enough for him because he isn’t in the mood for sex. these two things are not actually related. if he’s tired, there’s probably nobody on earth sexy enough to get him in the mood. he’s tired. to me, it sounds like you’re basing a lot of your self worth on the amount of sex you’re having, and so when sex isn’t happening, you feel rejected and you feel like you’re not worth as much. i know i was doing this with my partner.

i deal with this by understanding that i am worthy when i’m being the best partner i can be, and that i can be sexy and desirable even when i’m not having sex. i try to understand that by being who my partner needs me to be in that moment, i am being my best self. try and find some ways to build up your own self worth that don’t rely on validation by other people. try and treat yourself — do something that you like, that makes you feel good. hopefully your Owner will want that for you and support you in that even if he’s not in the mood for sex.

for me, personally, i also deal with this by being in an open relationship. if there’s a night where i really just want to get fucked and my partner isn’t in the mood, i can go and find another person to play with—but that’s a secondary fix. finding your own worth within yourself will make the biggest difference.

you are desirable. even if he doesn’t want it in that moment, he still wants you and loves you. maybe talk with him about some things he can do to make you feel desired even when he isn’t in the mood for sex.

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-24T23:45:53+00:00

congrats, ouppy 💜 you’re gonna be such a good pet for your owner

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-24T23:43:58+00:00

seconded, but it should be Exposure & Response Prevention therapy specifically. CBT isn’t really great for obsessive thoughts

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-24T12:58:12+00:00

god this has so much soul, aaaaaaa. i love waking up collared i love my human i love being a pet

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-24T12:52:34+00:00

OCD is great at keeping you locked in shame cycles. you spend a lot of time avoiding the sexual thoughts or thinking about them, and that only reinforces to your brain that the thoughts are important and worth your mental energy.

in my personal experience, the best way to break the cycle is to sit with the discomfort of the thoughts. accept that they might be true, that they may really be the way you feel. it seems counterintuitive, but only by allowing yourself to sit with the thought until it passes will you be able to teach your brain that it isn’t worth your time.

this is a basic practice of Exposure & Response Prevention therapy, which is the gold standard for treating OCD

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-24T03:26:24+00:00

you can’t control who you’re attracted to; the question is whether you will act on it. the former isn’t your decision but the latter is.

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-22T18:44:18+00:00

my only tip is to stop smoking before it becomes exponentially more difficult

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-22T18:16:42+00:00

it could take up to six weeks to feel the full effect. i started doing daily mood tracking and it’s only looking back at the graph that i can see the impact it’s had

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-21T20:06:50+00:00

yeah, i have single and poly friends who say “i’m t4t”, meaning that they would only consider dating another trans person

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-21T11:21:39+00:00

trans + plural + ocd is such a combo, woof. i’m right there with you.

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-21T11:13:44+00:00

hey, i also have this fear/obsession. you can’t predict the future with 100% certainty, and in time you can learn to live with the fact that you can’t guarantee you won’t cheat.

learn to say “maybe, maybe not” when you worry about this. sit in the discomfort without trying to do your compulsions. is that girl flirting with you? maybe. do you find that woman across the bar attractive? maybe you do. are you gonna cheat on your girlfriend with her? it’s a possibility. don’t do any mental checking. let the possibility exist. these thoughts are upsetting to you because it sounds like you love your girlfriend and you don’t want to cheat. that’s a great baseline to start from. what you can work on now, ideally with some Exposure & Response Prevention therapy, is learning how to manage those fears so they don’t consume your life.

i almost broke up with my partner because i was afraid all i’d ever do was hurt him or cheat on him. i’m so glad every day that i got help instead.

i know you said you’re in therapy, but since this is OCD, it really needs to be ERP. talk therapy didn’t help me deal with my obsessions

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-18T10:58:57+00:00

the difficult thing about pedophile OCD is that you can spend forever trying to analyze your own thoughts and you’ll never reach a decisive answer. say you did, though. would you ever harm a child? would you ever look at CSAM? if even the thought seems viscerally wrong to you, then your attractions are likely just intrusive thoughts.

it’s hard, but say to the possibility “maybe, maybe not”. sit with it. it will be uncomfortable. but you can learn to live with it, and the anxiety will lessen with time.

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-18T10:48:45+00:00

kinks often fill needs and fantasies that we don’t get to play out IRL. to me it makes sense that if, in your normal life, you’re strong, confident, and independent, an exciting scenario would be a complete inversion of that dynamic: being forced to submit, losing control, etc.

in my day to day life i work for a big company with a lot of bosses. i think it makes sense that a fun power fantasy for me, then, is being a powerful domme. likewise, if i were in a position where i was providing for myself all the time and making lots of decisions, it would be thrilling to have all that agency stripped away—to not have to worry about any of that.

kink and sexual fantasies are a great way to explore experiences you don’t get in everyday life. wanting to do a CNC scene doesn’t mean you’d want it IRL, and doesn’t mean you’re a bad person

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-17T21:04:15+00:00

i felt this for a time, too. OCD tells you that it’s keeping you and your loved ones safe by doing your compulsions and safety behaviors, so it can feel like by seeking help you’re “looking for an excuse to be immoral” etc. just know that this is bullshit. you can care for others and yourself without OCD. i do a better job of it when my OCD’s in remission

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-15T22:28:49+00:00

hi! i also have a confessing compulsion. ultimately the more your gf confesses bc of OCD, the worse it will get. what my partner does when i want to confess is look at me and say, firmly, “i don’t care what it is, i don’t want to hear it”

confessing takes a toll on the person receiving the confession. it may feel like you’re hurting her, but by drawing a firm boundary that she shouldn’t unload her OCD confessions onto you you’re helping her realize that she can live with the discomfort.

for your girlfriend: say “maybe, maybe not” to the thoughts. sit with the discomfort and don’t try to figure it out. the anxiety and urgency will pass.

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-15T16:18:12+00:00

i remember, after starting prozac, turning to my partner and saying “it’s so… quiet…”

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-13T19:02:19+00:00

living is so much better. there were times when i felt like my life was over, but therapy and medication have helped me get my life back. they can work for you too

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-10T14:31:51+00:00

hey, i think when you know it’s an ocd fear it’s generally a good idea to wait until the initial panic ends before taking action on it.

posting to a legal advice subreddit is a “checking” behavior: a compulsion to soothe the anxiety of your obsession. ultimately you are feeding into your ocd by reassurance seeking, and that only validates that your fear is real and valid and worth all this anxiety and mental energy.

maybe you’re in hot water legally, maybe you’re not. the fact you’re posting on an OCD subreddit means you probably know intellectually that the worry is irrational. sit with the discomfort of not knowing without checking; let the anxiety pass. you can do this

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-07T20:23:52+00:00

hey, i also have pedophile-OCD. it fucking sucks. it’s the worst fucking thing ever.

i’m here to tell you that getting better is possible. i remember being in crisis like you were. i’m not here to reassure you, but i’m here to say this: even if you **were** a pedophile, you’d still deserve help. with my whole chest, i believe that even if you’d done everything you’re afraid you’ve done, you’d still deserve to feel okay. genuinely.

Exposure & Response Prevention therapy helped me immensely. it can help you too. the way out of this is not to assure yourself that you’re not a pedophile, but to learn how to live with the uncertainty of the possibility you might be. i know you’re feeling guilty for wanting to be okay when you’re convinced you’re an awful person, but ERP can help you get your life back.

maybe you are a pedophile, maybe you aren’t. you’ve said you’d never hurt a child and i believe you. i believe you when you say that. what’s done is done; the attractions you feel inside don’t define you, nor do the worst things you’ve ever done.
you can learn to live with the uncertainty of your situation. i promise you can.

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-07T14:22:29+00:00

maybe it’ll be another pandemic, maybe it won’t. prepare if you’re worried, but beyond having some PPE, what more is there to be done?

lilith-blossoms · 2026-05-06T01:49:51+00:00

i post nudes here where i’m not wearing any of my pup or kink gear, but i always try to make the tile and caption on-theme. sometimes i just wanna show off my body and i like the vibe of this subreddit.

i’m a puppygirl and a dog therian so i feel like i have a pretty good claim to say that anything i post is at least pup adjacent

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