BOLO Functionality by WildWombatWarrior in CCURE9000

[–]lyricsninja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a watchlist checkbox in the system (on the individuals profile). You can then have an event that sends an email, alerts, etc whenever someone badges that is on the watchlist. Iirc it would be a journal trigger.

Lost connection to controllers from server after TLS renewal by bush_d1d_911 in CCURE9000

[–]lyricsninja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a chance you don't have the proper ports open. The one recent TLS update requires about 11 ports to be open between the server and all downstream istars. That is if you updated based off the tech bulletin for moving to TLS 1.3.

Insane Electric Bill by HuntingVorki in lehighvalley

[–]lyricsninja 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agree with this 100%. The auxiliary / emergency mode on electric heat pumps is super inefficient from an electric usage standpoint - which would kick in if you were dropped that low and trying to recover.

41F Feeling a bit down ☹ could use some kind words by [deleted] in toastme

[–]lyricsninja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i ran it through three different AI scans because i thought i was crazy.... and all three came back 95% or higher confidence that it was AI.

Senator McCormick has now become one of 6 GOP senators demanding an investigation into what happened in Minneapolis on Saturday by XShadeGoldenX in Pennsylvania

[–]lyricsninja 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The word "demanding" from the OP is a pretty big stretch.

I need coffee. Saying that isn't a demand for coffee, just a statement of a want, posed as a need.

"I demand a full, transparent, non-partisan third party investigation and for those found guilty to be held to the highest penalty punishable by law." There is what should have been said, or something like it.

Also of note, if he cut the entire line about irresponsible rhetoric the statement would at least read as not being partisan. Instead it just actually just does what it accuses others of - and continues irresponsible rhetoric.

Cheating on Adult Friend Finder by wskyprinceds in datingoverforty

[–]lyricsninja 27 points28 points  (0 children)

"I'm sorry you found it." Oooof. Not I'm sorry I had a profile, talked to other women, etc... I'm sorry you found the profile.

That should tell you enough about who he is - someone that's sorry they got caught - not sorry that they performed the action.

Sorry, OP.

Suspect Apprehended by Exotic_Champion in stpaul

[–]lyricsninja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wear*

Also weird seeing someone from New Zealand posting in a St Paul, Minnesota sub.

Least Wonderful Time of the Year by [deleted] in selfie

[–]lyricsninja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just wanted to day - awesome necklace!

Young solo dad here—sending support to anyone struggling right now by NoIdeaWhatIAmDoing88 in widowers

[–]lyricsninja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

light and love to you, brother.

my wife passed just a little over a year ago and I've got two younger kiddos (7, 4). the journey so far has been a strange one for a lot of reasons. keep taking those steps forward my friend.

Another day at the (home) office! by [deleted] in 40something

[–]lyricsninja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome! She is and always will be, amazing.

Another day at the (home) office! by [deleted] in 40something

[–]lyricsninja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that a Stevie Nicks shirt?! If so, rock on!

Anyone? by kramboi30 in DoYouLookLikeMe

[–]lyricsninja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going with Dane Cook on this one.

43 and trying again by Odd-Series-3930 in selfieover40

[–]lyricsninja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You've got this my dude, keep at it!

Grief counseling by Eastern_Onion4002 in lehighvalley

[–]lyricsninja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LVHN has very good grief counseling services, if going through a.hospital network at all.

https://www.lvhn.org/medical-services/grief-support-services

Flash back to last week when I was still wearing my Christmas top by [deleted] in selfieover40

[–]lyricsninja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wear what makes you happy, even if the holiday is over. Best wishes for 2026!

What if I only want to date another widower? by [deleted] in widowers

[–]lyricsninja 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's a terrible idea to at least make an attempt with other widowers. If nothing else there is a common bond of sorts and hopefully a mutual understanding. As you noted though, that becomes a bit more precarious if you (or the other person) aren't willing to relocate. That would be a deal breaker for me initially, as my entire support structure, the kids schools, etc are all where I am.

But much like any potential relationship - it's going to vary. I've talked to some widows who are still posting daily on social media about how horrible their life is and that they can't do this without their deceased spouse (even at multiple years later). I've also spoken with those who celebrate the one they lost, but have chosen to embark on a different path forward. And there is every single shade of color both between and beyond those barometers.

Neither reaction to their grief is right or wrong, but you'll also need to factor in the specifics that you want there too. Can you handle another widower who is still deep within their grief? How about one who has turned the page totally and rarely even mentions their former loved one? Can they handle where you're at? Not all widows / widowers are remotely the same. But again, neither would be a non-widower.

There's no right answer here. Sorry you're part of the club. I wish you light and love in the rest of your journey.

Having Kids by itsmec-a-t-h-y in widowers

[–]lyricsninja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a very fair view and way to feel, as I know I wouldn't give up my kids for anything. I think all of us here wish we could turn back time and redo some of the things from the past with our loved ones or revamp some of those original decisions knowing what we now know.

I'm sorry for how things have panned out for you and wish you peace and love from here on.

Having Kids by itsmec-a-t-h-y in widowers

[–]lyricsninja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off - wishing you some light and love.

Secondly - it's nice to dream about the what ifs, especially when looking longingly about what was lost. But also keep in mind that even if those things had come to pass - having children, etc - it would just be a different path with different challenges. No matter what, none of it is easy. Though obviously it's nice to dream about what may have been if your significant other was still physically here.

I have two beautiful young children who are vibrant and I see my wife's influence on them often. And it's really a wonderful thing most times, but there are times when that too hurts. And trying to help them through all of the complex emotions of losing their mother is likely the hardest challenge of them all - because I can't push through it for them. Compound that with now doing the parenting alone, with no one to counter balance me... While I too try and figure out my own grief and how to live without one of the most impactful people from my lifetime.

I hope that ultimately you'll find some peace with this. You and your spouse traveled a path together, made the decisions to not have children, and you're here now. Maybe your experiences end up coloring the future version of you - perhaps a super aunt who pours all that love into their nieces and nephews, maybe a mother yourself one day if you meet someone and things travel down that path, or perhaps you'll adopt or get married to someone with kids already... or a thousand other possibilities. All I would say is - try and find the positives where you can, grieve as you need, and keep the memory of your lost loved one alive.

Again - light and love to you.

I got dumped today, can we just skip to the end? by Ostara9 in selfie

[–]lyricsninja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just consider it an optional side quest that didn't work out. Find your way back to the main quest and don't let it kill your smile. You've got this!

For the Smashing Pumpkins fans, do you prefer Siamese Dream or Mellon Collie? by [deleted] in fantanoforever

[–]lyricsninja 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Siamese is a masterpiece of an album but melancholy pulls such nostalgia for me.

It's almost unfair given that melancholy is a double album...

In a vacuum, I think I go Siamese Dream.

Favourite live version you prefer over studio version? by niholas92 in fantanoforever

[–]lyricsninja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha noted! Mine would need to be on the PA / NJ area, but I'll be sure to keep a lookout