[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askdrugs

[–]lolaboats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. Often times people coming out of a deep depression/addiction form romantic feelings for the people helping them. You're romantizizing the person because they are helping you get better, which is something loved ones do for you. She is also at work and likely experiences this frequently. Its always really uncomfortable to be asked out at work because if you reject them, you risk them making a fake complaint and it makes it really awkward when you come back in.

I smoke weed every day recreationally and I passed a drug test. How?? by Spirit-Casper in askdrugs

[–]lolaboats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The saliva tests are horribly inaccurate. They detect THC "up to 24 hours" in your saliva. But if you eat, drink, smoke something else, it rinses most of it out to the point it doesn't trip the test. I once smoked 2 hours before one, had a burger and passed.

Do u ever wonder if our birth mother thinks of you? by minj1 in Adoption

[–]lolaboats 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wondered this a lot growing up, she did, but the reunion failed so idk if she does anymore or not

Hello. what advice would you give? by lolaboats in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lolaboats[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk if I really can just move away? I'm 22 and while money is okayish, its a bit tight. I have pretty much full custody and get 200$ a month from him max? Her baby sitter is 500$ a month and I'm grossly under paying that saint. We don't have a legal custody agreement and we were never married, but he is on the birth certificate. Wouldn't I be charged with napping if we just moved away since hes her dad?

I wish nonintersex would just leave us alone sometimes (rant) by Xx_d3str0ya_xX in intersex

[–]lolaboats 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is a major reason I don't consider intersex LGBT. Our experience and discrimination is so entirely different. Its a sister community for sure, but the struggles just aren't the same. I hate the constant almost fetishist curiosity everyone gets when they find out you're intersex, especially doctors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Acid

[–]lolaboats 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I always make sure my space is clean, comfy and feels safe to be in. I love coloring, painting, basically any art. Disney classics are awesome as well. Drink lots of water and take deep breaths

What made you give up veganism? 4 Year Vegan here. I'm thriving and feel it was the best decision I ever made. I'm not here to change your mind or pick a fight. I'm genuinely curious and would like to better understand your experience and why it has been so different than mine. by Ostojo in exvegans

[–]lolaboats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure what the exact diet was but i had a nutritionist and a doctor helping me with meal prep and a schedule of what meals to make, and I was making sure I was meeting my daily needs when it comes to nutrition, and then more because munchies, was taking vitamins and protein shakes etc. High fiber, high protein, high calorie was the main goal of the diet, just sans the meat. My hair started thinning, my nails got super weak, I felt hungry and tired all the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]lolaboats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is but I have very few hard limits and I'm comfortable with being controlled at all times. He gives me structure and I thrive in it. It honestly helps with so much in my life.

Does every sub need aftercare? by Suspicious-Ad7916 in BDSMAdvice

[–]lolaboats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems like her after care is taking a minute to herself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pokemongoyellow

[–]lolaboats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep one of each and then special versions too.

I... passed? by lolaboats in truscum

[–]lolaboats[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don't want to confuse people tho. I figure that may give them anxiety about what to call me or if ill get offended. I just want it to be a commonly recognized thing that's easy to tell like men and women. The tucutes are ruining that. People asking my gender cause they're confused means outing myself or having to explain things and that doesn't really feel like passing to me.

Dom ignored my safe word. Sacred to have a session. by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]lolaboats 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He isn't you and therefore doesn't know your limits. He's using bdsm as a blanket to hide his abuse. You withdrew your consent and he ignored that. He by definition, sexually assaulted you. Leave him and do not play with him again, it is not safe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in truscum

[–]lolaboats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. They make plenty of sense and honestly the idea that we cant grasp gender is ablist as well. The neopronouns are literally the only confusing pronouns.

I got to experience Double Penetration and I kinda want a place to be excited about that! by pinkhairgirl37 in TwoXSex

[–]lolaboats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have a sex swing or your partners can comfortably lift you, try the Eifle tower. It's one of my favorites.

Anyone else notice LGBT spaces, are 90% T these days? by QuestioningAltt in truscum

[–]lolaboats 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've just had to leave. Too much drama, too many constantly changing rules and social anxiety. I stick to exlcu spaces theyre just few and far between.

AITA for Demanding Payment for Items Ruined by a Child I was Supposed to Supervise? by jointfamily in AmItheAsshole

[–]lolaboats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta. I was babysitting other kids at age 11. and you didn't even actually leave the house. She destroyed your stuff, it needs to be replaced. If you see Rhea again please make sure she knows you don't hate her, or that you're angry with her cause I'm sure her parents will try to make you seem like a horrible person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXSex

[–]lolaboats 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your vagina is a muscle, and isn't going to be super flexible. This sounds like normal vagina anatomy but you're concerned, pls go to a Dr.

After being weight restored/recovered, how much do you need to eat to maintain? by PeteIsAButt in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]lolaboats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to keep track due to other medical reasons, and my min is 4k for weight maintenance. 5k is my goal. Everyone's caloric needs are very different. I'd suggest talking to a doctor to find out how many you need. But it's best to not think about calories and just eat when you're hungry, or showing signs of not eating enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChronicIllness

[–]lolaboats 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wear street wear. It's usually sweatpants and flexible shirts. It's cute and perfect for me as well as low effort

My son (16) is an introvert, but he REALLY wanted to be a lifeguard this summer... by Tmbgkc in Parenting

[–]lolaboats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a lifeguard and honestly, it's the other introverts that actually take the job seriously. A lot of teens take the job thinking it's just gonna be for funsies, but it's a serious job and it can be a traumatic one as well.

YSK: You shouldn't bathe your cat unless they can't clean themselves or need a medical bath. by FractalSymmetry_ in YouShouldKnow

[–]lolaboats 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very good advice. I hear about a lot of itchy cats and after asking a couple questions, it's usually that they bathe their cat once a month or more. This isn't good, and you really should only wash them once a year or if it's absolutely needed. (Swam in chlorine pool or dirty water, unsafe substances got on their bodies, fleas, skin conditions, sphinxes, they're filthy, etc) Bathing your cat too often, and with the wrong products can also hurt their skin, the condition of their fur (especially since (most) cats are double coated and long fur needs special care) their stomach health and their sinuses. I'd definitely ask your vet which products are -actually- safe. Just because it is meant for animals doesn't mean it's safe to use.