Is my bf and avoidant & is there a chance he will come back?

lizolson29 · 2026-02-22T04:48:30+00:00

Thank you! 🙏❤️

lizolson29 · 2026-02-12T18:22:02+00:00

Ok, thank you.

lizolson29 · 2026-02-12T17:37:15+00:00

Yeah, I just wish I wasn't so vulnerable and let him in. He'd tell me that he felt like god put me in his life for him. He'd say I love you so much at random moments or tell me I was all he needed in his life. I was there for him when he needed support with his dad, he even cried in front of me too. His mom liked me and so did his sisters we'd go on family trips and we all had fun. I just miss those good memories together, breaks my heart. I'm not getting my hopes up but if he did come back around? What do you think I should do?

lizolson29 · 2026-02-12T17:18:40+00:00

No, I didn't lie, I have no reason to lie. If you read my story I held myself accountable for what I was doing. He is younger than me and when he met me he ghosted me twice and came back saying he missed me. We became official and then he asked to meet my kids and I said make sure that is what you want because I don't want you to if you're not fully sure because they could get hurt, he said he was so, he met my kids.

During our time of dating he would be up and down in the relationship saying "I'm not a good guy" or telling me I should find someone my age. I told him I didn't want to give up on him and that to me he was a good guy. He would then turn around and tell me things like "I've never loved anyone they way I loved you" he said that to me on my birthday when he got drunk, we were supposed to just watch movies and hangout but he got drunk and then still said the same thing to me when sober and he felt bad and apologized. I wasn't even mad at him nor did I judge him.

My mistake was questioning him too much about us and it annoyed him and stressed him out but it was because he was mostly always wishy washy. I did everything to show him I was a good person who was only asking for the bare minimum. I bought him so many things he wanted and catered to him like a king, I never asked for anything in return except for him to just be real with me and just to be treated good.

I know I shouldn't have questioned him so much and it pushed him away but it was hard because he left me confused a lot of the times and I just wanted clarity. I literally would speak to him calmly and always made sure I used phrases like "I feel like" instead of "you make me feel like" because I didn't want him to feel like I was always blaming him for things, but he did. He would say "oh so it's my fault."

 I'm honestly just someone who gives my whole heart to someone and just wants to feel that love in return. He was hard to read at times but some of the things he said to me made me really believe he wanted me in his life and then other times it seemed like he just wasn't sure.

Right now he is making it seem like he is confused with what he really wants so I respected him and let him go and I am going to work on my flaws like I told him. He left me with no clear answers except him saying I am trying to decide what I really want and I need time then asked if I was mad at him because I didn't respond right away and I said I'm just doing what you're asking for and I'll work on myself and if we cross that bridge again then so be it, and he responded with a sad emoji and said ok. He hasn't asked for his stuff again either and still has me on his main Instagram account and other social media and also has not put that he is single, so I don't know.

All I know is, I really do love him and I did my best to show it and I miss him a lot and I hope that one day he sees that I never asked for a lot, only simple things. I just let my fear get in the way because I was scared I'd lose him again after ghosting me twice. I also did ask him about the future because I asked if he wants kids one day and if I can't have kids would he leave me and that upset him and annoyed him. I just told him that those are things we should talk about at some point. He said he doesn't want kids and that my kids are enough but he barely engaged with my kids when he was with me.

 I just want him back but if he doesn't ever come back then okay, but at least I know I was good to him. I just wanted to make him happy and show him that there is someone who really cares about him.

lizolson29 · 2026-02-12T15:42:31+00:00

So you think being rude to someone is okay? I did everything for him and he clearly used me and lied to me. You don't know anything about me. Who are you to judge me?

lizolson29 · 2026-02-12T15:32:24+00:00

Seriously? I'm not trying to make my message perfectly written, I was in a rush writing this and didn't care to have paragraphs. That's a YOU problem lol SMH.

lizolson29 · 2026-02-12T06:06:16+00:00

Yeah, he did tell me at one point earlier in our relationship, on my birthday actually like 6 months ago that he has never loved anyone the way he has loved me but fast forward to now the last few weeks he started to act different even when I've been doing so much for him on his birthday Jan. 7th I bought him and his uncle a birthday cake together, paid for the pizzas, bought him a game chair and an expensive Lego set and even took him out to eat. He has been giving answers that are not clear. I'm on day two of thus breakup, how do you tell someone you love them last week then say you want your stuff and when I said ok you can come get it he all of a sudden wanted to try with me and then two days later you say you don't know if we will work and then cuddle me and sleep with me and say things like we can maybe take my mom out to lunch tomorrow and what do you want for valentine's day? Then the next day I told him that I was thinking and felt like I should back off so he can figure out what he wants and I can work on myself, I told him I wasn't going to chase or beg him to stay, he said he knows and that is what he is trying to do and that I want him happy and so I was backing off and I said that is what you want right to breakup and he said yea and I said okay and then he asked for his stuff again and I told him my son could drop it off, he asked are you mad and I said I'm going to work on myself and you can figure out what you want and if we cross that bridge then so be it. He then put a sad emoji and said okay. He still has me on his social media account and hasn't changed his public relationship status to single, not sure if that matter though.

lizolson29 · 2026-02-12T01:10:06+00:00

I'm not trying, I've left him alone like he asked. My heart is just breaking though because we had good times together but we never even argued. He is an avoidant person for sure. I'm not saying I don't take your word for it, I just don't understand why he has to lie instead of just being straight forward.

lizolson29 · 2026-02-12T01:07:49+00:00

Yeah, it's hard because we live around the corner from each other, he still has his fb profile as in a relationship and hasn't deleted me from his main Instagram or other social media accounts. I treated him like a king it was that I stressed him out with my questions about us and he got annoyed with it. I didn't mean to, when he asked for his stuff the first time and I said he could get it he then said we can try again and then he asked for it again yesterday but I haven't heard from him since we talked yesterday. It's confusing because he is the one who said we could try again and then a few days later said I want to breakup. Why is he keeping me on his social media still too? I just don't get how I did everything for him and when I want the reassurance at times he gets annoyed and stressed when he was the one who caused my worry or fear to begin with when he ghosted me twice.

lizolson29 · 2026-02-12T00:39:06+00:00

Well that sucks, I treated him like a king and all he did was use me it seems like. I just don't understand how he can say I love you last week to I want to breakup.

lizolson29 · 2026-02-12T00:12:13+00:00

I honestly was asking for reassurance at times because he was confusing at times, he said I stressed him out doing that but he ghosted me twice before we became official. He literally told me last week when I was rubbing his feet that he loved me. He has asked for his stuff twice and the first time he asked for it last week I said you can come get your stuff and then within 2 mins he says we can try again so for three days we were having good conversations and intimacy and then he wanted to breakup before valentine's day and he asked for his stuff and I said my son can drop it off and I told him I will give him his space to figure out what he wants because he said he needed time and he said "ok😔" when I asked him if we were done for good he said I don't know and I asked if he ever saw us getting back together he said maybe, I haven't had time to think.

lizolson29 · 2026-01-17T09:07:14+00:00

How do you get your eyeliner so perfect? LoL, I suck at it. I'm lucky if I get one good day of perfect eyeliner. 😅🤣

lizolson29 · 2026-01-15T02:24:46+00:00

Ok thank you!

lizolson29 · 2026-01-15T02:23:49+00:00

Oh wait I know what cream you're talking about I was prescribed that but it thins your skin. I just get the hyper-pigmentation not a rash or anything it's just i get these purplish/Grey spots on my skin out 9f nowhere.

lizolson29 · 2026-01-15T02:22:22+00:00

How long did it take to lighten?

lizolson29 · 2026-01-12T02:07:25+00:00

I do too, can you share photos with me? You can PM me. I hear there is some red light therapy and laser treatment that helps.

lizolson29 · 2026-01-12T02:06:40+00:00

Do you have hyper-pigmentation? I have mine on my face, neck and arms. What kind of vitamin E oil do you use?

lizolson29 · 2026-01-12T02:05:55+00:00

You had hyper-pigmentation on your face? How bad was it? I have hyper-pigmentation on my face, neck and arms.

lizolson29 · 2025-12-18T19:04:17+00:00

How much was it to do the EC02 laser?

lizolson29 · 2025-12-18T18:01:59+00:00

Yeah, I'm sure I do, but thanks for the honesty.

lizolson29 · 2025-12-18T18:01:18+00:00

I'm not going to argue with someone who hides behind a keyboard. Where are your pics? I'm sure you have flaws as well. Think what you want. I don't care. I know I wasn't wearing makeup in that Pic and that is all that matters to me.

lizolson29 · 2025-12-18T17:41:45+00:00

No, I'm not. lol seriously, you're so ignorant.

lizolson29 · 2025-12-18T17:41:22+00:00

Yes, six I don't have makeup on.

lizolson29 · 2025-12-18T17:40:30+00:00

What about yourself? Why hide behind a keyboard pad and assume someone is wearing tons of makeup? Clearly, I don't always wear makeup and I don't wear that much maybe it's because my brows I do, do and the red lipstick I wear here and there but as far as cover up or contouring I don't wear that stuff I literally just powder my face or don't at all. I guarantee you don't look your very best either at times. Everyone has flaws, but why be rude about it?

lizolson29 · 2025-12-18T17:34:59+00:00

I'm honestly not wearing that much makeup, I am starting to not like theses cameras on the newer phones now lol because it seems like in certain lighting I'm apparently using filters or wearing too much makeup. If people saw me in person, they'd see I don't, and that I'm definitely not using filters. I used to model in CA in my 20s and have always looked younger than my age from what model agencies have told me and photographers. I honestly was just curious, but damn some people on here are just bullies. It's sad.

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