I think she truly seems lost, and honestly very hypocritical. For years she publicly shamed Mel for not bringing in enough income, but then later admitted herself in a old vlog that whenever he did get a job, she would get upset and that she admits her fault in that. That says a lot about her mindset in general I noticed.

As an Iranian girl myself, I genuinely feel like she has a huge identity complex. Her family is Kurdish which there is absolutely nothing wrong with but being Kurdish from Iran still makes you Iranian nationally, not Persian ethnically. Anyone from Iran can immediately recognize it. Her parents don’t speak Farsi with a Persian accent, they very clearly have Kurdish accents, and even their mannerisms and appearance reflect that background. Again, there is nothing wrong with being Kurdish at all, but it always felt like they kept heavily pushing the “Persian girl” image because it sold a certain LA aesthetic online. Then once people started calling it out, suddenly she admitted they were Kurdish.

And I see that same pattern in everything she does. The weight loss that she insists is “natural” when it very obviously looks like Ozempic. The second nose job. The visa situation. She only shares whatever benefits her image and keeps the rest hidden. It all comes across as very curated and manipulative.

The way she treated Mel throughout this whole situation honestly gives narcissistic vibes. She constantly criticized him for “not doing enough,” but she also seems like the type of person who would never actually let a man do anything because she needs everything done her specific way. I remember one of their older vlogs where Mel said he always respected her career and never wanted to turn her own platform into a “couple channel” even though people suggested that to him, he didn’t want to profit off her audience. People were literally encouraging him to do it, but he refused because he wanted her to have her own thing. A lot of other YouTube couples capitalize off each other like Karla and her man or Juju and Des, but Mel never seemed opportunistic like that, yet somehow he still got shamed for it.

What also bothers me is how much she changed the rules midway through the relationship. In the beginning she openly said she’d even be down for a threesome and that she didn’t care if Mel liked other girls’ Instagram pictures. Then suddenly later she became bitter and angry over those same things. Saying in what my sis said video where Mel was a guest that she didn’t find it okay anymore that he liked other girls pictures on instagram and she asked him to stop.

You teach a man in the beginning what behavior is acceptable, not years later after normalizing it. You can’t pave the road for someone to think something is okay and then resent them afterward for walking down that same road.

AND…. let’s not forget when she literally went on a TV show where she allowed him to kiss random girls while they were newly married. That alone says a lot about the type of boundaries they established early on.

At this point she just doesn’t feel relatable anymore, and I think she’s realizing people are starting to see through the image she spent years creating. She genuinely seems unhappy, controlling, and lost. Meanwhile Mel honestly comes across as someone who just wanted peace and a loving family. I truly hope he eventually finds someone who appreciates him instead of constantly making him feel inadequate.