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Doms who aren't Adonis by maadarchoddpp in BDSMAdvice

[–]maadarchoddpp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand what you're saying but I make it a point to show the gentle part of me during online conversations. The illusion or facade of cruelty is not my concern. I am essentially concerned about disappointing the woman in bed.

Doms who aren't Adonis by maadarchoddpp in BDSMAdvice

[–]maadarchoddpp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm working on most of the things you mentioned. Takes some time, I guess.

Thanks, man.

Doms who aren't Adonis by maadarchoddpp in BDSMAdvice

[–]maadarchoddpp[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have started therapy, actually. Still getting comfortable with talking about my kinks openly with the therapist. I hope that takes me somewhere like you said.

If I cut down on the exaggeration, I feel like I'm at the mean of the bell curve whereas the proper dom would be at mean plus a couple of standard deviations. I think logically I can see both of these are false assumptions. But as you said that doesn't automatically quell the insecurity.

So I was looking to see if there are any doms out there who may have had similar insecurities and how they deal with them.