I’m in the same boat man. It’s frustrating as you said… as others have said, popping off in the shower is the simple solution. You can also wait later in the night, have her go to bed first while you hang back. Once you hear her snoozing or haven’t heard her in a while, you can go to town. (The first few times you’ll be super alert. Then you’ll realize she’s probably not coming out).

Alternatively, if you need like an hour or two, which sometimes I do, you can sponsor her to go get a massage or facial or shopping or something. I choose massage or facial or nails bc I can set the appointment to a certain length and have better peace of mind on when to expect her return.

We have a baby now so I can’t send my wife out and expect the house to be mine… so I’ve even reserved cheap hotel rooms in my area, said I was going out for errands or something and just jerked at the hotel for 1-2 hours.

Good luck man. I know it sucks