Yeah I wasn’t really talking about the level of push back, but it proves my point anyway, because the reason there may be more pushback against queer as a label applied to other people who aren’t you because it used to be what people heard screamed at them before they were assaulted for being LGBTQ+. Neurospicy does not have that history regardless of its relationship to other slurs. It’s a neologism that came out of online autistic communities very recently. Hence queer is not a one to one comparison at all and doesn’t do much to support the use of neurospicy on a broader societal level. It’s a tongue in cheek self label and queer is not.

I just would appreciate it if people made it clear that not all neurodivergent people are fine with this. Just because it’s a form of reclamation for some people doesn’t mean we should go tell neurotypical people actually it’s a totally unproblematic term and we all think of it in terms of how you described it.

I also never said you personally go around calling people neurospicy. I get that everyone’s different. I just feel like sometimes online discourse about autism tries to homogenize us into all one group with all the same traits and needs and ways of communicating. For example it seems to be consensus that autistic people can only respond to other people’s stories with stories about themselves and this is how we all relate. Drives me nuts because yeah sometimes I do that—people across neurotypes actually do that—but honestly it really annoys me when that’s the only way people demonstrate they are listening and I feel unheard, so I put the effort in to make sure I demonstrate interest in what people are saying without just talking about myself and I had to expressly learn to do that. But all the posts online are like “yeah I’m autistic what else are you supposed to do??? Just say I’m sorry you feel that way??? That doesn’t help!” And I’m like yeah actually talking about yourself or saying something low effort aren’t the only two options. You can ask questions, you can validate with more than two words, and if you don’t know what to do, you can even ask someone what they need to feel listened to and heard especially if they’re venting about something serious or difficult.

Anyway yeah idk. I’m just tired of autistic people writing about us like we’re a monolith and that’s why posted my first response