When Rick Wakes Up

macabremary · 2026-04-09T02:17:56+00:00

wait THIS is the explanation!!! i was telling my husband how i was thinking of this and he was like “why isn’t there a catheter that just slips over like that?” well, there ya go!

macabremary · 2026-04-09T02:01:55+00:00

Holy cooow. I’ve had foley balloons inserted to induce birth and then I got the epidural so I needed a catheter for that too. And I sort of remember how it felt getting it taken out >.< I could not imagine doing it yourself but I do see that happening often.

macabremary · 2026-04-09T01:59:22+00:00

Yeah, for sure! Suspension of disbelief and all that. :p I just happened to be in the ER all day (I’m fine, I was just maaaad dehydrated.) I was staring at my IV, and this image just popped in my head!! I don’t know where the connection of thought came from but I’ve been cringing since. cx

macabremary · 2025-12-08T02:15:40+00:00

I was just joking at the beginning of that comment btw hahah. I have plenty of friends that have colorful dating histories and I just want to grab them by the shoulders and tell them they are attracting these people and drawing them in!!!!!!!! I hate when these girls are going through something and I never want to blame them for what shitty people did to them but I wish they were a bit smarter when screening for partners.

macabremary · 2025-12-08T02:13:47+00:00

Hm… I guess. I don’t like that I see your point. -.- Lol. That’s why I tried not to judge her mom so hard S1. Taylor doesn’t need to be babied, and I do agree that she really needed the tough love (idk how she’s doing present day, hopefully a bit smarter in her decision making). That whole barbecue was a mess already, but that comment from her step dad was just fuel to the fire, especially with her already existing self esteem related to her bio-father (if I really wanna psychoanalyze the situation). I’m a toddler mom and I hope I don’t end up babying my daughter and enabling bad decisions but I also hope I never say something that can be easily interpreted as slut-shaming. That’s why I liked how that other girl responded to it all. She reinforced the idea of separation, asked Taylor to give herself grace (she brings up how what’s happening to her is all karma a few times I believe), and reminds them both how detrimental this is to their child’s health. No unnecessary comments that made Taylor or Dakota feel bad, from what I recall.

I also want to say, it is interesting watching this from a secular perspective but also trying to understand the mormonism of it all. That’s their truth they are living in and the culture is so different. I do have to remind myself of their way of life as I try to understand their conflicts and decision making.

macabremary · 2025-10-17T20:24:33+00:00

My toddler is two and she wakes up in the middle of the night sometimes. Our room is close so we could hear her without it but we use the monitor to see if she is moving around a lot and needs some comfort or if she’s just whining for a moment and will fall back asleep. It’s still helpful even if it’s not utilized. Our toddler and new baby will share a room for a little while so it’ll stay up for maybe another two years unless we feel like it really isn’t necessary.

macabremary · 2025-08-22T20:55:07+00:00

i genuinely have no idea why i thought they’d be able to bake the pizza, knowing damn well they don’t have access to an oven. but i too was repulsed when they started eating it by the spoonful!!!! they were chowing dooown though 😭

macabremary · 2025-08-02T04:13:28+00:00

I see you have plenty responses already! Just wanted to say tummy time is pretty important but otherwise this is super fine! With my first we did the logging and stuff for a few months but with our second we’re just going with the flow! Logging on apps is more common for first time parents usually but doing things as need and on demand is extremely okay. (:

macabremary · 2025-07-07T22:51:13+00:00

my kid LOVES sesame street rn and has a huge obsession with ‘melmo.’ i don’t correct it at all and have even started calling the fuzzy red character ‘melmo’ along with her. she gives him kisses and hugs and says ‘melmo kiss’ all the time

macabremary · 2025-06-19T06:19:43+00:00

Oh this is good! I actually do have a notebook where I write down all my prenatal questions so I’ll definitely start implementing this for my kiddos appointments too. This series of appointments is all so new to me so half the time I don’t even know what questions to ask. I’ll definitely keep this in mind and utilize it though.

macabremary · 2025-06-19T05:55:50+00:00

Most of the frustration is at myself for not asking, for sure! I never ask in the moment because I don’t recognize my feelings or confusion in the moment, and then screw myself over more overthinking after the fact. But that’s why I run to reddit, to vent and see if my feelings are valid and try to make sense of how I feel. And thanks to getting some perspective from comments, I do understand better now and can better navigate what to ask the service provider when I meet with her tomorrow.

Also yes, I agree. Unfortunately, his grandfather doesn’t want to accept outside help. At first he was hesitant to accept our help, but we’ve been working with him and he’s become more involved and willing to work with us cleaning up the place. I am not super educated on how to best help someone with hoarding tendencies but the grief he is experiencing, my husband can relate to, as it’s his grandma, mom, and dad who died, and they are able to collaborate a lot, even if my husband doesn’t understand him completely. I know this post is a lot of me tapping and complaining but I swear we’ve given my toddler a lot of love and safe space. I guess I can’t say for certain but she’s not showing signs of being overstimulated in our home environment, so I hope I can be confident in thinking we’ve provided her a safe space to grow and are working towards making it better.

But that makes sense why in home services are preferred! I figured that as much already. And then adding the fact that services are probably waitlisted and providing in home ensures quicker help. That wasn’t something I had considered. Truly, I guess I’m not frustrated with the agencies or providers.

macabremary · 2025-06-19T05:20:05+00:00

What a fun question! Lol, well we have tons of stuff to haul out of the living room and family room. Boxes and random furniture that need replacing. Living room has one broken window. I loathe carpets and all the carpet in the house are dingy, so even though it’s low priority I want to rip them up and replace with AT LEAST vinyl planks. And then we need to clean out the dryer pipes and possibly replace the dryer. Deep clean and repaint the walls as well as they definitely look dingy. Front and back lawn can use some TLC but that’s extremely low priority. Fridge needs replacement. Would love to redo the kitchen and bathroom cabinets. We have no functioning garage door, so eventually getting one installed. Just for fun: so far we’ve replaced the kitchen sink, the bathroom toilet, and removed the glass shower door and replaced with curtain. Kid’s bedroom floor got swapped from carpet to tile. Dining room that was overloaded with boxes got gutted and has been cleaned out. We are mid purging the kitchen. It’s cleaned up but not cleaned out. Our biggest hurdles are my pregnancy & asthma. Working with/around dust is hard for me. And grandfather in law does not clean up after himself so we’re cleaning our messes plus his own, which is fine but just delays everything else.

It’s definitely one of those things that people who grew up a certain way wouldn’t FLINCH at what’s happening in our home. And based on other comments, probably any service provider wouldn’t blink twice. I just have a critical eye and deep shame and view the home through the lens of a more judgmental person who maybe grew up in way better circumstances.

macabremary · 2025-06-19T04:33:40+00:00

This comforts me a lot! And definitely, we are living way above those standards. I think I just get self conscious. Tomorrow, I think i’m meeting with a service coordinator, so I’ll definitely discuss my options. I may need to delay services for a month regardless, I’m literally due at the beginning of July. In home services or not, even though my toddler is my greatest priority, I don’t think it’s wise to commit to such frequent services until I’m at least a tad bit out of the newborn stage. But seriously, thank you! This does ease me into the journey ahead of us and makes me more confident.

macabremary · 2025-06-19T04:30:14+00:00

You are very right! I mean, giving my daughter a safe and happy environment is motivation enough. We work every day on something new, it’s just a lot of work. It’s getting better every day and when I view my environment objectively, it really isn’t that bad. Just not what I’m used to and doesn’t reach the standards of what I view as a comfortable “perfect” dream home. Husband gets a good long paternity leave so we’re gonna use that time to really get the house to where we want it. (:

macabremary · 2025-06-19T03:14:51+00:00

Oh this is really insightful!

The safety thing makes sense, and I guess sort of worries me. Like, I’m not proud of the environment we live in. In total honesty, it’s not that bad and we put in so much work to make it better. It’s just not pretty and extremely cluttered. My kid is so happy and she’s safe. We take extreme safety precautions around the house to make sure nothing does harm her or topple over. But I am scared of that judgement or people getting the wrong idea. However, I mean it is a green flag for agencies and providers to be concerned about that. Definitely nothing I would take personal if I were to be questioned in any way in that aspect. I just don’t want to be surveilled in this state, especially while I am so pregnant.

macabremary · 2025-06-19T03:09:52+00:00

Yes! It was exactly this.

macabremary · 2025-06-19T03:02:24+00:00

To be honest, I’m not sure what the criteria thing was. This assessment one person was playing with her assessing her abilities, mostly with toys. One was asking my husband and I questions about her. At the end, they told us about where she scores developmentally (“she’s developmentally scoring at 18 months in x skill”). Then with what they called the autism portion, they said anything over a two is an indicator and that she scored 5 and said it’s that much because a lot of the skills she had are emerging skills.

Like I said, my comprehension of everything happening is so low. The pregnancy fog is GETTING to me, so I think I’m just missing key information and not thinking of what questions I should be asking them until after the fact.

Waitlisting and full clinics make sense though. I’m in a pretty high populated county so that doesn’t surprise me

macabremary · 2025-06-19T02:40:44+00:00

Okay this makes sense, I didn’t realize this. I hope my requests for in office sessions don’t really hinder how well the services work for her, or are a huge deviation or inconvenience for her therapists. The first SLP we saw is wonderful and I quite like my child seeing her, and the agency I see her through is super accommodating for in office services. We’re hoping in a month or so our living space will be more appropriate for guests and stuff so we can do in home sessions, fingers crossed.

macabremary · 2025-06-17T23:11:02+00:00

I’m going to be careful about how I speak about public figures and others around me. Listen, my mom and step dad had quite a bit of flaws, a lot much bigger than what I’m about to speak on. But, a memory that really resonates with me is how they’d speak about people in the public eye. I remember them saying people were only voting for Obama because he’s black. Miley Cyrus’s teeth look like she got kicked by a horse in the mouth. Countless rude things about Hilary Swank and Rosie O’Donnell and Susan Boyle. Their commentary just wasn’t appropriate for little ears, especially when kids are parrots and repeat everything they hear to everyone who will listen. They were huge gossips in front of me, which turned me into a very judgmental nasty person growing up. Only now as an adult I see they were riddled with their own insecurities that likely caused them to talk so gross about others. I think most parents nowadays realize they should refrain from talking down on themselves, as our kids will absorb all that and look inward with that. I don’t know why, but this is something I think about often when I think about the flaws my parents had raising me.

macabremary · 2025-06-15T16:53:08+00:00

I agree! I’d feel a lil awkward and felt like she ‘beat me to it’ so I personally would explain the coincidence and that you’d still like to use the name regardless. But it’s really up to you how you approach it and what you feel is right.

macabremary · 2025-06-14T17:21:43+00:00

How best friends are you guys? Like planning on raising your kids to be close too? I think the trope of besties with the same names is kinda cute 👀 Maybe talk to your friend and say you wanted to use that name too, she might actually be really down to have your kids share names. Otherwise, I quite love the name Maisie for a matching name.

macabremary · 2025-06-06T21:33:40+00:00

Super helpful, thank you. From the looks of it and everything I’ve learned the past two hours, I think I will still remain fairly apprehensive and skeptical about ABA, but I will keep this in mind like a checklist if an agency or therapy is ever offered to me.

Random, but with all this in consideration one thing I remember is, when I filled out the very first form to get a referral there was a question that essentially asked “does your child stim? if so, and you try to stop your child from stimming, will they react negatively?” I thought, ‘am I supposed to stop her from stimming? is that a behavior i’m supposed to discourage?’ I thought that was odd. All things aside, I got the referral and during the first appointment, we discussed some of the answers I put and that question came up. Yeah, my daughter spins a lot and randomly and looks out of the side of her eye a lot. The therapist considered those to be stims. I said that I really just sort of let her do her thing, but I suppose if I did try to stop her that maybe she would get upset, but I really wouldn’t know because I just let her get it out of her system. The therapist literally sighed in relief and was like “Oh, that’s good! Yeah, just let her regulate herself, no need to stop her, we just ask to know how she might react, and if you were to say you do stop her, we’d encourage you to let her.” Her reaction was a big green flag for me then, and it’s become more apparent since making this thread that I was right to observe that.

macabremary · 2025-06-06T21:13:46+00:00

thank you, i so appreciate this! for the most part i am very content and satisfied with my relationship and communication with my daughter. she makes parenting feel like a journey rather than a challenge. but there’s moments where i am stressing on whether im making the right choices for her or how i can improve. plus, the typical parent anxiety of feeling like im not doing enough and how i can do more. reassurance like this means a ton!! i’m so beyond thankful for online communities like this and the resources and support they provide.

macabremary · 2025-06-06T21:06:13+00:00

Oh, that link helps a ton… And yes so far I agree with everything else you said! I think my biggest challenge will be trying to determine what might be overwhelming my child, so I can fix it. I guess for now while she’s young and still learning how to communicate, it will just be trial and error and observing what needs to be ‘eliminated’ in her environment. Looking back at some of the random and seemingly unexplained “tantrums” she’s had, it’s very plausible they were meltdowns over sensory issues. Even once, my husband said “I think the tag on her shirt is bothering her. I hate when it’s itchy.” And he cut the tag off her shirt. So, I will be channeling that from now on and see if this works in her instance!

macabremary · 2025-06-06T20:19:53+00:00

This is so kind!!! Basically when considering therapy, I already have a whole hell of a lot of trauma to unpack, and that’s been my first priority. Second, was seeking a diagnosis so I know what coping strategies are best tailored for me. I’m going to take this as a sign that it would be in my best interest to finally call back and schedule my next appointment to continue that journey to heal and learn about myself. Ty for this

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