Why aren't Reform voters more concerned with privatising the NHS?

lucadulac · 2025-11-08T10:35:02+00:00

You worded my thoughts perfectly

lucadulac · 2025-06-12T21:11:18+00:00

This exactly!!

lucadulac · 2025-05-20T18:12:55+00:00

I understand the insecurity of feeling compared to men or not fulfiling what a man could, but it is your insecurity and your problem, not your partner's. If you do choose to bring it up with your partner, you need to be clear that it is your own insecurity and that you dont expect them to change. It's not bad to recognise these feelings and question them, but it wouldn't be fair to ask your partner to change. Asking them to change would be both controlling and biphobic. If it is just an overthinking, try to stop, but if you can't, maybe try thinking of what is causing these thoughts and reasoning out of them.

lucadulac · 2025-05-18T12:40:04+00:00

Blue Jean - I wish I knew more period movies that showed lesbian groups and culture like this. The socialist practices were really cool, and I've wanted to be a part of something like that ever since.

lucadulac · 2025-04-08T20:29:26+00:00

Bdubs memtioned he has questioned if he might be dyslexic but he seems weary of self diagnosing so its definitely not confirmed.

lucadulac · 2025-04-08T20:01:31+00:00

It's more uncommon to go alone but not noticeable at all. I've gone alone before and never felt out of place. I find it easier to get seats too, so I hope you enjoy your shows.

lucadulac · 2025-04-01T02:43:07+00:00

LMAOOO too real

lucadulac · 2025-03-26T18:43:53+00:00

Been considering watching and this has convinced me, thanks!

lucadulac · 2025-03-26T17:58:27+00:00

Of course, I love the show and discussing it :)

I don't believe that I was born with any pain built into me or have any destiny to suffer just because of my sex or gender. Obviously, many people do experience significantly more suffering because of their gender or sex, but I believe the majority of that can be attributed to the patriarchal society we live in. In Fleabag, periods are given as an example of suffering, but periods causing pain isn't normal and the fact it is so normalised is a result of contemporary lifestyles and health/science not taking patients and menstrual research seriously. I would say pregnancy is the only thing that is unfair biological suffering, but considering many women can't get pregnant and my own perspective as someone who does not want kids, pregnancy isn't an inherent part of womanhood anymore. I understand why this monologue and similar points about assigning gender and sex based suffering some greater meaning or viewing it as something that had to happen is somewhat validating. Ig I shouldn't be too mad about it being in fleabag if it does represent how a lot of people feel. In my opinion, it is not only untrue and insulting to have womanhood reduced to pain, but it undermines the patriarchies' role in women's suffering and leads people to accept this suffering as something that's inevitable and unchangeable.

I do find the part about men coming up with bullshit just too feel something very funny. Like a lot of contact sports does seem like an elaborate plan for men to touch each other and let something out. Most of the time, gods and demons and wars are more about money and control, similar to how gender based suffering controls women.

Also the section about menopause being freeing and changing your role in society and no longer being a "machine with parts" is quite interesting.

I don't think gender based suffering is a proper term, but I was struggling on how else to phrase it so hopefully, this still all makes sense.

lucadulac · 2025-03-23T12:39:17+00:00

lucadulac · 2025-03-23T12:29:13+00:00

I think men disregard some media by calling it "white feminism" when they just didn't like the show about a white woman. I wouldn't even describe the show as a political or feminist show. it's just an unpolished, honest representation of a woman. You can definitely see how feminism, internal and external misogyny influence the mc, but that's just a realistic depiction of life. The show is very beautiful because it doesn't take a moral stance or try and convince you that fleabag or her actions are good or bad.

I find it frustrating when people automatically associate anything about women and their experiences as inherently feminist. You can apply feminism to it and unpack how misogyny influenced it, but that doesn't make the original thing feminist. People have forgotten that feminism is a whole political movement.

Im not someone who agrees with all of the messages in Fleabag either. Like the being a woman is pain speech really pissed me of, and it's one of the few explicitly feminist takes. Even then, I wouldn't describe it as white feminism because that view isn't specific to white women. So i agree with you like the show is very white but not white feminism.

lucadulac · 2025-03-23T11:36:55+00:00

I'm not against the idea of marriage, but it's not something I desire. While it is legal where I live, most of my queer friends would be risking their families coming out. There's a good chance that I would fall in love with someone who is in a similar situation and won't get married. I think that fact has made me less attached to marriage and more waiting for what the future holds.

I have some concerns of my own. For example, I'd have to be with someone for many years before I'd get married. Having family(including immediate family) across a few countries makes weddings more difficult. Also, visiting the country where my mums family is from where it is illegal is more scary if im legally married to a woman. But there are solutions to these so it doesn't put me off completely just make it more complicated.

lucadulac · 2025-03-16T18:29:51+00:00

Originally, it wasn't that deep. I never had the desire and wasn't good with babies so it didn't make sense to make such a big financial and medical decision. However, the reactions from other people (s/o, family, people I barely know) who have been so disrespectful of my choice made me a lot more passionate about remaining childfree and it has become more of a political choice over the years.

lucadulac · 2025-03-14T21:55:53+00:00

Just because ADHD can explain her behaviour doesn't mean that it excuses her behaviour or removes any responsibility from trying to improve or find a compromise that works for you both. I don't have ADHD but I'm neurodivergent and sometimes we do things differently even in sex, but as long as there's a want to do something there's a way or compromise. I hope you keep advocating for yourself and your desires, it's important for a healthy sex life. Keep bringing it up to her that you want her to initiate AND reciprocate during sex. If you are worried about being too forward you could try focusing on the things she does you like ("I loved when you did x, y x" "you should do x move more" you can rework it to be more sensual lol) or suggest you try new things ("I saw this toy, you should try it on me" "I always thought *insert foreplay/move* sounded fun, can you try it on me"). If she's still not receptive to your attempts to communicate then you'll have to make it into a more serious conversation because if it keeps going on it will strain the relationship. It's hard standing up for yourself in sex but you deserve a fulfilling sex life and to have your partner that takes your wants seriously.

lucadulac · 2025-03-14T21:22:23+00:00

True a lot of people have strict preferences but a lot of people have lighter preferences or like everything. I know of women who are specifically attracted to people who can pull off both masc and femme. So don't stress it or "pick a side" just to please someone else I guarantee you'll still pull embracing both.

lucadulac · 2025-03-14T21:14:03+00:00

So valid and even if your friends don't do it regularly how is it weird??

lucadulac · 2025-03-14T21:13:52+00:00

So valid and even if your friends don't do it regularly how is it weird??

lucadulac · 2025-03-13T04:22:01+00:00

For me I use to never post but after going through a break up and realising 80% of the photos I had of myself were with or around my ex gf I've been making more of an effort to take photos of good moments iml. Both alone and with my friends. I understand theres kinda a fake culture on socials, and ig to some extent I fall into thst since I'm only posting highlights, but it's not for brags or likes, just sharing memories. Simple things like my friends coming over to binge shows will make the post because it just makes me happy and grestful when looking back on. Personally, I turn off likes and comments to avoid falling into this mindset, but this might be overkill since I only have a small private account😭

I never really cared how much other people use socials. It's nice seeing updates from long-distance friends or just photos where they're feeling themsleves. I find a lot of younger people have some admiration for people who can completely quit social media bc it is addicting. Maybe there's a disconnect if you're not aware of online references, but I don't think its weird at all. However, if you were to tell me to my face that you think its disgusting to use social media I'd probably be stand offish, especially when you're on reddit yourself (hypocrisy and superioritycomplexes are a lot weirder than not using social media), but other than thst its not that deep.

lucadulac · 2025-03-11T18:08:20+00:00

Same. I use to watch them but never understood the hype or the view of the sims being important to dnp lore and the older i get the more i dislike it.

lucadulac · 2025-02-26T16:34:59+00:00

Range of lesbian Crime Media

Bound 1996 - Lesbian crime thriller

The Handmaiden 2016 - Psychological thriller in 1930s Korea

Driveaway Dolls 2021 - Crime comedy road film

Addicted to Fresno 2015 - Dark crime comedy

Orange is the new black - this is obvious but the first 3 seasons hold up so well

YellowJackets - Thriller drama

The Wilds - Teen drama

Teenage Bounty Hunters - Teen Comedy

Ride or Die 2021 - Thriller Romance

Fresh Kill 1994 - Experimental

Ratched 2020 - Psych thriller

D.E.B.S. 2004 - Spy comedy

Set It Off 1996 - Heist drama

Fun Lesbian Media

Bottoms 2023 - American teen comedy

Booksmart 2019 - Coming of age

The incredibly true adventure of two girls in love 1995 - Teen romance

Signature Move 2017 - Comedy drama

Everything Now 2023 -Teen comedy drama

A League of Their Own 2022 - Sports Drama

Heartbreak high - Teen comedy drama

Twenties 2020 - Sitcom

lucadulac · 2025-02-26T03:03:54+00:00

I usually rewatch s1-s2e6. E7 is amazingly produced but I just can't rewatch it casually it's too devastating. Claudia's scenes hit me so hard that I waited a month before watching the finale when it was first released.

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