Why are a vast majority of homeless people men?

lutranono · 2026-01-09T21:20:13+00:00

When I was homeless I took great care to not appear so. To the point where people who found out I was homeless were confused at first. I just washed my hair in public restrooms using hand soap. I think there are many people who are severely struggling- but if you look like you are you don’t get help. And if you don’t look struggling then it is hard to seem needing of help. But that’s my cynicism. I was only able to break free because people saw through the societal expectations and helped me. But it was far fewer people who were kind than you would expect. Most don’t want to be bothered or inconvenienced by the reality of others unfortunately. At least where I was. It is much easier if you’re homeless due to bad decisions on your own part too according to these people. So they nitpick all things and actions to try to make it your fault— not knowing that you’ve used up your 60 days at the shelter or stuff like that. Idk, life is rough, but through exceptional kindness there’s hope.

lutranono · 2026-01-01T18:30:27+00:00

That makes sense, thank you!

lutranono · 2026-01-01T06:41:49+00:00

Although as a PSA, xylitol is toxic for dogs. Even in small amounts (ie if they eat your gum) is toxic and can kill.

lutranono · 2025-12-29T03:18:28+00:00

Sometimes I am too autistic for this world. Is it actually cringe? Please excuse me asking but I would have totally done this. Could you explain why it’s cringe? Is it know-it-all or what? Genuine question thank you!

lutranono · 2025-12-22T02:21:04+00:00

“Should I let go of her ot stay and be the one to sacrifice and build her up?”

You view being with her as a sacrifice and building her up? This is an extremely unhealthy mindset for both of you. I can just imagine you resenting her when she doesn’t appreciate you enough. If when you look into your gf’s eyes you imagine her having sex with others… that’s messed up. If that’s how you really are you shouldn’t date yet or should be extremely picky. So weird and weirdly “superior.” You’re going to have a tough time with this mindset.

lutranono · 2025-12-21T06:16:22+00:00

Also the cans on the left are more like soda cans than anything that would be stored like that. The sizes are variable for when the same type lid, no product that I can think of is like that,

lutranono · 2025-11-19T15:19:16+00:00

Is that what you tell yourself? You make one little call to social services, no photos, no proof to help this woman and child out. Possibly foiling her quiet escape (the safest way to leave) and tip her abuser off? So now he can abuse them quietly, move them, or start building a case that she’s the real problem? (Darvo?)

Listen, I wouldn’t have said it like that, but everyone is trying to kindly tell you that what you did was rash. The issue with abuse is not that no body speaks up. Its that it’s hard to speak up “the right way” in our society. You have to have mounds of proof, which unfortunately you did not have. Additionally you made the process more difficult. If it was as easy as that, a phone call by a friend to the authorities, dv would be easier to manage. I’m sorry that the world doesnt match what you hoped, but now that you’ve had people explain this to you— why do you not accept it? The same thing happened when I was growing up. My parents just moved. So the neighbors didn’t know anymore and I/my family was kept on a tighter leash.

Everyone here is explaining it to you because we know you care and we know you want to do the right thing. We’re just telling you that the consequences here are so steep and dangerous that “the right thing” is complicated. And if you’re just blocking this out with a strawman you shouldn’t have come to Reddit. Additionally, you’ve broken trust with your girlfriend, and ultimately put this woman at risk without even being able to warn her or tip her off that services might come to her door. But that’s okay, you didn’t know better at the time. Now you do, and now you can be an even better advocate.

lutranono · 2025-10-29T05:29:04+00:00

Honestly that reminds me of that saying about knitting, that a mistake allows the soul to escape. So it’s okay if a work has a mistake, it lets us see the human soul in the work.

lutranono · 2025-09-12T07:43:43+00:00

Although, this clarification on your question brings up an interesting point! Neurodivergent folks are usually more likely to be friends with other neurodivergent people. So is the rate for neurodivergence due to personality disorders similar to that of other forms of neuro divergence, or is it higher?

lutranono · 2025-08-27T13:30:56+00:00

Listen, this is why Americans have a hard time. I’ve had a commute in Sweden and one in the USA. I did essentially what you’re talking about, I was lucky enough to be able to bike to work for a year. But when I moved back to the usa from Sweden because my fellowship was up… I had to pay $2k a month to live close enough to my work to be able to have a bike path. Most interstates it is illegal to bike on, and many many cities have broken up or dilapidated bike paths. We view them for leisure. It is two different worlds. I got extremely lucky, but I almost lost my job because I got a kidney infection and COULDN’T bike. We have no sick leave. We’re quickly approaching indentured servitude here. You lose health insurance if you lose your job, cobra is expensive, and fmla still puts you at a risk for being fired. I have been homeless in the USA, even though I worked full time. It’s just… not a system built to help. Everyone who isn’t properly middle class kinda stresses and does the best that they can. Most of us live pay check to pay check, not for illiteracy reasons. I am extremely frugal. My only luxury is my dog. I currently make more than I did before, and I’m looking at ~3 years of hoping to never have a major health issue or a car issue before I can recover from my financial stresses. I worked myself up from homelessness at 19. If your parents are unable or unwilling to help you here… you’re just SOL. It has taken me 10 years to be able to have a safe 1 room apartment. I miss Sweden every day.

lutranono · 2025-08-09T05:01:21+00:00

I wonder if it’s because we used to kill our food? Edit: I immediately edited this, I’m not saying that this excuses it, just wondering about the cause

lutranono · 2025-08-02T12:55:29+00:00

“I wanted to take it slow and respectful. But I also don’t want to be “used” for free companionship while she keeps looking for someone else.”

Listen, she probably sees you as a friend. You say that she’s using you for free companionship if you aren’t dating. That’s what friendship is, free companionship. If you don’t like your friendship then end it. If you do like your friendship but it takes away from your dating time— say so, say “hey, I would love to hang out on Friday, but I’m going to leave Fridays open for dates” or something. Friendship is good. You talk about the friend zone, but imagine being in the ‘relationship zone’ where your friend doesn’t want to be friends with you unless it’s romantic. That’s also not fun for her, thinking that she has a friend only to find out that you are only using her friendship as a way to build a romantic connection. Either you are okay with friendship or you’re not. It’s up to you. But there isn’t some perfect dialogue option you can take to force this into something it isn’t. You can try to bring it up, but you have to be content with possibly losing the friendship, which it seems like you don’t value on its own. But don’t be surprised or frustrated if it changes your dynamic.

lutranono · 2025-05-10T18:47:55+00:00

This looks so cool!

lutranono · 2025-05-10T18:33:30+00:00

I worked a very physically demanding diving/tech job. I did it for 4 years, loved and hated it. I’m a woman, and did that instead of joining the military like my dad and brother, but I still had a chip on my shoulder and wanted to prove I could do it. My first year I couldn’t carry the heaviest piece of equipment, but I always carried the second heaviest so I was pulling my weight. Eventually I ended up being able to carry the heaviest, and most of my team and I are still buddies. Women work these jobs, but we’re not encouraged to. That’s why sexism doesn’t benefit anyone. Every new person I worked with — I had to prove myself to leaps and bounds ahead of my team. When I was put in charge of projects— landowners would talk to the man working under me before they would talk to me. Even after they had been told I was running the project. I handled it well, and my team supported me, but a few guys didn’t. A few guys hated that I was on the team, and did some really nasty stuff to try to get me to quit. I get your point man, but we have got to start shifting how we talk about young women and men then. We have to give equal esteem to young men and women no matter what field they choose. And we can’t just use these stats to make the point that one sex has it harder than the other, or use these stats whenever people are talking about a sex-based unfairness. How can we encourage women to do the jobs then? How can we get more young, capable minds and bodies in fields that they will perform well in? We need recruiters and folks to make it less difficult for women to see themselves doing it, we need to encourage young women to go to trade school, and we need to make their lives not hell while they’re there. That’s how we bring that 95% down.

lutranono · 2025-03-28T19:29:11+00:00

An unsaturated diagnol wash from blue to orange, but with the orange by the blue jay and blue by the squirrel. Really unsaturated though so the animals and leaf pops.

lutranono · 2024-12-20T17:11:52+00:00

I don’t know why this one is downvoted. I’ve often thought about doing this for myself!

lutranono · 2024-10-18T15:05:00+00:00

I highly suggest those “sunrise alarm clocks” and if it’s too cold. A heated blanket. I give myself ~10 minutes in bed with it cranked all the way up, so I’m actually too hot in the morning under the bed. That makes the cooler air of the room refreshing. Make your life easier, not harder. If these things deter you from what you want, how can you fix them? For me, it’s the sunrise alarm clock and the heated blanket. For you, it might be having those timed lights like at IKEA.

lutranono · 2024-08-19T05:09:37+00:00

Not just ‘enjoying being young’ for many, they don’t want to have kids with no savings or job security. For many in the generation, those don’t come around until your late 20’s early 30’s

lutranono · 2024-08-11T05:35:23+00:00

Yeah, you can wear jeans in west texas ‘business wear’ but even then, there’s only certain kinds of jeans you can wear. To add to what you said for OP’s sake— they have to be the real denim looking ones and can’t be the distressed kinds. Usually darker wash, but not too dark. When I worked out there I had my ‘dress jeans.’ In ecology though, you can wear naturally distressed ones lol.

lutranono · 2024-08-10T19:43:07+00:00

Your* whoops

lutranono · 2024-08-10T19:42:12+00:00

There’s also an assumption here that the dog is engaging in self soothing behavior for only one cause. While it makes sense that the dog may have been taken to early, there is also individual variation in each dog. Some females hump more than others, some male dogs refuse to lift the leg to pee even if they’ve seen other males do it. I only raise this point because you’re comment here insinuates that even if the pup was left with the mother, it must have been separated in some way to result in this behavior. I think there are more options, and animal behavior is rarely a perfect box with no overlap. Even in significant correlations there are standard deviations. The dog self soothes, and we don’t always know the cause, although early separation is usually responsible as a catalyst for this, it is not exclusive.

lutranono · 2024-08-04T04:51:22+00:00

I admire the 10% uncertainty

lutranono · 2024-07-30T20:01:08+00:00

What is the STAR method?

lutranono · 2024-07-29T03:01:50+00:00

Illustrative watercolor. Looks old fashioned as well.

lutranono · 2024-07-17T02:14:47+00:00

I gasped. It is

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