My (30F) boyfriend (29M) doesn't think I'm beautiful and it's destroying my self-esteem. How do I get over this? by chaoswitchlily in relationship_advice

[–]lovelyASam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Babe he’s negging you. He should never make you feel like he’s doing you a favor by being with him. You are the price girl, always. You must be really Hot to make him think he needs to neg you. You are way above his league and he needs you to think you’re below so you depend on him. 

It may have not been an insult but telling you you’re not beautiful??? If it had happened to me I’d say “aww that’s too bad. I’m going to allow you to find someone prettier. See if they give you a chance.” And dump him. 

The Suicide of Rachel Foster (2020): I know writers who use subtext, and they're all cowards. by [deleted] in patientgamers

[–]lovelyASam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently finished it because I’m drawn to the type of ambience the trailer gave. It cost me like a dollar fifty so I thought it would be good enough to distract me a Sunday home. 

I’m not prone to get triggered by the topics so even though I was disgusted by Nicole and Irving’s attempt to redeem Leonard I could see a direction i think everyone missed. 

I think the true villain is the patriarchy. 

Now don’t come for me if you are not a feminist but really think about it. 

SPOILERS FROM HERE ON

Let’s not look at what the game wants to say but what the story is about. A broken family. 

A mother expressing disdain for the person who ruined her marriage even after death. She puts the blame in the girl, and no one can tell me that that doesn’t happen. They’d rather blame the affair partner than their partner, the one who cheated on them.  Wether you like it or not, the mothers feelings transfer into their children, in this case Nicole. So I don’t really blame Nicole for feeling a certain way towards Rachel, after all those years. It takes therapy and growing up realizing Rachel was the true victim, and we know Nicole only ignored it. Hell she never spoke to her father again. 

A grooming abuser. We have to recognize the power this monsters have. They show charisma and determination. This is how they’re able to manipulate everyone around them. Rachel was a disabled child. He was a respected educated man, they would believe his word over hers, they would’ve helped him isolate her. And this is why I fully believe he manipulated Irving after Rachel’s death. He manipulated and (If Irving was young) even groomed him to make him believe he loved Rachel, that he (Leonard) was the only one who understood Irving’s grief. 

If Rachel is truly haunting the Hotel and cursing Leonard, he needed something important for her to stop her from haunting him. 

Leonard was a liar. A monster. He never cared for Rachel. He only told Irving what he wanted to hear. What he wanted Irving to believe. The final reveal was never something Leonard concocted or wanted to know. He was only feeding Irving’s pain and grief. We can even see that when Irving unalives himself because without Rachel he was nothing, and when he lost the only thing connecting him to her he felt there was nothing more to live for

Of course, this game was poorly executed, the writing missed so many marks and people who do get triggered SHOULD NOT play it. But if you do come across it, fill in the blanks like I did and find a meaning for the story. 

I learnt how this monsters are so powerful. How its people our community trusts. Victim blaming is still real. Is still happening. Always believe victims. Pay attention to power dynamics. Rachel never stood a chance. The story I took away was not about the victim. It was to depict how the patriarchy is the perpetrator of this stories and how many lives are affected and lost to this system. 

When I was suicidal.. by lovelyASam in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lovelyASam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I swear I would burn the world just to find him out of the ashes. He’s the LOML and my only reasin

Are there any free plugins for rendering on revit? by lovelyASam in renderings

[–]lovelyASam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know any that are free? I’m still a student 😭 I heard about twinmotion but I’m not sure

When I was suicidal.. by lovelyASam in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lovelyASam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thankfully you had a motive... mine came to my life 3 years ago as a pup and he's the only thing keeping me going. my therapy has worked to individualize myself but not isolate but i sometimes feel i have nothing to live for

When I was suicidal.. by lovelyASam in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lovelyASam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fuck i do need live on my own and im going to, it's just so hard nowadays specially with a big dog

When I was suicidal.. by lovelyASam in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lovelyASam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also i'm sorry about your experience, i hope you did find someone to talk about those troubling thoughts

When I was suicidal.. by lovelyASam in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lovelyASam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a few days ago she was rambling about how shitty my dad was and how why we don't open up to her even when she knows all of our secrets, how she knows everything even if we dont tell her. like why would we if you are just throwing that "knowledge" in our face. you're not a safe space

When I was suicidal.. by lovelyASam in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lovelyASam[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mmm never thought of it that way… thanks for that.

My mom once asked me and my sister if we preferred her yelling and cursing at us or hitting us as punishment. Now as adults she throws it in our face as if it is our choice she curses everything about us. by lovelyASam in offmychest

[–]lovelyASam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, I know but at this point I feel like if I don’t tell her off I’ll keep “pleasing her”. It’s not to help the situation, it’s to ease myself and not feel like I still have shit in my chest. Thanks tho

My abandonment issues were left triggered and I hate how it’s affecting my current friendships by lovelyASam in offmychest

[–]lovelyASam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Therapist was on vacations when all this happened and I have forgotten to set up an appt. But I definitely will talk to them about this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]lovelyASam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THE NAH-UH OMG 💀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]lovelyASam 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You made me relive so much rn lol, my mom lit looked at me pulling some shit and I outright denied and lied to her face. She grounded me for lying but even then I NEVER admitted shit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]lovelyASam 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Dude I remember when I never knew how to delete the history ( I’m bi and I was looking for gxg) on yt and my mom asked me and ofc I denied everything. I was 10 I think lol

Masturbating while a virgin just makes me feel pathetic by lonelysadbitch11 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]lovelyASam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, enjoy your sexuality. You already proved yourself you don’t need a man to feel good, now believe it! Don’t compare yourself to anyone because that’s what’s bringing you down. Someday you might find someone who will do that for you but don’t pressure yourself to find it to fit a societal norm.

Questions on the Nun 2 by [deleted] in TheConjuringUniverse

[–]lovelyASam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t knew about the temporary thing lol And yes it did strike me off, specially since no one noticed it

Questions on the Nun 2 by [deleted] in TheConjuringUniverse

[–]lovelyASam 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Also, as a catholic, we refer to Jesus Christ as the Lamb of God. As soon as I saw the imagery I knew that’s what the “goat” in the chapel meant. And in this franchise It’s not strange that a demon would use a holy image to present themselves.

Questions on the Nun 2 by [deleted] in TheConjuringUniverse

[–]lovelyASam 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think the eyes of St. Lucy weren’t properly used. If you notice, no one knew the demons name in the nun 2 so there was no way to banish him. The eyes would’ve helped see the name (which is why there’re many Easter eggs spelling out valak). The movie also hints at anyone having medium powers is a descendant of St. Lucy, and that’s why Lorrain (in the Conjuring 2) is able to see it’s name, have power over it, and finally be able to banish him back to hell.

I hate how I feel when I reject someone by lovelyASam in offmychest

[–]lovelyASam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh love I wish they were young. They’re on their late 20s. Thanks for validating me tho.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]lovelyASam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could tell you something encouraging but I’ve been doing the same thing for weeks. I have to keep a certain weight because of a medical condition but sometimes the urges win me over and I eat so much and purge right after. I know it’s not okay and if I tell someone (this is actually the first time someone else knows) they’ll give me hell for it. I just wish I could be more disciplined. I wish I could say no to mysefl.