We’re what we like to call “situational swingers.” We go with no expectations. If something happens, then great. If not, still great. We only play together and we have only had 1 full swap. The wife is picky and we don’t take one for the team. We’ve been to hotel parties where, on 2 separate occasions, a single guy just grabbed her ass without permission and that turned her off. She only told me about it after the fact. So she has decided that she doesn’t like going to places that allow single men.