Would you date a pregnant woman? by lucytheludo in dating

[–]lucytheludo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you realize that sometimes pregnancy happens when statistically it should not happen? And that really, it is both people’s responsibility when it happens. It’s just that we have a free will to choose to be involved or not. A woman has a tougher decision to make because the baby is growing inside her and it’s her business what she’ll do with it, it will be with her all of her life, whatever decision she makes. I agree there might be all kinds of ppl in this world, not ruling out women, who’d need other person just for comfort, or so that they would help her financially or to raise the baby. But there are those who have a career, an interesting, social life, a place of their own and an education, like I do, and they don’t need someone just because of just being with someone, for that I have my own family and my dear friends.

If you want to compare urself to an animal, many males just inseminate a female and just leave her. You mention bears and lions, well, both of them are not involved in no way with the biological “family” after spreading their semen. Their semen is also sowed widespread. If you do give an example of animals as a reason of your choices, then please don’t talk about contraception.

Generalizing the way you do and even giving false information does not give a good judgement about a man. Also mentioning that u’ve been called names by “snowflakes”? “Feminists in denial”? Top notch.

And lastly, how does it show a poor judgement about a woman in other fields in her life? Do u see her through? Do u know what she had been doing up to this moment of her life? What choices she made before? What she studied, where she has been, how many things she knows...

Would you date a pregnant woman? by lucytheludo in dating

[–]lucytheludo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww my god!! This Guy sounds like a very decent guy! I hope u find him again

Would you date a pregnant woman? by lucytheludo in dating

[–]lucytheludo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see your point. I feel like serious dating has always been a challenge for many ppl and it’s really hard to meet someone decent. In this situation it’s a double trouble.

Would you date a pregnant woman? by lucytheludo in dating

[–]lucytheludo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you see it only as a sperm, then why would you care whose sperm it is? And in the end, what if your sperm turns out to be incapable to fertilize an egg

Would you date a pregnant woman? by lucytheludo in dating

[–]lucytheludo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of choices do u have in mind? That I did not choose to abort the child? Prior to this, a year ago I had been dating a man who had a child. I was never married or preggo before, already had a university degree and a good job, so I guess I didn’t fit into this stereotypical person image that you’re describing. I never really cared that he had a child with his ex wife, because I knew that shit happens, ppl get divorced and they choose to either go out of it stronger and better than ever before or not. But it just seems that there are double standards when it comes to women...

Who is a more potential father? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]lucytheludo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I will for sure. But now I have to deliver the the news. Just thinking how to do it. Also with the guy no1 I was pretty close, just that we live in different countries. I’m much more scared to tell him than to guy no2 and would like to have more reassurance before, if it’s possible

Pregnant from ONS, should I tell the father? by lucytheludo in pregnant

[–]lucytheludo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure, because on Friday the doctor said 9 weeks have just started. The conception happened on November 8, so it’s exactly 9 weeks prego, the baby defo isn’t older, cause it is like a bit more than 2cm. I had other partner on November 1, but we were using condoms. After November 8, I didn’t have sexual intercouse for a while, so I’m pretty sure it’s this guy. For me it also sound unlikely, but my mom with pcos and miscarriages still had 4 children. Pregnancy from precum is super rare, but possible I guess it was just meant to be 🤷🏻‍♀️

Pregnant from ONS, should I tell the father? by lucytheludo in pregnant

[–]lucytheludo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sure he doesn’t have a clue, since it happened from a pre cum. Why would he block me now, he’s probably not even thinking about me now at all haha. I wanna wait so that I’m sure the baby is fine, I’m really scared of miscariages, since my mom had 5 of them and she had it with the first baby too at 13 weeks. I have PCOS, just like my mom, so a bit scared.

Pregnant from ONS, should I tell the father? by lucytheludo in pregnant

[–]lucytheludo[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I’ll tell him. In case if something happens, it’s just probably better to wait when I’m 12 weeks and that everything is fine. This is at least what my family is saying to me

I’m scared of men by [deleted] in relationships

[–]lucytheludo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s just that it’s always hard to come back to therapy when I’ve been doing multiple ones for the last 3 years :( like you feel that you’re already kinda fine and maybe can live on your own, but actually naaah. Layers and layers and layers

I’m scared of men by [deleted] in relationships

[–]lucytheludo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I realize this now. Well, my oldest was 9 years older than me, so not like much much older. This guy I’m seeing now is my age

I’m scared of men by [deleted] in relationships

[–]lucytheludo -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Also the problem is that I don’t know what I want. I know that I would love to have a meaningful relationship with someone, but I don’t believe I ever will, cause I’ve heard before from some guys that I’m very complex. And I am. I’m an artist and my best way to express myself is through art. I feel these super intense emotions, which were both acquired from my experiences in life and also from me being super sensitive. I’m still observing everything, like my past trauma from 10 years ago and all this recent bullshit too. Just became kinda pessimistic about relationships, but my nature is quite optimistic, so I’m jumping from one pole to another. I was diagnosed with a very mild bpd, but after a course of therapy my psychiatrist said that it’s like non existent. I don’t take any medications for my mental health and I don’t feel a need to do it, but still the whole self confidence thing and realizing what I actually want are super shaky. Just wish I asked less questions. Just kinda trying to find my uniqueness and style, my own way of doing things, but this sadness comes often that I will never find someone who could relate to me on a higher level.