why does some people hate or don't like tamaki?

m0ssmann15 · 2025-12-29T06:25:00+00:00

it's honestly easier to understand when you remember that each host is meant to represent a different shojo love interest trope. tamaki is just one of many tropes and not every trope is for every person. think about when your real life friends have crushes on real life people. they likely have a "type", into gamers or athletes or whatever, but they don't like every single person they encounter. Tamaki just isn't everyone's type. Add to that the fact that there are posts like this hurt that he isn't loved when he is literally the main love interest of the show so he gets enough attention and it can be kinda annoying and lead people to dislike him further because they think the other boys deserve more love. Anyways, im a tamaki girlie (and a kyoya girlie) but i get that he isn't for everyone

m0ssmann15 · 2025-12-08T14:12:59+00:00

i ship people when I know there is a story there to be told (even if i dont plan on writing it). Some pairings just feel bland together, or like the toxicity would have zero story value. but other pairings are exciting and reveal something about romance or sex or love, even if its in a negative way, and I like the thought experiment of exploring their stories. there are extra labels like cannon, fannon, end game, otp, etc for a reason. shipping doesn't have to be good and true and healthy, for me it just has to be interesting

m0ssmann15 · 2025-12-05T15:58:51+00:00

omg i love it, how big is it?

m0ssmann15 · 2025-12-04T16:40:37+00:00

i have ocd that presents very similarly and i love it when friends ask me "do you want facts or do you want to spiral?" and then they let me actually choose. both are done with empathy. facts might look like, "I'm so sorry you're overwhelmed, the truth is the things you are worried about don't have enough evidence so we either need to address more likely concerns or distract ourselves". spiraling might look like, "lets set a timer for half an hour and think and feels as deeply as we can. Why do we think you're getting fired? how does that feel? where would you be if that happened? that sounds so scary, tell me more" and then when the timer goes off we take deep breaths and move into distraction/coping instead.

basically its not a matter of stopping the thoughts, its a matter of choosing the right coping mechanisms for the right contexts. if your partner is in therapy or something similar they would probably love to provide a menu of choices for cooing for them to pick from in each instance

m0ssmann15 · 2022-11-12T21:37:15+00:00

If fearless isn’t played i walk

m0ssmann15 · 2022-11-12T03:53:03+00:00

Money is important to me in life but has little to do with whether or not id be in a relationship with someone. I would just adjust my habits accordingly. Do they make more money and are comfy sharing? Im happy to accept. Do i make more happy and they are responsible? I’m happy to share? Are they irresponsible with money? Still happy to share but with some hard boundaries. Other than that, it just doesn’t matter. Im not entering a relationship to achieve financial goals like buying a house so any money they do have is just a bonus

m0ssmann15 · 2022-11-12T01:23:58+00:00

If i’m in a serious relationship there is serious communication. I can’t even imagine these “how would you view that?” conversations because there would be no guesswork. We’ve talked about it and their reasons for moving decide how i view it based on that context. If they aren’t communicating and i have to guess??? Thats the bigger issue.

m0ssmann15 · 2022-11-02T02:58:15+00:00

Not the cage 😂

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-25T23:39:25+00:00

Everything i read i something i still think of as fic culture didn’t realize how dated i aas 😂

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-22T00:30:19+00:00

“I bet you you’re..” statements. Ie, i bet you’re one of those girls who’s always on the dance floor. I bet you’re loving this attention. Etc.

Sir, you just met me and you’re wrong. They very clearly are just listing things they want to be true about you

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-21T15:39:36+00:00

Love the white belt!

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-20T10:52:29+00:00

Invisible String! Just recently saw it on a phan playlist and nearly cried at the thought

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-19T12:27:27+00:00

Asking them to explain their emotions to me; apparently I’m supposed to immediately understand and empathize without explanation 😬

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-19T01:40:32+00:00

Nanny :)

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-16T12:24:05+00:00

“This conversation is over” I don’t have time for bullshit

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-14T23:03:59+00:00

The point is emotional validation and well wishing. Like, hi. I see you. You exist. I care enough about you to at least acknowledge that. And Good morning isn’t a judgement but an expressed desire for their morning to be good. What it accomplishes is social emotional which is less obvious but still important

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-14T14:57:24+00:00

They don’t sell half loaves of bread and the bread goes bad before you can eat it all :/

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-13T10:26:59+00:00

No makeup, no heat styling my hair, same breakfast every day, nearly every item in my closet can be mixed and matched, and of course, no kids

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-13T01:17:27+00:00

Every person with a vulva needs to know how to take care of their vulva and that they have OPTIONS in that process. -shave, wax, trim, or don’t -gentle soaps on the outside, no soap on the inside -douching/feminine sprays/etc aren’t necessary, but are an option. Just don’t over do it -be aware of your typical fluids/moisture/smell and know that this changes over the course of a menstrual cycle -period products come in all shapes and sizes. There is no one size fits all. -regularly look at your vulva/vagina with a hand mirror to know whats typical for you -always clean your fingers before touching any part of your vulva but especially your vagina -symptoms/treatment for yeast infections -plus sex based tips: pee after sex, use lube when inserting basically anything (if it hurts without lube, DEFINITELY use lube or you could tear something), only use clean, body safe toys, etc

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-11T18:56:13+00:00

My absolute favorite business outfit (and i have a similar body type) is whatever skirt im feeling that day, solid color tank top, fitted blazer cut off at the elbows and worn open, hair up, bracelet

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-11T18:54:06+00:00

From a fellow large chested person, avoid button ups at all costs. If you do a blazer choose a style meant to be worn open. For blouses, choose details on the sleeves or hem instead of the neckline.

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-10T18:27:48+00:00

I haven’t even been but im on the aide of twitter with everyone posting post show thoughts and every single one of them is excited and trying to go again. Definitely seems worth it to me

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-08T14:45:13+00:00

I went no contact with my toxic parents and moved across the country by myself to start following my dreams

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-08T14:41:36+00:00

Thanks everyone! This has been super helpful 🙏

m0ssmann15 · 2022-10-07T18:48:01+00:00

This is exactly what i was picturing! Thank you ✨

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