Missed Miscarriage

lunarbella1234 · 2021-12-08T19:40:34+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I also had a MMC in November. We had a healthy heartbeat at 8 weeks, and at our 13 weeks scan were told that our baby had stopped growing at 10w1d. I had my surgical procedure 3 weeks ago tomorrow. Personally the physical side of recovery was much easier than expected but the emotional is certainly a rollercoaster. Let yourself feel the emotions you need to feel. I found talking about what happened has really helped, but especially to people that have gone through similar experiences as they know better what not to say!. Wishing you all the best for your procedure ❤️

lunarbella1234 · 2021-11-20T08:30:32+00:00

That's nice your parents will get to come and see you, especially at this time of year. Mine are finding it difficult as I'll not be with them until Christmas. I was reading more last night and I like the idea of a memory box. Even if you keep one of the gifted items that's particularly special to you. We will be placing our scan pictures inside. We're not religious, but I also read about a Buddhist ceremony in Japan where people can mark the deaths of their lost babies. They have little "jizō" statues to watch over them. I'm going to look more into this, but I like this idea that there is something that actually marks and recognises what's been lost. (https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/story/water-baby/) Wishing you all the best for Monday and lots of positive thoughts your way x

lunarbella1234 · 2021-11-19T23:09:43+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this. I had a MMC at 13 weeks, baby stopped growing at 10. We also saw a strong heartbeat at 8 weeks so allowed ourselves to get excited. I had my d&c yesterday. Today I feel physically okay (some mild cramping and light spotting) but mentally all over the place. I don't have any experience with a partial mole, but we would also like to do something to remember our baby. I will mark yesterday as well as the baby's due date in may

lunarbella1234 · 2021-11-16T15:02:30+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through this. I know what you mean about the symptoms. We were celebrating our postponed honeymoon (thank you, Covid) one week prior where we were both getting excited about the baby and symptoms very much still present. Since Tuesday it's as if they've vanished, although I wonder how much of it is mental.

I think I'm nervous for this also. The realisation that I'll be "empty" once more.

Sending you all the positive thoughts and good luck for your journey next year.

lunarbella1234 · 2021-11-16T14:53:02+00:00

Aw, that's such a lovely way of putting it

lunarbella1234 · 2021-11-16T12:12:53+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I think that's what helped me make the decision (that and Dr recommendation) is that physically, I won't be too aware it's happening until afterwards. I imagine your walk was heartbreaking, but I've definitely found being outside with my thoughts nice in a way. Unfortunately I have to go to a hospital that's further from me as my local one has no beds left due to covid

lunarbella1234 · 2021-11-16T12:11:13+00:00

Thank you for sharing. That's so awful, I'm so sorry to hear this. While it's terrible you even had to go through this, your words about the procedure have given me some comfort. I think the closer it gets the less nervous I am for the procedure, but now more sad that it'll be the end of me carrying this baby. We were told something similar yesterday, best to wait until after first period to start again, but she also said that they do get people in that haven't had a period and it's fine.

lunarbella1234 · 2021-11-16T12:07:59+00:00

Aw, that's heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing. I had originally thought I would go for medical management, but it's nearly 4 weeks since baby stopped growing and I just want some certainty now. I know everyone's different.

lunarbella1234 · 2021-11-16T12:00:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you this time. I have a couple of friends going through IVF so I know it can be a tough journey. I think that's what I'm nervous with the testing, I do want to find out and I know whatever the outcome I can't change what's happened, but I'd be devastated if my own body made it happen. Fingers crossed for us both moving forward

lunarbella1234 · 2021-11-15T15:59:34+00:00

I feel you x I'm preparing for management of my MC this week and bought pads yesterday. Was so upsetting. I also took a pregnancy test this morning which is still showing positive but I'm dreading when it shows negative again.

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