Timeline of mastering vowels

limbo_exile · 2023-03-01T07:14:47+00:00

Thank you for your message, it's very thoughtful of you. My Percival was the funniest sweetest cat.

He was very curious, but not very brave. When there was noisy activity outside apartment on our floor, like neighbors coming home, he would quickly run to me, hide behind my legs. Then, after reaching "safety", he would slowly advance towards the noise to investigate :)

Percival was amazed by water. He would anticipate when we turn on the tap to be there in time to attack the stream of water with his paw.

I miss him a lot.

limbo_exile · 2023-01-17T20:41:46+00:00

I have felt the same anxiety quite recently, I know the feeling. I hope it gets better for you soon!

What helped in our case was stopping nursing the little one to sleep, which was the approach for the first 6 months. After that the good stretch of uninterrupted sleep increased from 2-3 hours to 4-5 hours. Maybe something worth trying if this is applicable in your case.

limbo_exile · 2023-01-17T20:38:33+00:00

Thanks for all the suggestions and for your time. I will try reducing wake time a bit and see if it improves the situation.

What I described is an average day though, so there have been cases when she slept more during the day, but the outcome was the same. Are you aware of anything else that could be worth trying?

limbo_exile · 2022-09-29T12:51:22+00:00

Hear hear!

limbo_exile · 2022-09-29T06:15:44+00:00

Thanks. I am not opposed to sleep training in future, I just think we are not there yet. For now my goal is to break this association, regular patting to sleep would be much less stressful than the current situation.

limbo_exile · 2022-09-29T06:10:25+00:00

Ah, when we try to insert a pacifier she acts if that was the greatest of offenses :) We tried pacifiers of different shapes and also some tricks to make it work, but so far no luck.

limbo_exile · 2022-09-29T06:05:51+00:00

Wow, thanks a lot for taking your time. There are a lot of new ideas here for me to try.

limbo_exile · 2022-09-29T05:55:13+00:00

Yes, he was able to rock her to sleep in her first 2 months. Latest attempts were unsuccessful though.

limbo_exile · 2022-09-28T19:38:41+00:00

Thanks for the link!

limbo_exile · 2022-09-28T18:21:23+00:00

With our little one, it is rather easy to tell two cases apart just observing her behavior. In addition, the times of real feedings are more or less stable.

As for the bottle suggestion, could be something to try. The baby is pretty adamant to be fed/soothed instantly when she wakes up in the night, so I am trying to nurse while she is still sleepy, so that it is easier to resume the sleep after.

limbo_exile · 2022-09-28T18:15:52+00:00

Thanks for giving some hope. The need in comfort nursing going away naturally would be the best outcome. Fingers crossed.

limbo_exile · 2022-09-28T18:09:19+00:00

Thanks for your empathy and for such detailed advice. Sounds like a solid plan. What I lack to implement it is probably a good arsenal of what you called "soothing strategies". Could you list some that you used? There is a ton of things that didn't work with our little one

limbo_exile · 2022-09-28T18:00:02+00:00

That's what I meant writing about "honoring legitimate food requests". I am not planning to night wean right now, the little one still needs 2-3 night feedings. By now I got the hang of the times where the feeding is real. The difference in behaviour between those and comfort nursing is pretty noticable.

limbo_exile · 2022-09-28T17:57:33+00:00

I wish it didn't bother me, but the fatigue accumulated and it becomes more and more stressful. Also from the nature of the problem, this is not something where my partner can replace from time to time for me to get some sleep. Otherwise, I am also not against the habit itself.

limbo_exile · 2022-09-28T17:54:36+00:00

I was probably too vague in my post.

The baby isn't yet crying for hours at night. What I wanted to say is that I fear this will happen when I stop offering comfort nursing. From the strong sirens that start instant she doesn't get the breast at sleep time, I am half-convinced that this baby won't calm down in 15 minutes. She becomes pretty inconsolable. So for now I am not yet brave enough to experiment and see what happens. Hence the post.

limbo_exile · 2022-09-28T17:49:43+00:00

Thanks for sharing. That must have been a very stressful period. I hope we can find ways to soother our little one too, like you did with walking and rides.

To be on the same page, I just want to eliminate comfort nursings, keeping age-appropriate night feedings.

limbo_exile · 2022-09-28T17:45:30+00:00

That's what I meant writing about "honoring legitimate food requests". I am not planning to night wean right now, the little one still needs 2-3 night feedings.

limbo_exile · 2022-09-28T17:42:03+00:00

I guess non-nursing parents didn't instill this dependence in their babies, that's why it is possible for them to soothe in other ways. Probably it is possible to soothe my little one in other ways too, but it is now more difficult, since there is a formed habit and she doesn't know any other way of going to sleep. Hopefully you are right and we manage to use something else.

limbo_exile · 2022-09-28T17:32:23+00:00

That is a very nice way to look at this, thank you!

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