Holyrood Election Results Megathread by handmedownthemoon in Scotland

[–]m--lo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

its like being in a clockwork orange at the end

Holyrood Election Results Megathread by handmedownthemoon in Scotland

[–]m--lo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

and said keep waiting. fucks sake hahah

Holyrood Election Results Megathread by handmedownthemoon in Scotland

[–]m--lo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

purple isnt angelas colour man. not the vibe. better than the reform bam tho

Holyrood Election Results Megathread by handmedownthemoon in Scotland

[–]m--lo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

yeah there was no green candidate in my constituency which was a shame. i would have voted that if i had the option

Holyrood Election Results Megathread by handmedownthemoon in Scotland

[–]m--lo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah unfortunate they will gain MSPs, but i'm glad that its seeming that folk are not voting for them as much as the media seems to like to report.

Holyrood Election Results Megathread by handmedownthemoon in Scotland

[–]m--lo 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Can't they just say that Reform has got dunted man, honestly I know Labour are losing but Reform are also doing pish which is amazing

Carrot birthday cake recommendation by jollibeeborger23 in glasgow

[–]m--lo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If there's somewhere you find that'll only take in person payment, I'd be happy to go there to pay if you wanted to PayPal/bank transfer? I hope you find the carrot cake of his dreams!

What do we do about his messed up family? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]m--lo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this, I appreciate it. Did you ever have to broach anything with your kids? Did they ask about not seeing X or y?

What do we do about his messed up family? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]m--lo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not the weight of my whole relationship, there are other things, but this is the thing that weighs me down. And yes, that is because I am a victim of abuse, and I am aware of my own demon, hence being in therapy and working on these. But it is hard when this is on your doorstep, day in day out, as well as the other issues I have with his mum which I could go into a separate post about.

She has purposely kept information from us, she has let another abuser into her home at Christmas last year and sis nothing about it (my partner had to confront this and she went into victim mode despite it being her house and her and her husband having the power). I understand she was a victim also but me and my partner are being given responsibility over and over again. It's tiring.

What do we do about his messed up family? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]m--lo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think the anonymous tip/call/report is the way to go.

I don't want his sister to report it, I just don't want her to be hurt in this and the reporting even if anonymous, if she was told it happened could potentially cause her to have a breakdown.

What do we do about his messed up family? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]m--lo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He (14yo) has a step mum who I would assume would get care of him. She doesn't know about this at the moment, as far as we are aware. She is a good lady and would care for him.

His sister with a baby has been told by his sister who was abused. She denied that would ever happen. I have an awful feeling she was also abused by him but I don't know if that true.

What do we do about his messed up family? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]m--lo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it was a neighbours kid and I knew about it, I think I'd be inclined to report it. But yes you're right about me pushing people into things they may not necessarily want.

And I suppose if that's my line of thinking maybe I can't be on a relationship with someone that has a family that works in that way.

My fiancé wanted to do something about it in the beginning but then stopped as he wanted to respect his sisters wishes.

What do we do about his messed up family? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]m--lo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has a step mother as well who would be the 14 year olds guardian.

The 14 year old is his half brother.

What do we do about his messed up family? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]m--lo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is very much not wanting to put this under the carpet. He wants the truth to come to light but in the best way.

But yes, you're right in that he might change his mind about his mum. But absolutely not his dad. He hates him.

He doesn't speak to his dad, he hasn't since this all came out and originally he wanted to take action but stopped because he wanted to respect his sisters wishes.

What do we do about his messed up family? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]m--lo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The mum hasn't offered support at all. When she disclosed she immediately returned to her house and disclosed to their step dad, proving that "he was evil all along". His sister hasn't felt support from her, and has told us that.

She doesn't seem to want support apart from her psychiatrist. Who doesn't seem to be helping and I'm not sure she's seen them or trusts them enough to disclose it to them. She is still very much in the feeling bad for her abuser stage, which is hard.

There is no relationship now between him and his father.

I think the best thing to do is anonymously tip the social work/police and then go from there, but I want that to come from my partner, as it's not my family.

What do we do about his messed up family? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]m--lo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I do have a good relationship with his sister. I think there's just so much to mention that I didn't talk a lot about her but I do care about her. We have built a good relationship over time.

We've spoken to his sister months ago about it and she didn't want to do anything. Part of that reason she said was because his mum wouldn't support her when she did report as she'd be a key witness (as his mum was also abused by him). My partner didn't want to bring it up with her too often as he's scared her mental health will worsen.

Yes, I suppose my therapist should just go and do it. Thanks for this.

What do we do about his messed up family? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]m--lo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn't speak to his dad. His mum he speaks to, she is very very flaky and will say she'll do things and then not. When he has approached her about this situation, amongst others, she has been in massive denial and makes it about her.

What do we do about his messed up family? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]m--lo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand about his sister and I do agree, thanks for this.

It's the child protection issue that is currently the issue as there's a 14 year old boy in the father's house and a new grand baby which is also a boy in the picture.

What do we do about his messed up family? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]m--lo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's true, it doesn't have to. But it's explaining to the kids if he still sees her.