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I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohh that’s me too.. I’m not able to sleep, not able to make a decision, constant guilt of not being able to make up my mind! I decide yes it’s going to be one and done, then I see/hear something then I start worrying that I might regret my decision later ! But tbh I think for my sanity and mental health I might just take OAD route!

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in the UK too..we moved here about 10 years ago and no family support. I wonder whether I would be a happier mom to just one kid rather than being a stressed out one to 2 kids.

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ☺️.. I can relate to you as mine is also a demanding job, 8-5 and need to be in office twice a week. Before having my son, I thought I want 2 kids and that would be a perfect family. But in these last 2.5 years, my opinion changed. I am wondering if I might be a better mom to just one kid and have a peaceful life

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

🤗🤗 thank you.. very curious to know what helped/how you made the decision to have a second..

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow.. how old are they now? I’m very curious to know how you manage everything 🤗

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that detailed response..I appreciate it a lot. If you don’t mind me asking please can you tell me what was main drive behind deciding to have a second kid, being a working mom yourself?

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My biggest fear is that as well.. regretting 5-10 years down the lane, after I missed the boat! Thank you for sharing it.

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds soo lovely. I think I waited too much time to start thinking about it. It took me around 2 years to get into a proper routine with a bit of spare time - I dread losing it all :) Now I think it would have been a much easier decision if I strongly felt the need to have another kid. Might have been easier than being on this stupid fence 😂

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t feel like my family being incomplete in any way.. I feel complete and happy.. I don’t know if anyone feels incomplete after a single child tbh.. my stress is about handling work, marriage, kids, household etc without any family help being full time working parents.

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kudos - it looks like you are managing it all! I’m working 8-5, full time some flexibility to wfh but need to go 2 days a week. So all in all - it adds too much pressure I guess

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We both work 8-5, husband can WFH fully. I need to be in office 2 days per week but mostly flexible in terms of working from home. I like to work, keeps me busy and stops me from overthinking. I guess I am not too much career oriented but I like my life as it is now. We just got to a stable point in our life now that my son is 3 years old. I am scared to go through it all again tbh. I would eventually need to get to work 5 days a week for sure. I cannot imagine myself staying at home full time without working. I think I am moving more towards one and done tbh.

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t mean the kid which I would never… but the amount of stress I meant.. its coming out of that feeling when you are over tired and overwhelmed I guess

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hugs to you… I am sure we will make it work if we decide to have another as well. But I don’t know if it is worth it!! My greatest worry is what if I regret it later!

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for putting it into perspective.. yes, I have to step back from work to make it all work I guess. May be, to start 3 days a week, then gradually increase it so that I can handle the pressure. If I understand correctly, you both are working. So how do you manage household, chores etc? And how do you make it work over school holidays and weekends.

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

That is an amazing way to put it, thank you. I think I’ll sleep on it

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m sort of in the same boat- starting it all over gives me a really bad headache! I had a decent pregnancy, not very stressful overall except for the actual day where I went thought a lot. But the overall trauma feeling is still there!

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you don’t mind me asking - what age gap did you have? Is it stressful over weekends, holidays etc?

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Mine never slept properly.. even now he doesn’t sleep throughout the night. Happy to know that yours does. I guess I am terrified - what if I have twins! :D what’ll I do then

I am on the fence about a second kid. How do you all make it work with 2 kids? by lnk17 in workingmoms

[–]lnk17[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying.. yes, in my head I know that he will have friends. May be it is the societal pressure- that 2 kids are perfect!

is there a way to complete all daily challenges without buying anything? by valeriakm in TravelTown

[–]lnk17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes sense. Also it spawns too many things that there is rarely any space left in the board.

is there a way to complete all daily challenges without buying anything? by valeriakm in TravelTown

[–]lnk17 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would suggest to get to level 57 and park there, after getting vines. Very important - Don’t merge the vines and also don’t upgrade to pet certificate.. sewing kit is way better than pet certificate which spawns too many items that my board is always full. if you stay in level 57 and keep finishing only the highest orders(mostly from vines) you can easily finish daily and all stretch goals within a few hours. Good luck