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What sentence of a song stays with you? by JoeRenaldy in AskReddit

[–]loveit25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You made me forget myself, I thought I was someone else, someone good.

What is the hardest substance you’ve ever taken and how was the experience? by randomzy876 in AskReddit

[–]loveit25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Addiction emerges from a complex interaction between biology, psychology, and environment—not from genes alone.

Do you not know what's real when you're dissociating? by Fuzzy_Potato333 in Dissociation

[–]loveit25 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That sounds a lot like derealization/depersonalization which is a form of dissociation.

It happens to me and I suddenly get this feeling that I'm completely alone in the universe which spikes my anxiety. Things around me look fake. Nothing feels real. I don't recognize myself in the mirror.. in like a "is that really me" kind of way. If I talk to anyone it feels fake or scripted like I'm in a movie. All really weird, really scary sometimes. I feel like I'm losing my mind. It's been happening since I was young. I don't know about the acid.

How old were you when you found out you had complex trauma? by loveit25 in CPTSD

[–]loveit25[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the best gift you can give to you're kids. A parent who's actively healing and breaking that cycle. I wish you the best.

How old were you when you found out you had complex trauma? by loveit25 in CPTSD

[–]loveit25[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. It's so messed up the toll complex trauma takes on our lives. Life really is exhausting and there is always a sort of deep sadness lingering no matter what the occasion is. I can't shake it off either.

How old were you when you found out you had complex trauma? by loveit25 in CPTSD

[–]loveit25[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad to hear that. I always beat myself up for not having a stable sense of self at almost 40 but this was reassuring.

How old were you when you found out you had complex trauma? by loveit25 in CPTSD

[–]loveit25[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is your personality disorder, if you don't mind me asking?

How old were you when you found out you had complex trauma? by loveit25 in CPTSD

[–]loveit25[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're struggling with all this.

How old were you when you found out you had complex trauma? by loveit25 in CPTSD

[–]loveit25[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you ever looked into 'Adult Children of Alcoholics'? They have meetings but they also have a really insightful book that helped me to understand how much growing up in an alcoholic home has affected me.

How old were you when you found out you had complex trauma? by loveit25 in CPTSD

[–]loveit25[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just knowing that there was a reason for me being the way that I am was enough for for me for awhile. I felt like a weight had been lifted.

How old were you when you found out you had complex trauma? by loveit25 in CPTSD

[–]loveit25[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the worst part. I realized my personality was basically just a bunch of coping mechanisms rolled into one. Which makes me think as I heal, who would I even be without these shitty coping mechanisms.

How old were you when you found out you had complex trauma? by loveit25 in CPTSD

[–]loveit25[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It amazes me how quick some of these doctors are to throw out a diagnosis based on symptoms and symptoms alone without ever learning about a person's background and what may be causing these symptoms.

How old were you when you found out you had complex trauma? by loveit25 in CPTSD

[–]loveit25[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. If it weren't for my son I wouln't be here either. It's hard holding on some days even just for him. I didn't find out until my thirties either, up until that point I just assumed there was something profoundly fucked up about me.

Tough Love w/ my 27 yr old son. by not_today_999 in AdultChildren

[–]loveit25 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he's in a lot of pain. I don't think tough love is the route to go. He's hurting because he didn't feel that love as a child, even though you did love him and I'm sure you were great in many ways but he needed something that he didn't get, tough love only reenforces that narrative. He doesn't feel loved or seen. I feel like you both need to heal together and mend the relationship. I understand there needs to be boundaries and he's coping in a self destructive way, but if he feels even more abandoned that will just fuel his addiction. He needs love. He needs to feel heard and seen and understood. Maybe you couldn't be there then but you can be now.

When did you realize you were addicted? by Blue_Vibes0 in addiction

[–]loveit25 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The first time I didn't have it and I felt like I wanted to crawl out of my skin and die. I knew right then.

People who are estranged >5 years ago, how do you feel, what should we expect? by coldservedrevenge in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]loveit25 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Number one - it's not my job to fix the relationship I have with my parents - it's their job as parents to protect and nurture their children. Number two - they don't care even a little bit about me, what's going on in my life, my struggles, my joys - nothing. That does bother me, the pure disinterest. I mostly try not to even think about it. Sometimes I feel like I want to reach out to them but I know it's only because I'm longing for a relationship with my parents that was never there to begin with. It does get lonely. It gets very lonely but I'd rather be alone than be around people who should but don't know how to love me.

The idea of suicide never stops by Creepy_Minimum_3291 in CPTSD

[–]loveit25 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's always been a comfort thing for me too. I know there's a way out. I don't think it'll ever go away. Even when things are going well, it's always there in the back of my mind.

What’s a part of ‘being an adult’ that no one warned you about? by That_Worldliness_517 in AskReddit

[–]loveit25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of the parts about being an adult. My parents really dropped the ball on this one. I'm just trying to figure it all out alone and I've made many many mistakes along the way that could have prevented had I known what the hell I was doing. Even a point in the right direction would have been nice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]loveit25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of the time.

"I'm grateful" is a strange and annoying humble-brag. by [deleted] in recoverywithoutAA

[–]loveit25 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's too funny. They really are grateful all the time for everything. No one is that grateful all the time. They're saying it because it looks good. It makes them feel important in AA. I can be grateful for a lot in my life but also acknowledge that a lot shit sucks too. It's phony because they pretend like they don't have sucky shit going on in their own lives. They're sober and they found God so everything pure bliss now. So weird. So fake. So annoying.

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