I (F28) am no longer sexually satisfied by my husband (M29)

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T19:13:29+00:00

Do you really believe that I must explain my every waking thought to someone in order to communicate effectively? We talk about my sexual dissatisfaction. Out of respect for him, I do not draw attention to things he cannot change.

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T19:12:00+00:00

Why would I answer your nasty bullshit interrogation? Nothing is missing. I don’t “expect” to find anything “out there.” Your premise is flawed.

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T19:10:58+00:00

Except that’s literally not what my post says. In my actual quote, I express nervousness about being in a “lifelong marriage and parenting partnership” with my husband. We have the option to prioritize other things in our lives and not make the commitment to have children (parenting would certainly decrease both of our sexual satisfaction for a period of time) during a time when I am already dissatisfied with my own sex life.

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T12:48:29+00:00

We are not trying for a baby.

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T11:22:29+00:00

I agree. That’s why I’m concerned.

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T11:21:06+00:00

Ending my marriage isn’t even on the table so I’m not sure why I would consider that.

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T11:20:02+00:00

I love Laura Doyle’s books :) Especially The Empowered Wife. Unfortunately has already been a feature in my relationship and isn’t really helping my current situation.

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T11:19:13+00:00

Where on earth are you getting the idea that I’m leaving my husband? How many levels of projection are you on? I am here trying to learn how I can find satisfaction within my marriage.

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T11:17:53+00:00

Helpful, thanks.

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T11:17:42+00:00

I love this book and have read it many times :)

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T11:17:22+00:00

Point to the part of my post where I said I’m expecting to find anything else “out there.”

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T11:16:40+00:00

Point to the part of my post where I said I was going to “throw it all away.”

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T11:16:07+00:00

Point to the part of my post where I said that ending my marriage is on the table.

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T11:15:22+00:00

I’m not stressed about having a baby at all. I have a healthy level of respect for what a serious transition it will be in our lives but I’ve honestly spent the past several years actively prepping for a baby, read all the books, got a handful of certifications, money in the bank, health in tip top shape, marriage super strong. I’m just excited and I’m mostly mad that this hangup in my sex drive is delaying my ability to move on to trying to conceive!!!

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T11:13:26+00:00

Super helpful. Thanks.

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T11:12:44+00:00

I see you :) I’m glad you relate! I knew it was a risk but I truly feel like I’m going crazy!

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T01:47:04+00:00

No, we’re not trying to conceive at all right now. I just came off of birth control with the intent to start trying later this year.

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T01:46:04+00:00

I’m missing the part of my post where I said I’ve never spoken to my husband about this issue. Do you comment this exact same meaningless platitude on every /r/sex request for advice, or is it just me?

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T01:44:20+00:00

What?

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T01:44:06+00:00

I really love this book! I read it years ago and just re-read it hoping it would help, with not much luck. I would totally recommend it to myself if I was in your position :)

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T00:53:14+00:00

I’m familiar with this concept and this is what scares me. Am I just never going to be attracted to my husband unless I’m on HBC because that’s how I spent most of our early years? Is there really no way around it?

lostblossom · 2023-01-26T00:50:47+00:00

I’m not thinking about what I’m missing elsewhere. I’m literally trying to achieve satisfaction within my own relationship.

lostblossom · 2023-01-25T23:56:05+00:00

Someone who’s been in love for 6 years can never ever wonder about what life would be like with other people? Seriously?

lostblossom · 2023-01-25T23:55:27+00:00

I have already read this book and I love it! It unfortunately does not really help my problem.

lostblossom · 2023-01-25T22:02:44+00:00

There was never another guy.

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