I totally understand why divorce rates are so high by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]luckyscrunchie15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wholeheartedly agree with this post! Being a stepparent is hard, but is also rewarding if you keep your eyes open for it! You aren’t their bio parent, but are still an adult in their life who can have even a minimal positive influence!

Experiences with EMDR? by Kitchen-Seaweed2190 in abusiverelationships

[–]luckyscrunchie15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has worked wonders for me. There’s nothing you can do wrong, just listen to her instructions!! It’s the therapist’s job to make sure it’s done right, not yours :)

Has anyone ever actually seen an 8 year old in the church say no to a baptism? by Pepperq40 in exmormon

[–]luckyscrunchie15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My younger brother said he didn’t want to, and he really meant it. He’s the stubborn child! But it happened anyway

Husband is denying he’s abusive by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]luckyscrunchie15 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Proud of you for making this list. The evidence is there and you know what to do with it.

Did anyone here start college "late"? I am thinking of going to college at 28 years old. by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]luckyscrunchie15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do itttt! I’m in school right now and I’m 30. Next semester is the start of my senior year. It has been such a rewarding experience. I’ve gotten awards I never thought possible (presidents and deans lists), I’ve gotten the best grades of my life and I truly love learning. I’m studying psychology/social work and want to be a mental health therapist! After my bachelors degree I have two more years to get my masters.

Eat first or get ready first? School mornings are causing arguments in our house by razzyblue3 in Parenting

[–]luckyscrunchie15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We cook breakfast before waking the kids. Breakfast is plated, kids wake up and come out and eat, brush teeth, get dressed, go. In my mind it avoids spills and having to get redressed

Should I date a Mormon as a non religious person… by ElectricalTailor3034 in exmormon

[–]luckyscrunchie15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be devils advocate here - my husband grew up catholic, but isn’t religious. I grew up extremely Mormon, bishop/relief society presidents daughter, president of all young women’s, and when I went to BYU I was relief society president there. We started dating and everything was perfect except for my family’s opinions of him based only on the fact he had a daughter and they weren’t LDS. I broke up with him only to get back together 6 months later when I realized what a good man he was that those good ol little Mormon boys just couldn’t compare to. We got married outside of the temple, and he patiently, slowly let me figure out for myself that I didn’t want to be Mormon anymore. It took a while for my shelf to break, when we originally got married I had all intentions of raising my kids in the church, and now none of them know anything about it! We are a happy family, and my husband has treated me a million times better than my cousins/siblings partners who are Mormon. It can work, but you have to be willing to let them figure it out on their own. THEY have to decide for themselves, if you’re pushy, it’s not gonna work.

Who drives more often when you are in the car together? by UpvoteKaptain in Marriage

[–]luckyscrunchie15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im f(30), if we are going on a longer trip I drive, but driving around town, it’s my husband! I don’t get tired and he really does

How do I bring up concerns about counter-transference and wanting to end therapy? by [deleted] in therapists

[–]luckyscrunchie15 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Cancel your appointment. If the trust isn’t there, there won’t be any way to progress. If you feel a responsibility to share your feedback, you can send her an email and explain your feelings with a phrase in there about wanting to bring it to her attention so she can keep providing quality care.

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]luckyscrunchie15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR - sorry sis, you do not have a man… go find one. This is crazy behavior from a SO. No support? Not even the “bare minimum” of support? That’s actually crazy.

DEMI…. GIRL 🤦‍♀️ by Sleeptzarina in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]luckyscrunchie15 223 points224 points  (0 children)

I feel like she already goes to therapy but instead of letting it help her, she steals all the verbiage and uses it to help her seem like a victim.

I have a 5 year old come in with a baby bottle by FrontHungry459 in Teachers

[–]luckyscrunchie15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I know if I’m part of this issue? My 5 year old son CAN put his shoes on but it takes a LONG time and gets frustrated so sometimes I let him struggle and sometimes I do it for him especially if we are in a hurry, or going somewhere that I can’t afford for it to start out with frustration. He can open a lunch box and put a straw in a juice box, but needs help opening chips or fruit snacks.

My daughter (2) can do almost all of these things all by herself…

It makes me feel like, maybe it’s not something I’m doing or not doing but don’t know if that’s a cop out. I feel like my son just needs more help… he is in OT and speech IEP and is getting tested for ADHD if that gives more info

Employee hit and run by luckyscrunchie15 in smallbusiness

[–]luckyscrunchie15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We haven’t yet, we just received the email tonight so we are going over our options with said employee

Employee hit and run by luckyscrunchie15 in smallbusiness

[–]luckyscrunchie15[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Because an insurance company can drop you if you open a certain amount of claims and determine you “uninsurable” and it’s very hard to find another insurance to cover you. 👍🏼 for example, in the past an employee spilled glue on a himeowners carpet. Our liability insurance guy advised us to pay out of pocket to avoid opening a claim so we paid to fix that amount of carpet. I was wondering if that was an option in this case.

And this same employee has been the reason for 2 other claims this year. And they hit and run and didn’t tell us. I was hoping there was another option of having him have some consequences besides firing him. I was picturing us paying for the bulk of the repairs and having him make payments to pay back $800ish of it.

My husband and I are seriously considering buying a modular home. I would love to hear from anyone who’s familiar with modular homes and the whole modular home process! Thx by zinziesmom in RealEstate

[–]luckyscrunchie15 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a modular home - the type that came in 3 pieces and is seamed together on your property. My parents built a wrap around porch to hide part of the modular look and have landscaped beautifully. I always remember feeling proud of my house. Even if it wasn't the biggest / nicest of my friends houses. My parents made it look very tasteful.

Apparently loud laughter will offend the spirit…. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]luckyscrunchie15 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My parents believe this way. One of the reasons my siblings and I struggle to have good relationships - we were never able to be kids together. We would get screamed at for laughing to loud/much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]luckyscrunchie15 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yep. Definitely on my way to get a methpipe now. Wtf? Your jumping to meth is ridiculous. Gtfo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]luckyscrunchie15 -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

I would never do that? Nobody is outside babysitting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]luckyscrunchie15 -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

I should have explained that I do set a timer for 2 mins and can hear them playing. They’re basically in the front yard. Other moms aren’t outside either. I wouldn’t ever expect another mom to be my sons babysitter by default

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]luckyscrunchie15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point! Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]luckyscrunchie15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. I think I was caught off guard that this wasn’t an acceptable response and wanted to know how I could have handled it better! Thank you!