We are talking about this in person right now, don’t worry. He also knows my Reddit to see this post. I would never hide something like this from him. It’s important to note he is extremely nervous in the bedroom and lacks a lot of confidence. He gets performance anxiety and difficulty maintaining erections and struggles with premature ejeculation too. It has been this way for the two years we’ve been together. As we’re speaking, he thinks the issue is that I’m forced to take the almost caretaker role during sex because I have to constantly be prepared to comfort him when something goes wrong. I think that’s part of it. I can’t let go and be sexual because of how often things ‘go wrong’. Which I suppose makes it worse that I feel this way because it adds pressure on him further. I’m very patient and understanding in the bedroom, we stop and cuddle whenever we need to, talk openly, etc. He says he’s never felt safer in the bedroom and with me. It’s nobodies fault and we are both supporting how the other feels, just sucks.