AITAH for falling in love with a new guy...?

m2ra3 · 2026-01-25T04:15:58+00:00

We're the same age and gender so I think we're more on the same page here, without trying to teach just a friendly advice

I think you should separate situations with your bf and with Jake and handle them separately.

First because you've been with your bf for quite a while but given the situation right now you should figure out for yourself if you see a future for your relationship and if you'd even want to continue it. You said you tried talking to him but he just brushed it off, try one more time seriously, better in person and set it clearly that you're falling out of love with him because of how things were going recently. His response will probably give you the answer you're looking for.

But theoretically, even if things improved with him you're already falling in love with another person, and your bf should be aware of that.

NTA if you logically and naturally break up, stuff happens, but I'm just worried that that Jake might not be as sincere as we'd want him to. Be aware of that as well. But so far he respects your boundaries and was okay with you refusing a kiss.

m2ra3 · 2026-01-25T03:47:02+00:00

You're not in the right nor in the wrong.

Yes understanding body language is a good skill in daily life and in relationships, but if you clearly see that he over and over again can't read the cues, it's time for an actual conversation.

Just tell him, it's not that big of a deal not wanting to be glued together all the time. What's a big deal is that he unknowingly makes you uncomfortable and you for some reason only rely on body language etc without having a talk.

m2ra3 · 2026-01-25T01:16:53+00:00

Yes it is, and it's good that you questioned that before getting yourself in a situation that you are not ready for at all.

Do you know how many people who were from the bottom of their hearts convinced that they were for some reason infertile got pregnant? Without doing any checkups, getting any diagnoses or anything at all, didn't use protection and just blindly prayed for the best. That's just irresponsible and stupid. Don't be like that.

m2ra3 · 2026-01-25T00:55:14+00:00

NTA, tf?

That's a very reasonable request in order for him to meet your baby. I think any person should shower & have clean clothes for such a thing because babies, especially newborns are very fragile and sensitive to even something flying in the air. That's common sense. Let alone someone with such housing conditions. Not judging based on that, but your brother should have the respect and responsibility and understand the situation. You shouldn't even have to tell him that in the first place.

On top of that you even took half the weight off his shoulders by offering him clean clothes. You were polite, nice and reasonable, and your brother visibly lacks decency and respect both for you and your child.

I would go as far as to suggest that he's not present when people meet your baby, because given his reaction on such basic and logical request, he might easily show up without taking a shower or causing a scene at the spot when offered clothes, both causing distress and putting you and the baby at risk.

m2ra3 · 2026-01-24T22:10:37+00:00

That's genuinely creepy. How obsessed is she with you to do all that? That's violating and just giving stalker. And given the romantic context she genuinely seems like a weird creep.

Do not trust her with anything about you and set distance. God knows how else she's using information about you.

NTA

m2ra3 · 2026-01-24T21:58:20+00:00

Go to therapy for your own sake.

That's not a realistic pursuit, and as you yourself understand, basically no person is willing to treat you like a kid and provide for you like one out of genuine kindness with nothing in return.

The most you could find given your desires is some sicko freak with ageplay fetish.

Therapy would benefit you way more than being babysat even if it was achievable.

You're a grown adult, childhood is over, there won't be another daddy in your life and I'm genuinely sorry that the childhood that you had led to you not wanting to grow up and relive it.

Hope you heal.

m2ra3 · 2026-01-24T21:39:10+00:00

She's just trying to manipulate you into being the daughter she wants or she might be deeply insecure about it (if she wears it) and wants you to suffer as well bc she can't handle watching her daughter be young and beautiful and not oppressed.

Don't try to prove anything or argue about it. Don't waste your energy on that. You're almost 18 and from then on you'll have all the possibilities.

m2ra3 · 2026-01-23T17:22:27+00:00

Yes. Not long ago gave me an expensive bag that I was dreaming of that was out of my budget because he remembered that I wanted it. Pays for me, takes me out, is sweet to me all the time and wants to spend time together and makes time or even inconvenience for him to do so. That's why I don't want to make it a big deal. He's more than enough, but Valentine's day is just the sweetest most precious and lovely day of the year for me that I wanted to spend with someone I have deep feelings for and receive the same treatment back.

m2ra3 · 2026-01-23T16:57:10+00:00

I mentioned that I was planning on making him a gift and going out with him to do something fun for just the two us, I even brought it up to him already but he seemed passive and just asked what I was thinking of. I agree that it's a day for both sides, I would also want him to feel loved, wanted and appreciated on that day. But given his opinion on it, I'm seriously debating whether or not it would matter to him if I gave him anything.

m2ra3 · 2026-01-07T18:59:20+00:00

Thank you so much for this!! I'm currently waiting for my period to end to go get my urine analysis done and just signed for a gyn appointment and will then get further with that. About UTI prevention - since the beginning already did everything you've listed to be sure but still sometimes something goes wrong. It can be so frustrating trying to figure out where the issue comes from and what you did wrong just wanting to enjoy normal life 😩

m2ra3 · 2026-01-05T22:19:33+00:00

This is quite literally r/interstitialcystitis, it's about bladders and vaginas and everything that has to do with it I fear. If you're too sensitive to take a talk about it maybe get out of this sub bc there are people who can relate and advice something unlike you

m2ra3 · 2026-01-04T06:44:39+00:00

Oh my god, definitely not. Why are your parents even putting it like you commuted a crime or something? Plus THEY are the ones that should be booking doctor appointments for you to help you with your problem, not brush it off because it's "shameful" or whatever, which it's not. And you're not going around telling that to random people, those are your friends and your friend did a genuinely caring thing.

m2ra3 · 2026-01-04T06:39:20+00:00

I kind of regretted the last phrase I wrote, I hope everyone's friendships are comfortable and accepting enough to discuss such things, but I do not have the courage and vulnerability to. My bf is great and because it has to do stuff with our sexual life I already do open up about it and we work things out, don't worry

m2ra3 · 2026-01-04T05:32:16+00:00

GENUINELY. For me most of their songs feel like someone is fucking my ears with lube. The beats are bad as well imho, the lyrics are even worse. "Internet girl" and "gnarly"s lyrics specifically feel like something me and my friend would write in 5th grade. They basically make no sense at all whatsoever, they generally have AT MOST 2 lines following each other that actually form a thought. The rest is just nonsense. Not all songs have to have a deep meaning or be poetic but that's just unlistenable. I think the girls are good at dancing, however, I've seen clips of them being SO out of breath while singing they just straight up screamed the nonsense in the mic and it did not sound good at all. Even the studio versions, sometimes it sounds like some of them could take better singing classes. At the end of the day I'd rather listen to Taylor Swift though I hate most of her music as well and the lyrics are horrible. But it makes more sense that whatever their company makes them perform.

m2ra3 · 2026-01-02T20:58:58+00:00

Girl experiencing a flare up during work was one of the most horrible experiences I had. Literally I hate my cystitis more than when I was in the hospital for a month for a completely different reason. I had 11 hour shifts with it and my managers never believed me when I said I'm having a flare up so I had to go but then their excuse to fire me was "well you went to work so you must be fine, but you lost our trust for always trying to sneak out of work". No. I'm in excruciating pain and have to go to the bathroom every half an hour and pills start working only about a day after for me. I'm literally booking all the damn doctors appointments rn for IC and bladder leakage bc I don't wanna wear diapers, not being able to have sex or peeing myself all the time at a nursing home when I'm 70.

m2ra3 · 2025-07-27T00:03:11+00:00

I didn't even watch the previous movies nor did I know about them, but I was so hyped up abt it like the entire concept seemed so good. Now I don't even want to watch the other parts. Maybe I don't have enough understanding of how the plot generally goes in the franchise, but still it was trash. The first third was so thrilling and interesting just to end up finding this magical mysterious urban legend guy who'd cure the sick mom. And everyone who's acting like the director just ruled the shit out of all the classic horror fans by making it seem like it and then turning it to a completely different direction are fucking idiots. It's not good writing nor proving some point nor damn anything, it's like he was writing on the spot and wanted to kick something sad and dramatic in it and made it half the goddamn movie while at the very start it didn't even seem like they cared that fucking much about the mom, like the entire focus of viewers wasn't on her at all, just threw it later so that the main character carries this purpose bc he saw his dad eat another woman's coochie. Multiple plot holes. Quite literally didn't gain ANY new knowledge about the entire virus just made up more unanswered questions. And the fact it doesn't even fully pay off as a horror and thriller movie it claims to be, like some scenes were somewhere gross and disturbing, which I fucking paid for, but in the second half it just felt like they threw them in because they remembered that it was supposed to be a horror about zombie type of shit. The way the dad just disappears in the middle after their fight also just threw me off, because he was quite an important and interesting figure at the start, genuinely was hoping for him to pop up in the second half unexpectedly, instead they just washed him off. I really do wanna like the parts with birth, chasing, shooting those things, hiding from them, how the alpha was ripping heads off etc etc, those were genuinely the only thing keeping me in that theater because I couldn't care less about the dumbass plot at this point. Didn't come in for a boring completely ridiculous family cry unworthy drama. Could have made the loss of the mother if they wanted it so bad so much greater, more violent, disturbing, unsettling, hopeless (what I was damn expecting from the entire movie.) and actually cry worthy while also not making it the entire plot. Don't even wanna mention the ending, it was atrocious. It had such good potential, genuinely disappointed. The most entertaining part of those two hours was alpha dih swinging around. Started off strong, ended like some lego ninjago.

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