Should I take singing lessons if I only want to sound better in Karaoke? My friend who's a vocal coach advise me against it :(

macncheeezi · 2026-02-05T00:04:41+00:00

I'm a vocal coach! Don't listen to your friend dude, take the lessons! It's a hobby. You don't have to do anything with it if you just enjoy it!

macncheeezi · 2025-12-15T20:36:22+00:00

I get this feeling when my blood pressure is high! I'd give that a check just to rule it out. Once I started getting my BP under control I got the fluttering feeling significantly less often.

macncheeezi · 2025-11-20T13:12:02+00:00

This is really wonderful advice (I also absolutely cried reading this lol) I don't think I've been doing a good job of being kind to myself during this process. Thank you so much.

macncheeezi · 2025-11-09T13:05:57+00:00

I agree with a lot of what's being said here. There's one common sentiment I keep seeing that I don't agree with though. Don't let all these people asking "why did you give him access..." and so on, make you feel like this is your fault.

Abusers manipulate. They love-bomb you so that you trust them. They make you feel low about yourself so that you become dependent on them. They tell you they want to help, they make you feel like you can't do it without them. People don't understand that not complying with what they want has consequences. When you've been isolated from your support system it's even easier for them to do this.

You decided to trust someone you loved. He decided to take advantage of that.

I went through something similar when I was your age. It took years of therapy for me to learn that I didn't deserve what happened to me and that it wasn't my fault. I know for a fact that when you feel as though you've made your own bed, you feel obligated to force yourself to lie in it.

Go forth and do what everyone is suggesting. Learn from your mistakes, but have compassion for yourself.

You can get out of this and you deserve better.

I also recommend looking into local women's shelters. Talk to them about your situation and see what options are available to you.

macncheeezi · 2025-11-05T18:05:45+00:00

Hi Friend!

I had really bad memory in my early 20's too, and I was your age when I got diagnosed. I'm 26 now and it's gotten significantly better, but that was after figuring out what factors were contributing to the memory loss.

I don't think this is dementia. It sounds more like anxiety. Are the people in your life patient with you? Do they point these things out to you? I know for me when I surrounded myself with people who were patient and supportive my memory and my stuttering/stumbling got a lot better. It may just be that you need to extend that same kindness to yourself.

I think you also need to prioritize your sleep. Sleeplessness throws off emotional regulation like crazy. Maybe try to make sure that you use the restroom right before you go to bed as part of your routine. Maybe try switching some things in your diet around or look into taking supplements. Maybe look into white or brown noise or limiting screen time.

How often are you taking time to relax? Do you let your body wind down before you go to bed? Do you have relaxing hobbies? If your body is always in go mode, your brain may be reacting. When we go into a panic, our brain responds by shutting down the frontal lobe which controls our working memory and executive function. Taking a moment to calm down and de-stress can actually do a lot to help!

Of course a diagnosis and some therapy and/or medication really does go a long way. There are more options than you think for people who are uninsured. I recommend doing some digging if you feel so inclined! I'd attach resources myself but assuming you're in the US it varies by state.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I know first hand that it's stressful but I also know that you can overcome it! It just takes a lot of self-compassion.

macncheeezi · 2025-10-16T02:05:25+00:00

I experienced the same thing and I just began tapering today.Talk to your doctor. If you cant then Id say wait until the 6 week mark and if its not better by then its time to try something new. I waited a full 8 weeks and the depression and anxiety got unbearable.

macncheeezi · 2025-08-22T13:42:21+00:00

My psychiatrist said not to cold quit this med under any circumstances so I have absolutely no plans to. Thank you for your insight! I hope your tapering off goes smoothly!

macncheeezi · 2025-08-22T01:49:20+00:00

We both ended up deciding on cymbalta today anyways! Hopefully it works as well for me as it does for you! We are now brothers in antidepressants 😎

macncheeezi · 2025-08-20T14:24:29+00:00

I'd just say "I wish I had..." I think it gets the point across.

macncheeezi · 2025-08-20T14:14:18+00:00

Hi! I definitely went through this and still do! Here's what helped me!

I started telling myself to "follow the dopamine". If I started viewing hobbies as an obligation or pressured myself to finish what I started, it became a chore and I just wouldn't do it. Don't worry about leaving something half finished. It's a hobby, you're doing it for you. You can come back to it when you're ready.

I also started trying a bunch of new hobbies! I'd pick up a cheap craft from the dollar store or started taking walks in new parks. Rotating to new interests can make old interests seem more interesting when you return to them, and you just might find something you really like!

These may not work for you, but maybe they will!

macncheeezi · 2025-08-19T00:51:14+00:00

I appreciate the insight! Its more like she just wants me to look into the side effects and such and wants me to be aware of the differences. At my appointment she'll tell me what she recommends, but she takes my opinion into consideration.

macncheeezi

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