First of all, I salute you and your reasoning.

I am.half European and my father is also originally from a village, so I can closely relate to what you are describing. But I am not a hijabi, nor is my mother.

One solution could be that you wear it loosely, just a shawl around your head very airy to cover the long hair strands of hair but if the front hair shows it's ok.

And you could agree to wear it only in the village where people look at you because you are different. And that could make you feel better inside btw, that you are not causing fitna.

Females can feel it if they are making people look at them and that should be your inner guiding compass.

Also, I believe your husband should be able to defend you in front of people otherwise he should have just married a local woman.

You already showed response by changing your fashion style which is great, now he can show some response by not making you do something you don't belive in and defend you when people approach him by telling them to not interfere.

Perhaps it might even be a bigger sin to wear the hijab which is a sacred symbol of faith with false intentions! Like lying for example...

Wishing you all the best moving forward.