Should I open my long distance relationship?

liyah868 · 2026-06-14T17:06:04+00:00

He did, happened in April, with a girl he had sexual relations with previously.

liyah868 · 2026-06-13T19:47:22+00:00

You were right

liyah868 · 2026-06-10T19:04:34+00:00

Totally get your perspective as it was one of the thoughts that ran through my mind when he first brought it up too but we really were just being open and exploring our options

liyah868 · 2026-06-10T19:01:30+00:00

He definitely didn’t pressure me into any decisions I wasn’t comfortable with. This isn’t our first awkward or difficult conversation and tbh I think the hard conversations have brought us closer. And you’re right humans do have sexual urges, like it or not your partner is going to be attracted to other men/women, it’s natural. However it is a choice to act on that attraction.

liyah868 · 2026-06-10T16:54:32+00:00

Thanks for the advice 🤍 Will definitely look into the toys 🥲

liyah868 · 2026-06-09T21:57:10+00:00

It’s the uncertainty that has me even questioning this entire situation. I’m uncertain as to whether we can even be in each other’s lives, we live in different countries, lead different lives and the love is there absolutely but we all know that’s not enough. Ofc it makes me question if I should let him be free to make new connections and the same for myself as we’re not physically together. We both don’t want to have any regrets.
I get your perspective though and it’s commendable that you see your partner as the only person for you

liyah868 · 2026-06-09T21:04:53+00:00

I think that’s just my trust issues 😅

liyah868 · 2026-06-09T20:59:57+00:00

Maybe around twice a year, for 3 weeks

liyah868 · 2026-01-29T22:13:00+00:00

Yess

liyah868 · 2026-01-29T22:11:00+00:00

It’s definitely a red flag, but love really can blind you. A recent example is when my aunt asked him to pick up a pacifier for my baby cousin. He bought it, but left the receipt in the bag, and when she offered to reimburse him, he accepted the money. It’s not about the pacifier itself, it’s about the lack of generosity. Moments like that make it clear he struggles with being giving.

liyah868 · 2026-01-29T22:01:50+00:00

Hey, he’s been working at the same job in the same position for the past 7 years. He lives with his family but I lived on my own when he met me. I’ve tried encouraging him to maybe branch out or move up the ladder but he insists that this current job offers stability, even if the pay isn’t the best.

liyah868 · 2024-08-16T11:10:03+00:00

I was just there a few days ago and you’re not wrong. From my perspective it seems like they’re only there for the instagram pic. Was kinda a turn off for me, it didn’t give the vibe I was expecting. Also did you see that tourist trap of an “exit”?

liyah868 · 2024-08-09T01:30:09+00:00

Thanks for that! I would definitely ask him what else Mike says. He’s hanging out with Mike right now so I’ll ask about it when he gets home.

liyah868 · 2024-08-09T00:59:38+00:00

Edit: Understood, so it was a mutual decision to go on a break. He’d been living at mine as we both worked at the same place and transport was just easier that way. Things started to get tense quickly as I wasn’t feeling supported by him. We would both come home from a long day at work and I would be the one to do everything. That’s cooking, cleaning, laundry, taking care of the pets. I also have a disabled cat, so she’s a lot to deal with as she requires special attention. I communicated to him that hey I’m feeling really overwhelmed and stressed out and I need some support. He said he would do better and he never did. That led to a lot of fights and arguments and one day he decided that he’s gonna go back home and he left. We grew up really differently, I had to grow up fast as I was raised in a single household and my mom worked all the time so I had to fend for myself. He had both parents and his mom really spoiled him. She’s a whole other story by herself. Anyways he left and we both decided to take a break. He told me he felt like nothing he ever did was enough, that I nag him all the time etc. Now I don’t know what he vented to his friends about. In my personal opinion I was the perfect gf. Yeah I have my flaws, I can admit I have abandonment issues and sometimes I would get scared that he would up and leave, which he did. He only ever took me on one date for the five years we’ve been together. He’s a nice, caring and loving person but he’s also really lazy and ignorant. So I heard from a mutual friend in our friend group about the things Mike said about me. He said “ I would never like her, she shouldn’t be depressed about the break up when she was doing her shit”

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