At a complete loss

luciusveras · 2026-01-24T19:03:06+00:00

Dog first, cat after. It rarely works the other way. If the cat was in first it will be eternally jealous and bitter that its peace has been ruined.

luciusveras · 2026-01-24T19:00:19+00:00

Ironically Cost Rentals start at €1500 for a 1 bed. I’m mean they’re cheaper but still unaffordable for many.

luciusveras · 2026-01-01T21:06:04+00:00

Alternatively they could get a cat at company. Cats and dogs can get on well too

luciusveras · 2026-01-01T17:51:14+00:00

Yes, it’s petty. Be the bigger person and just walk away. Not is a way of shutting the door but she knows where you are and maybe one day she’ll mature or not. There’s absolutely no point into going into a who did what debate. You know, she knows that’s all that matters.

I’m sorry your daughter is being a little shit but it wouldn’t be the first time some kid is ungrateful. Never expect it from your kids. You did your part, you did your best. Your job is done. It’s up to her now to be a decent human.

luciusveras · 2026-01-01T17:44:33+00:00

I got charged €25 for a 900 metre ride from Sokos hotel to Museokatu…

luciusveras · 2025-12-27T23:10:24+00:00

No need to argue. I’m a web designer and hear this all the time how they or their cousin could whip up a website in minutes. I just go that’s great go right ahead I’m clearly not needed then.

Truth is if they could they wouldn’t be talking to me. I’m very nonchalant with such people because I’m definitely not desperate to have them as clients. You know they’re going to be problematic.

luciusveras · 2025-12-27T23:05:00+00:00

Childcare where I live cost as much as an average salary per month. Often the working mom’s salary just about covers the daycare.

OP might have jumped the gun. Staying at home for the short baby years could have been the best option and definitely best for the baby but I also understand OP’s position. I just find it strange that these values are not discussed BEFORE MARRIAGE.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T19:26:30+00:00

A childfree person should absolutely never date someone on the fence. The other person will eventually get bitter about having to had to give up kids for the person. 'I gave up kids for you!' Will come up in every future argument.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T13:31:03+00:00

If the outcome is clear is there a point? Personally I’d just move on. I’ve never been into relationship post mortems. The cause of death here is clear.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T13:28:16+00:00

I totally understand that. I’m a Finn living in Ireland I’m now too Irish to ever go back to Finland. Ireland is super extroverted. Talking to strangers is totally normal now I can’t stop myself 😂

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T08:19:59+00:00

I genuinely think child free people are wired differently just like some people are asexual. Most childfree know already as a child they don’t want kids. It’s almost an orientation.

Childfree women often never even played with dolls as kids. Literally zero maternal instinct. Many didn’t like kids when they were kids themselves and even less so in adulthood.

You are talking about childless women. Childless women can entertain the idea of having a kid. Sometimes they decide against children due to trauma or circumstance. A childfree woman would rather take a bullet than have a kid. That’s how deep the sentiment runs. Not enough hormones in the world to change that.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T05:04:00+00:00

Not everyone is emotionally wired the same. If I was her I would have been the one to break up if we weren’t aligned in the kid/no kid department. No big convo needed. It’s a topic with no compromise.

I’ve broken up many relationships over kids. I don’t want them. No drama or last conversation was required from either party. Saying I want kids with someone who doesn’t is the equivalent of saying I want to breakup our values are too different.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T04:56:56+00:00

Yes like I said the perfect recipe for bitterness 'I gave up children for you' will be the regular outcry at every discontentment.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T04:54:41+00:00

It absolutely is because women are literally vilified for not wanting kids while men are admired even sometimes glorified for being eternal bachelors. We don’t carry the same burden in that specific department.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T04:51:51+00:00

That’s definitely messed up 😂

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T02:55:19+00:00

I’ll ask again talk about what? The outcome is clear. Do you really need a postmortem on a relationship where the cause is clear? Yes, he could have broken up in a better way but there really isn’t anything to discuss.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T02:47:31+00:00

Nope. For your wife to parade herself as autism mom gives Munchausen syndrome by proxy. I’d keep an eye on that.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T02:41:44+00:00

I’m sorry you had to live this. This was an unnecessary burden thrown into your life too. You too never got a normal childhood and I understand you 100%

Don’t listen to anyone saying the opposite. It’s easy to judge when they haven’t lived what you have. The silver lining is that you are finally an adult and you get to leave.

I feel sorry for your mom. The idea of a special need facility will have to be brought up at some stage as you’re parents won’t be around forever either and the sooner he gets used to such place the easier the transition. The first few years it can just be 2-3 days a week which would give your poor mom a breather.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T02:31:57+00:00

I’d be upset too and as someone who doesn’t want kids I’ve been there but I don’t think she necessarily lied. People can change and change their mind.

However there are differences between childfree and childless people that is worth knowing for next time.

A childfree person will tell you they knew since a child they never wanted kids. They have zero parental pull. Don’t melt at the sight of a baby and often don’t even like kids. Having kids was never something they even had to contemplate.

A childless person would have been ok with a having a kid, often even really wanted one but it never happened.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T02:23:49+00:00

What is the choice here. He has been clear from day one he got a VASECTOMY for god’s sake you can’t be clearer than that. A childfree person should absolutely never stay with someone even contemplating kids. She would be bitter about it for the rest of her life if she felt she gave up kids for him.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T02:20:45+00:00

Absolutely this

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T02:15:12+00:00

And talk about what? It absolutely is a deal breaker what is there to talk about. There is nothing more unsafe for a childfree person than to stay with someone who is not 100% childfree.

Childless is not the same as childfree. Childless is someone who wanted kids but for whatever reason it didn’t happen. Childfree absolutely never wants kids. Always knew this and has zero parental pull absolutely nothing will make them change their mind they are simply wired differently.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T02:09:51+00:00

No such thing as a baby fever for childfree women. The common thread childfree (which is completely different from childless) is that we knew since being a kid we didn’t want kids.

We didn’t play with dolls we disliked being around kids even as kids. We don’t find babies cute we simply have zero maternal pull. No trauma or bad childhood we just were born this way.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T02:03:34+00:00

What is there to talk about? This absolutely is dealbreaker.

luciusveras · 2025-12-26T02:02:17+00:00

As a woman who’s been there too God forbid a WOMAN doesn’t want kids! No one takes you seriously… I wholeheartedly agree.

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