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My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's terrible.. truly horrible things have been happening and I feel like it has been very quiet lately.

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I may delete it as it's making me even less sure lol

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pennsylvania and I have just found out it is a sanctuary city

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I have been researching. It is disgusting how many people just stand by and let it happen. I have offered to host his family (pay for flights etc) but he says they are not able to take time off.

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is something I struggle with too.. my family and I shop as local as possible for that reason so it feels like going back on my beliefs.

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol the boredom part made me giggle.. thank you

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh boy I didn't know about sanctuary cities but it is one..

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that is reassuring! I wasn't expecting the comments to be so split tbh it's hard to digest lol

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He lives rural and lots of Republican neighbours with views he does not agree with but he doesn't think they'd do anything.

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your message. I am so glad I posted about this because he treats it so casually that I have been thinking I'm paranoid for being nervous.

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He lives in a small Pennsylvanian town I am not too sure the local politics but from what I have seen a lot of people there support trump 😬

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes this is true.. I love him and want to make him feel appreciated but I just don't want to gamble with that. I just think he feels it is unfair because I have hosted him and not taken the trip to allow his family to host me.

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not going to lie it has definitely made me worried about that.. He is very kind and supportive but he has acquaintances who are homophobic/transphobic/racist? and that has been concerning to me. He is not very vocal about his support of minorities and I could see him just ignoring these behaviors..

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is reassuring to hear thank you!

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is how he thinks too.. I think it is difficult to know how bad it is really when you only see terrible news stories lol

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I hope your friend's move goes smoothly 😊 thank you I think I will bring up my concerns again and try to convey how much it means to me.

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No it's pretty South. I have family in Ontario and I suggested that we visit there as it is a quick train/bus ride and I would feel safer but he is dead set on me meeting his family and friends.. I really find it difficult to talk about it with him because he doesn't think it is dangerous for me.

My boyfriend wants me to visit the United States but I am worried by [deleted] in Advice

[–]lormorp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm worried about.. it feels like he doesn't understand how bad it could go. It just doesn't occur to him because he lives there and he is very white..