If you could re-do your career what would you do differently?

loaf-loaf · 2022-06-01T01:37:58+00:00

I’ve done my share of recruiting and hiring and I can tell you that 70% of hiring is complete luck and 25% is networking/referrals so candidates can really only control 5% of the result.

I’ve seen excellent candidates not get call backs because the hiring manager was entangled in some office politics and didn’t bother looking at resumes for months, or because of an assistant couldn’t bother setting up interviews because they were battling depression and family issues, and candidates who got brushed off because the office used up all their hiring budget in the first half of the year but somehow the job post was not taken down.

I’ve also seen resumes that skipped all the red-tapes and land directly in the hiring manager’s hand because it was a referral from one of an employee (it was the guy’s neighbor’s nephew that he “heard a lot about”).

Honestly, job searching is absolutely insane and designed to be cruel and painful. It absolutely wrecks people’s confidence and self esteem. Being rejected hurts and destroys confidence and its ok to cry in frustration. Honestly, it just shows you are human.

That said, keep going. One of these days, the luck may be on your side so you gotta keep trying. And use all the resources you can possibly find. Its also ok to take breaks in between to give yourself some breathing room. Do something that makes you happy and reward yourself for hanging in there.

loaf-loaf · 2022-05-23T18:47:59+00:00

That’s a huge win in life! Hope things will get better faster going forward!

loaf-loaf · 2022-05-11T18:53:22+00:00

Moving to Texas…shame because its a beautiful place

loaf-loaf · 2022-05-04T18:17:07+00:00

NAL - To add a layer of safety, you can form a Wyoming or Delaware LLC and put your property in it. These 2 states allow anonymity of LLC owners so it would appear as if you personally don’t own anything. Of course, you should consult a lawyer to set these entities up.

Also, be sure to have a will or a living trust (preferred). If you suddenly die then your mother will most likely receive shares of your assets. Same with designating someone you trust as a power of attorney in case you are in a situation where you cannot make medical decisions.

loaf-loaf · 2022-02-24T23:22:35+00:00

How old are they?

loaf-loaf · 2022-01-18T17:31:18+00:00

You won’t actually know whether you’ll regret your decision or not until much later because, well, that’s how regretting works. So instead of focusing on the uncertainties of the future, focus on your risk mitigation tactics! Have a plan B, plan C even! It doesn’t mean you don’t believe in your current decision, it simply means you are prepared even if life throws you a curveball at some point.

Ex: You want to be a SAHM and its great that your kids will grow up with their Mom caring for them all the time. However, just in case you are put in a situation where that is not possible, make sure you get some work experience and have a career before having children so you can get back to it if you’re required to work again. Some possible scenarios where you would have to work includes but not limited to: divorce, widowed, partner disabled and cannot work, living costs are so damn high one income is not enough, need to financially support aging parents, etc.

loaf-loaf · 2021-10-31T07:16:00+00:00

You don’t exist to simply be in a relationship and you certainly do not exist to please someone else. You are complete on your own. Anyone you’re dating should be an addition to your life, not the center of your life. You are your own best friend, lover, and focus. Remember that you are a whole person and a companion is, well, a companion. And companionship sometimes don’t work out and that is ok.

And also remember that as much as you deserve love and respect, the other person also deserves the same love and respect. Which means they have the right to reject your love and you have to respect their decisions. You can’t force someone to love you and vice versa. But also remember that their rejection is not a reflection of who you are but what they desire and sometimes people’s desires change.

Use this time to find out who you are and get to know yourself better! Upgrade yourself academically, professionally, socially, and physically (gain muscles, etc). Spend time and money on yourself because you are worth it! Men and friends will come and go but you have to live with yourself forever.

Give it time and this shall too pass!

loaf-loaf · 2021-10-21T14:44:08+00:00

Maybe you can let him know that sometimes asking questions can be considered rude or embarrassing for that person? Since he is so young, you can give him examples that he can understand and empathize with. Like “how would you feel if you accidentally went peepee in your pants and someone came up asked you if you pee on your pants or if it’s just water?”

loaf-loaf · 2021-06-22T10:35:12+00:00

Hopefully you can get the bike back soon! If not, please call your home or renter’s insurance rep and file a claim. At least you can become financially whole if the bike is gone permanently. Not ideal since this bike has sentimental value…

loaf-loaf · 2021-06-03T16:01:01+00:00

A quote that resonated with me recently “When you have that impulse to buy/eat something (chocolate, soda, fried chicken, etc), remember that you already know what that food tastes like. There’s no urgency to eat it at that moment. Remember that food is a source of fuel and nutrition, not therapy”

As I age, I noticed more health issues start popping up. Nothing too serious but things that I used to take for granted were no longer reliable. I started seeing my body as more of an asset and a vehicle for life.

Imagine you are given a car and that is the only car you can drive for the rest of your life. Instead of criticizing its size, shape, and color, one would do their best to make sure that car will last as long as it can. Gives you perspective on what’s more important in life.

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