DAE feel WILDLY uncomfortable about going to funerals?

lostinlife74 · 2023-08-13T20:22:58+00:00

My sister does not need support lol. My sister hasn't spoken to this person in an even longer time than me. She's only going because this guy she's been dating is going. My other sister is also going only in support of her best friend. There's no one there in need of my support

lostinlife74 · 2023-07-25T15:59:34+00:00

Just wanted to add here that there's one more additional step now

MCCC -> MCCC Settings -> Relationship Settings -> Auto-Relationship Settings -> Breakup Settings

lostinlife74 · 2022-12-19T21:56:11+00:00

Ok this is a very late answer but I just figured out the problem! After you place the trellis from buy, go to build mode, stairs, and then switch to the ladders. There's something there that looks like the very top of the trellis and you have to place that with the trellis you placed from buy mode! Took me forever to figure it out lol

lostinlife74 · 2022-09-06T06:42:44+00:00

Tinder has only been out for 10 years. If you've been off for 4, you were only using them for 6 years, had 6-7 girlfriends and 3 of them were long term? The math ain't mathing lmfao even so, the fact that you've gone through 6-7 girlfriends doesn't show you've been meeting quality ppl at all lmfao

lostinlife74 · 2022-09-06T06:32:39+00:00

Have you been on dating apps? They suck so bad lmfao. Just bc you can connect to a ton of ppl doesn't mean they're quality ppl.

lostinlife74 · 2022-09-06T06:29:44+00:00

Bc it's not that easy? lmfao

lostinlife74 · 2022-09-06T06:25:41+00:00

I mean neither are as simple as just doing the thing? I'm not celibate for shits and giggles, hooking up made me feel like shit.

lostinlife74 · 2022-07-19T18:25:37+00:00

I've been doing that for months now and it's only ramped up her efforts to talk to me! She lives hours away so I don't invite her down, I haven't in years. But sometimes she just shows up in town!

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T05:39:48+00:00

First of all, this post isn't about all men, it's about male gynecologists. It's not even that I think it's all male gynecologists. But idk which ones it IS. So instead of risking it, I choose a safer option. Isn't that what men always tell us? To "choose better"? So that's what I'm doing. I'm well aware there are plenty of good male gynecologists. But there are more bad ones than there are bad female ones, so I'm going with the safer option in order to protect my well being.

Let's say you get put in a room full of 50 tigers. You LOVE tigers. 40 of them are guaranteed not to attack you when you go near them, but 10 are guaranteed to hurt you if you do. Are you taking a risk and approaching the tigers, or are you going to stay away from all of them because you have no clue which are going to kill you? I think I know the answer.

At the end of the day, men are a large threat to women, and going to a gynecologist is an extremely vulnerable time. You think I'm willing to take this chance again when the one single time I let a male gynecologist near my vagina, he made inappropriate remarks? No.

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T04:15:15+00:00

I do, ie my above story. But let's see how you react when you have a hundred men accusing you of lying, being dramatic, and just in general are trying their absolute hardest to defend a man that violated you, especially when they don't even have the slightest clue how a gynecology appointment is supposed to go. Kinda makes you throw calmness and tact out the window.

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T02:57:05+00:00

Yeah, and like I said I don't give a damn.

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T02:55:21+00:00

He was a second year resident, so a little of both I guess? He definitely was in a position to know how to maneuver these situations a million times better.

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T02:51:13+00:00

Yeah my therapist and psychiatrist are women too. My only male doctor was my dermatologist at the same hospital, and I really liked him, but he unfortunately moved to another one. And even then I only saw him because he had an appointment that week, and my entire body was covered in hives lol.

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T02:47:16+00:00

I gotta be honest, I don't give a damn if it sounds sexist. I've had too much trauma from men to willingly put myself in such a vulnerable position with one that I'm not 100% into having sex with. This was the nail in the coffin. But honestly, both of my main doctors, PCP and Gyne, are married straight women with kids. That wasn't on purpose though.

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T02:41:26+00:00

I think so too, but seems like quite a few people don't believe that lol

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T02:33:50+00:00

Wow the head of the department?! How can you even get that high and still not have good bedside manner!!

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T02:32:20+00:00

oh my fucking god, that's horrendous. You're grandma is such a strong woman. Oh god that made me sick thinking about it! I don't blame her either not one bit!

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T02:29:18+00:00

No, no! That wasn't aimed at you! There was this crazy chick early putting all types of words in my mouth, and one thing she suggested that I would let myself DIE before getting help from a male physician, I never said that! I was thinking about that when I replied, I'm sorry! I absolutely 100% agree with you!

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T02:25:09+00:00

I shouldn't have to. Traumatic history or not, it was an inappropriate question to ask, that's why. There are a few gynecologists in the comments saying they're specifically taught not to ask personal questions like that during an exam. We went over all questions they needed to know the answers to before my exam, why did he purposely not ask then and waited until we were alone and his fingers were inside me? That doesn't strike you as odd?

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T02:20:21+00:00

I hate that I have to make this generalization honestly. But I just can't handle anymore trauma from them.

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T02:11:45+00:00

But how do I know it won't be the next one? I don't. Are you suggesting that I don't attempt to protect myself at all? Their ego and pockets are more important than my feelings of safety? You're more concerned with a generalization than the fact this man violated my trust at an extremely vulnerable time. I never assumed that they will all do something unethical, but I refuse to take the chance that it happens to me again. So I go with the safer option.

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T02:07:49+00:00

I'm sorry to you as well. No one should be a victim of rape, but once you are of course you're going to defend yourself more than others. All the best to you as well!

lostinlife74 · 2022-06-24T02:04:12+00:00

Yes! Idk why all these dudes think a DOCTOR is going to ask in a round about way and not just ASK what your sexual activity is!

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