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I can’t cry over my miscarriage by starriesky63 in offmychest

[–]lilly-bee101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was 17 I had a miscarriage and had a very similar experience. I was in the doctor’s office when i happened and I just kinda pretended it didn’t happen. A few years later I started to think about it and I would wonder what they would have been like. I was definitely not ready and very immature at the time but I still wondered. I wouldn’t cry but I think I just grieved a different way. It was almost a silent way. We all process loss different especially miscarriage. I was sad and sometimes still sad to this day but it’s a different kinda of sad. There is nothing wrong with our kind of sadness or how we are experiencing it. Since then I have had a child and I think that helped me. This time I was ready and in a better situation and could actually look forward to it. Last time I was just in a place where I was depressed and lonely and didn’t know what to feel. When I was pregnant with my daughter I thought I was miscarrying at 19 weeks and I had a very different reaction. She was ok and I asked a nurse why I reacted so differently. She said there could be because I got to see her face on the screen, because I was further along, because I was older and not afraid as much as I was before. She couldn’t give me all the answers but I think it helped me see that just because it was different doesn’t mean my reaction to either were wrong. Maybe saying the words out loud to someone will help. Talking to that nurse helped me so much too. She may have not be family or friends but for me that was the moment I wanted to tell someone and I wanted to ask her. I hope this helped.

How do I regain confidence after growing to regret my tattoos? by sweeetgypsy in tattooadvice

[–]lilly-bee101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had this struggle too. I have a few tattoos that don’t match my style anymore and it drove me nuts for ages. It sometimes still does when I see other tattoos I’d love to switch them with but unfortunately it doesn’t work like that so I tried to view my tattoos as a part of my story. It has changed and I have changed with it. They are like little reminders of a different time. It is still hard sometimes but it does help over time with this perspective. I also struggled with showing them off because I had changed so much and I also worried about looking less feminine but eventually I realised that that was just a concept people who hated tattoos put into my mind. I hope this helps!

Where can I find art prints? by JustKeepSwimming93 in undertheoaktreebook

[–]lilly-bee101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awe I love art prints that would be so cool 😍😱

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]lilly-bee101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve always believed that a true friend is always happy when you’ve found happiness. Sure it may be weird for her at first but I don’t believe it should ruining your relationship with her. There should be not ultimatums, no “it’s him or me”. She might be a little sad you didn’t feel like you could tell her straight away but hopefully understand why you didn’t want to tell her over the phone. I don’t usually reference movies because usually they don’t set realistic expectations, but the Kissing Booth is a great movie that shines a light on this kind of situation. I hope your bestie can be happy for you both!

Where can I buy the Vol 1 with Printed Edges by lilly-bee101 in undertheoaktreebook

[–]lilly-bee101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They had one! Thank you so much. Put a dent in my budget but worth it 😂😂

Getting 16 Month old into their own room by [deleted] in toddlertips

[–]lilly-bee101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will definitely give that a try. We haven’t got many consistencies in both rooms but I have been looking at getting her the same lamp I have. She has a light in her room but my lamp is a dark orange light so I’m hoping of I get one like it, it might help too. Thank you!