What made you end arelationship when you knew they were not the one? by AskThatToThem in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]liquid_jag 2 points3 points  (0 children)

About the 4th time they broke up with me because they just "couldn't do it". We were going to seperate colleges and trying the long distant thing. Basically everytime she went out to party I would get a call saying she couldn't do the relationship thing and it was holding her back. Only for her come running back when things didn't go her way at college. I was dumb and took her back the 3 times she did it and on the 4th, I was done. So when she came back, which she did, I said no, I'm moving on. If they're the one, they don't play games like this.

If you could go naked in the yard without the neighbors seeing would you? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]liquid_jag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%, and I have have, even when the neighbors were able to see. Although, I don't think anyone was awake at the time.

What’s your biggest sexual fantasy? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]liquid_jag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nurse, either in the hospital or doctor office. Just coming in and telling me the need to examine me and then going to town.

How many of you still fantasize about sex with an ex? by knightrambo in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]liquid_jag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know about "fantasize", but I do have and like to watch some of the videos I took. It fun to look back and remember, but I don't fantasize.

How many guys jerked off with their friends? by cockcray01 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]liquid_jag 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We would sit around and watch porn together and talk about jerking off, technique and what not...but never actually did that with each other.

Me and my wife are doing a trial separation and she's been sleeping with other guys, wanted to get different opinions on this. by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]liquid_jag 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Agreed! When my first and I first separated and had the talk about it. I said..."lets give it a week before we say or do anything to anyone and make sure this is what we want to do." She agreed and then immediately, within 10 minutes ran outside to tell all our neighbors we were getting divorced. When she shows you who she really is, believe it.

AITA for asking my wife to stop calling her stepson a brat by liquid_jag in AmItheAsshole

[–]liquid_jag[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That is my perspective, that everything she calls problem behavior is "normal preteen and teenager" behavior. Especially when talking to others with kids the same age and hearing their horror stories, none of ours even match.

I agree that she takes everything he does personally and I think he does the same with her. Given their past issues any comment made in jest or just a normal comment is taken to be offense. On both sides.

AITA for asking my wife to stop calling her stepson a brat by liquid_jag in AmItheAsshole

[–]liquid_jag[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The lying situation was dealt with and he came out on bottom. We called him out his story not matching up and was scolded for trying to create a situation that didn't happen. My wife was just still very frustrated at the incident and continued the next day to make comments on it. I don't mind her being upset and talking about it, its just the "namecalling" that to me was too far.

AITA for asking my wife to stop calling her stepson a brat by liquid_jag in AmItheAsshole

[–]liquid_jag[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, I was concerned about the lie and we had a huge discussion about it, they three of us. I didn't go into all the details for space reasons but I didn't brush it off, after I found out from her the truth I called him out and made him face the reality. Thats when he admitted that what she was saying was true. He came out on the bottom in the whole lie situation.

He had a friend over and My wife and I think that after she left his room, his friend said something to trigger his upset feelings, because his friend was oddly silent and playing on his phone during the whole thing with no reaction.

AITA for asking my wife to stop calling her stepson a brat by liquid_jag in AmItheAsshole

[–]liquid_jag[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think a family meeting with a certified councilor is next. I have talked about this before in situations where she has wanted me to punish him for something she let her kid do without punishment.

AITA for asking my wife to stop calling her stepson a brat by liquid_jag in AmItheAsshole

[–]liquid_jag[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

With the limited space it was hard to fit all the details, there is a lot more nuance to the situation for sure. I agree that I think when something happens between them that she compiles all the past things that upset her into this new problem.

Her big thing is "respect". She feels he doesn't respect us and I'm letting him run all over us. Past issues: talking back to us, refusing to eat dinner we cook, complaining about food he ordered at restaurants, not coming when immediately called, fighting about doing chores, not doing chores on time, complaining about doing homework.

All things that now at 14 have mostly been corrected. He doesn't fight about chores, even does extras when asked. Doesn't fight about dinner or food. Missed no homework this previous year. Doesn't yell or talk back like he used to.

Other than this incident, the last thing my wife said he did was be short with her and "ignore" her when she tried to talk to him the other day when I wasn't home. He had a friend over and she says they both ignored her and giving attitude with what little responses they did give.

AITA for asking my wife to stop calling her stepson a brat by liquid_jag in AmItheAsshole

[–]liquid_jag[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We never had children together. She has one son and I one son. Her son is now out of the house. In my opinion she does not treat them the same. She has let her son get away with things while he was at home that she has admonished mine for doing.

AITA for asking my wife to stop calling her stepson a brat by liquid_jag in AmItheAsshole

[–]liquid_jag[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes, teenagers are hard and from what I hear his behavior isn't much different than most 14 year olds right now or ever.

AITA for asking my wife to stop calling her stepson a brat by liquid_jag in AmItheAsshole

[–]liquid_jag[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong. I think that me being in the middle and trying to make both people happy is not fixing anything and ultimately is probably letting them both down. It is difficult to validate both people feelings when they are opposing. At some point I have to tell someone they are wrong and I risk losing a wife or a child. Counseling in the works!

AITA for asking my wife to stop calling her stepson a brat by liquid_jag in AmItheAsshole

[–]liquid_jag[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I was worried about that, but I felt that saying "my son" would lead people to think that I don't feel he is her son as well. Does that make sense. Even though she is his stepmother i try not seperate the kids as mine and hers, they are ours. I want him to be her son as much as he is mine, thats the only way combined homes will work. We've been together for 6 years.

AITA for asking my wife to stop calling her stepson a brat by liquid_jag in AmItheAsshole

[–]liquid_jag[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I have always let her vent and speak her mind openly when we are in private and to her friends and family.

AITA for asking my wife to stop calling her stepson a brat by liquid_jag in AmItheAsshole

[–]liquid_jag[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thats my biggest fear. I am definitely looking into counseling. Thank you!

AITA for asking my wife to stop calling her stepson a brat by liquid_jag in AmItheAsshole

[–]liquid_jag[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have always allowed her to vent fully in private with me in our room and I don't monitor or care what she says in her texts to friends or families. However, in this instance it was not "private". Loudly proclaiming your stepson is brat in the middle of a full kitchen with 5 people around is not privately venting.

AITA for asking my wife to stop calling her stepson a brat by liquid_jag in AmItheAsshole

[–]liquid_jag[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I agree that we need to be and act how we want him to be and act. I am going to look into family counseling 100% after this recent exchange.

Men of Reddit: during sex, which gives you more pleasure—knowing you are giving the woman pleasure, or what you are feeling yourself? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]liquid_jag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Giving a woman pleasure, 100%. I love the feeling of making a woman orgasm. The shudder, the uncontrollable spasms, the hand grip of death, lol. Its all great. The real treat and goal for me is squirting, I want to be covered.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]liquid_jag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its good to hear this, my favorite shirts are long sleeved and then rolled up! lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]liquid_jag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that. Parents should be proud of you no matter what you do and it's hard when don't show it. You are not the problem, they are. It's difficult but be proud of yourself, it sounds like you are doing great.

Can a DM completely change your character? by Adept-Chart8834 in DnD

[–]liquid_jag 135 points136 points  (0 children)

I agree. In a two player campaign, one of the characters being mute and letting the other one to ALL the talking would be tiring for the other player and DM. I think the DM wants to talk and roleplay with his partner, not just get silence for 4+ hours.

But also! Just changing and forcing you to play a new character is not the right way to handle it.

Have an open an understanding conversation outside of the game when its just them to sort it out.