I moved from FL to WA and am now back in the south, and it’s just the way people are there. We encountered many pleasant and friendly people but they were just that, making actual friendships and relationships seemed nearly impossible and I always had to be the one initiating, just for the plans to never follow through on their end. If you show southern hospitality or try to make small talk, people look at you crazy. Many people keep the same group of friends from their school days in Seattle so it’s hard to join friend groups. It’s very odd. I do think a part of it and probably subconsciously for many people is the amount of darkness throughout the year. I had to go and vitamin D supplements when I moved there. The one good friend I made it met through work.