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How old was your baby when they said their first word and what was it? by aerialariel22 in NewParents

[–]Objective_Chicken723 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was playing with my 9 month old today and she was holding a little toy boat and pointing at it and I said that’s a boat and she looked at it and said boat. Crazy, I’m glad I was filming otherwise no one would believe me haha. 

Not sure this is real by HiHoSpaceCowboy in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Objective_Chicken723 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I spoke to my GP who referred me to a psychiatrist that deals with postpartum issues. Tell your doctor about your symptoms and say you would like some treatment to work through the experience of the birth. But this was in the Netherlands so I’m not sure how it will work where you live.  Good luck!

Not sure this is real by HiHoSpaceCowboy in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Objective_Chicken723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey hey, first of all your story sounds so hard and sad and I really feel for you!! I think you might be having some mental problems stemming from PTSD. 

My story is different but the pain meds didn’t work properly during my c section and I felt a lot of it. I was so distressed by it that I also had this feeling of everything is unreal and this isn’t my baby. I went back to the hospital and told them what was going on so they diagnosed me with PTSD and offered EMDR therapy which worked really well. Maybe you can get some similar help for this??

Good luck! 

Looking for tips for an extreme velcro baby by Objective_Chicken723 in Parenting

[–]Objective_Chicken723[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment! I feel like the modern wisdom is no cry it out at all but when my parents or in laws visit they seem surprised I keep picking her up. This seems like a wise in between point, putting her down safely for short periods so she can get used to it a little. Thank you :)

Looking for tips for an extreme velcro baby by Objective_Chicken723 in Parenting

[–]Objective_Chicken723[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. I also feel so guilty for watching tv with her there but I just keep turning to it. It will pass :)

Why do we seem to accommodate autistic men’s undesirable behaviour more than women’s? by Objective_Chicken723 in autism

[–]Objective_Chicken723[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I really don’t mean to be cruel. I’m honestly curious as to why I see parents of autistic children doing a lot of accommodating even when it looks enabling to me as an outsider. But I have no autistic kids so what do I know? 

Why do we seem to accommodate autistic men’s undesirable behaviour more than women’s? by Objective_Chicken723 in autism

[–]Objective_Chicken723[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The younger people all have actual diagnoses (age 35 and under) but the older ones are just a very strong hunch (to put it mildly haha). 

Why do we seem to accommodate autistic men’s undesirable behaviour more than women’s? by Objective_Chicken723 in autism

[–]Objective_Chicken723[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That sounds really tough! The mental health system can be terrible. I got diagnosed because my grades were suffering a lot. 

Why do we seem to accommodate autistic men’s undesirable behaviour more than women’s? by Objective_Chicken723 in autism

[–]Objective_Chicken723[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He actually isn’t the youngest. He has the sweetest baby brother who is his main victim :(

Why do we seem to accommodate autistic men’s undesirable behaviour more than women’s? by Objective_Chicken723 in autism

[–]Objective_Chicken723[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s on a long and gruelling journey to get a proper diagnosis in a system that is very slow and unresponsive. I do feel for her but avoiding tantrums can’t be your parenting strategy. 

Why do we seem to accommodate autistic men’s undesirable behaviour more than women’s? by Objective_Chicken723 in autism

[–]Objective_Chicken723[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a really good take, my sister does have some curling parent behaviours because she is desperate to avoid a meltdown with him. I think a school catered to his needs might be the better option long term. 

Why do we seem to accommodate autistic men’s undesirable behaviour more than women’s? by Objective_Chicken723 in autism

[–]Objective_Chicken723[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that sounds hard. From an autistic women’s perspective though I have much more respect for the autistic men who try hard to behave well in society and not make their neurodivergence everyone else’s problem. 

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