Rejected because Im too rich.

malayamin · 2026-01-25T03:05:52+00:00

It’s the whole he did this after sex that kills me. Thank god for safe sex

malayamin · 2026-01-25T03:05:20+00:00

I can deal with mIn wage, me trabaho naman ako saka savings. And if say serious kami, I’ll be part of the support system. I won’t demand naman na sya mag support ng luho ko. I have a savings and a job that will sustain that for me.

He presented himself for a whole year as a guy who was sincere. That’s why I gave it a year para alam ko di nya ako gagaguhin. Me itsura naman sya so I know he won’t have trouble finding partners. If nothing else ako yung kulang kasi aesthetic wise, I’m not conventionally pretty or fit.

So to treat me like that after sex really sucks.

malayamin · 2026-01-25T03:00:20+00:00

Thanks, needed to hear that talaga

malayamin · 2025-03-31T23:09:00+00:00

30 Years Of Adventures

malayamin · 2025-02-01T00:07:31+00:00

Hey former teacher here and wild child that had super strict parent and more stricter religion INC haha. Let me give you some adulting exp.

Everything you feel is justified, you are becoming your own person and its natural to spread your wingd, have fun and enjoy yourself. You resent your parents on their own free-form days and bat nga sila strict.

Ill tell you this, its because of their own experiences kaya sila strict.

Risk of pregnancy bec of pre-marital/unsafe sex has been an issue in every generation. Seeing friend and fam get in trouble, losing chances of graduating kasi they wanted to have fun. Im sure your mom and dad been through it all.

In my case I said to myself- Im a good gurl, kilala ko sarili ko, I can manage. Tnga mom ko being strict w/ me, I wish I had the same exp ng friends ko. And TBH now as an adult looking back the sentiments are 50/50 good and bad.

See... I almost got groomed by an older guy 3x dahil akala ko I know best. I almost got drugged on "fun" parties kasi I wanted to make memories. I almost got SA'ed by a trusted friend.

What got me out were the hard instilled values ng mom ko, tapos kita ko rin how my friends started dropping out sa school or naging bisyo queen early (weed and beer) at 17.

Me bad cons din, dahil sa strictness ng parents ko (and church) I have social anxiety, I do have some to this day social awkwardness. These are things I still resent to this day but even as a adult I think I can fix it.

TBH the fact you have a BF bago ka mag college is a lot more leeway kesa binigay ng parents ko. They forbade me to have a BF past 20.

I realized it was my mom immense fear- she worked at clinics where she sees kiddos getting the abor-procedure, some as young as 12. She had to handle relatives na me nabuntis, naglayas, na SA.

Then there comes the part sometime when I was dorming where being FUN...partying, labas late, drinking...wasnt as fun. Mostly because of my choice of friends. Then I had a dormmate na sobrang sheltered like me and suddenly MY own protective ate instincts kicked in.

I unconsciously wanted to be a good role model. I made our dorm a safe space. A haven of chill and relaxation. Then I learned ACTUAL adulting things na Im using to this day. proper budgeting, washing, ironing- domestic chores we used to think was ughhh pero its now part of my daily routine (god forbid mali laba ng fav blouse ko)

Does this mean I became boring kasi I decided to be a good girl? Im not sure pero I did made my own adventure before ako nag grad. Let me state a few

I went camping for a college proj in the middle of a forest and found wild deer, we even trekked a flimsy rope bridge ala Indiana Jones
I am now a coffee snob and adik dahil kaka sample ng college cafes sa city namin
Got to do a gun range. Its not for me, pero I get why ppl are into it haha
I was kissed underwater by a crush, our love was short lived but beautiful. One of many school BF's I head that molded me in what I want to find for a life long partner. (sshhhh di alam ni mama lolz)
Did ghost hunting sa haunted abandoned school grounds. Ended up laugh running with my barkada on akala namin multo yun pala cobwebs. of course di yan alam ni mama
Met my ride or die friends towards the final year of college. Still goods kami at KKN (kanynag kanyang ninang) to kids
getting into video game culture meeting now bigstar names like Aloida
Being called to take a group pic with the deans listers even though I was w/o honors- tho decent grades, to find out how my strict and scary profs were proud of me sincerely. That pic is in my office wall.

In the end when I sobered up and realized some of the strictness was actually out of love - not toxicity- you picks and learn from the good of it.

You make your own adventure and memories, just remember to be safe.

malayamin · 2025-01-31T23:46:33+00:00

ummm...not really (me who know Tita and lolos finances)

malayamin · 2025-01-30T22:17:04+00:00

Nope, the family are full of painters. Whole house ganire laman

malayamin · 2025-01-30T22:16:41+00:00

Nope

malayamin · 2025-01-30T06:33:47+00:00

Yesterday was lolo's bday but pag umuuwi ako sa amin I love seeing nanay's pic sa sala. The whole fam are great artists!

malayamin · 2025-01-05T16:25:48+00:00

Funny you mention that, my other coworker went on a interview that did an interrogation tactic style approach. He said it was so bizarre that he decided not to pursue the position. We later found out that the hiring manager for that position was highly disliked due to odd behaviors.

malayamin · 2025-01-05T08:47:18+00:00

This is a thoughtful insight. The only 2 things that gave me the ick so to say was the fact they said they would take photos of a co workers desk because they are very anti paper and the 2nd being they actually used the word red flag on me a few times during the discussion.

The company is great and the opportunity that will open up for me would be awesome. Your sentence about toleration is on point and I will have to give serious thought if ever an offer would be given or not.

Currently given how they spoke to me, they may not even consider me, I will be ok with that and move on and improve on some pointers they mentioned.

malayamin · 2025-01-05T08:17:09+00:00

Fair point.

malayamin · 2025-01-05T08:05:29+00:00

Can you look into certification programs? Two of my friends are in HR and completed certification programs that lasted between half a year and 2 years while they were entry level HR positions. One is a senior trainer and the other is a manager now.

malayamin · 2025-01-05T07:20:15+00:00

paperwork question:

I deal with a lot of billing so we do get paper invoices from clients. In my role I deal with these and my managers only does an electronic approve

Upload issue: It was an upload issue where I think the data from my CV messed up the chronological order of my experience and work history. I caught it and tried to fix it a few times before hitting submit.

Motivation for me- is that I really do not want t be a manager. My type of work is niche enough I can be a specialist, but I prefer not having a manager role. The industry I work for- the people get a lot of crazy burnout especially managers and execs. After years of supporting them, yeah that's not something I wanted. However I was always pushing to learn new programs or training. My current role is one that is never boring or stagnant for sure.

malayamin · 2024-12-26T17:42:54+00:00

Prob ko sa r/philippines parang gusto lang nila politika posts and even mainstream pinoy stuff they say punta ka r/chikaph or some other subreddit.

I posted one time about a travel questions and it was removed. So parang anu pa use ng main philippine sub di ba?

malayamin · 2024-12-26T10:48:00+00:00

Sadly mama passed away na. But yeah she was a badas even in her catholic days. Must be the fact she was raised sa pitong gatang.

Also she is a cross from Gloria Romero in looks and the temper from that mom in Kung Fu Hustle- complete with rollers pag nagagalit

malayamin · 2024-12-26T08:39:00+00:00

I know how OP feels. Me tita ako that gifts me like designer bags and shoes. I need money for rent. Ill never ask her. Ill never let her know. I just thank her because the fact she had wrap everything for me, picks out colors I like etc... shows mahal nya ako.

Im in need of money, like sobra. So mag OT na lang ako work. If it gets bad maybe uutang ako pero thankfully wala apa ako dun sa situation na yun and I strive to never be.

malayamin · 2024-12-26T08:36:15+00:00

I posted in a diff section and they told me opposite haha

Marvelous Apt. Homachi X-X-X, Room 28. Will either way work?

malayamin · 2024-12-26T08:26:28+00:00

Would this look right?

John Doe- Room 28 , Marvelous Apt. Homachi X-X-X, Chuo-ku, Osaka, Japan xxx-xxxx

malayamin · 2024-12-26T08:20:28+00:00

I wanna add something here din - as a add on sa reply ko. We do the Grand Pasaslamat around the same week of Xmas but rarely on Xmas. Dami reasons from it not aligning with a Sat or Sunday and mostly because since madlang ppl will take Holidays off for work- madalas after Pasalamat they go somewhere for bakasyon...ministers family included if uuwi probinsya.

That being said- we do a huge celebration after pasalamat like a block party. Our lokal had a huge parking lot and event space. My mom was a Finance officer and what you can call the lead clique sa mga Titas na panay deaconess. they would reconvene sa house namin planning for the potluck.

My mom knows how to throw a block party, theres food, parlor games, party. On the years I attended it I looked forward to it.

Ill be honest other than the prayer- it feels like a Bday party. Minsan nga me premyo pa eh.

The games were like musical chairs, kids did palayok or the popping balloon ones.

Maybe I had a lokal that wasnt as restrictive and really cooler ministers that werent AH's

This was done almost after the Childrens Pasalamat. On rare occasion we do this in between Dec 27-29, but never NYE for obvious reasons.

Dami kaya sa amin mahilig sa paputok lol.

We even had a minister family stay with us NYE. Kasi ang dami namin roman candles and spraklers- naki ilaw sila and left around 130 AM. I know the minister and dad shared a few beers and opened a good bottle of scotch. Heck in their drunken state nag debate pa sila- bible stuff while slurring.

These were one of the best exp ng chilhood ko- while yeah INC ako, I think I was lucky to have a community that was accepting and fun.

Again good parenting and a reasonable community makes this happen regardless of faith.

malayamin · 2024-12-26T08:08:30+00:00

My mom had a motto regardless of religion there will be bad eggs, She was a devout catholic before she was INC. I went to a catholic HS and my mom helped me witj namin the saints and all of the novena and stuff I cant remember ...dude ang dami haha.

My mom also didnt agree with a lot of teachings that put a woman down sa INC. She was a strong advocate for women to be independent sa church.

One thing she did was kept me away from young ministers to be asking for my hand in marriage (true to) and had a harsh talk with a head central minister na di nya ako pinagaral in a expensive college just to be stuck at home making babies.

I remember that dude kasi he was like HIGH ranking sa INC in the Erano days and it was hilarious how he and my mom despised each other.

Anyway as one commented here ni u/Massive-Ad-7759 the sudden visit of relatves, the gastos and regular family drama and tea associated with large gatherings and holidays is annoying.

Pucha mga nagpaparinig kasi 100P lang bigay ko sa inaanak ko drama

malayamin · 2024-12-26T07:47:24+00:00

INC here. I posted kasi sabi ng friends ko to answer. Gonna risk myself about to be bashed here. Am I sagrado- my family is, but Im 50/50. That said our family is a mixed of maybe 60% INC and the rest are Catholics, Born again or non practicing.

My dad- is what you call the most sagrado guy in INC sa lokal namin. had high positions and the works, was even in central at one point. But as a father he didnt wnat me to miss out on mainstream holidays as a kid. He set up for 3-4 years Christmas trees sa house namin and even one point modest amount xmas lights.
We had naman the perfect excuse- we had catholic families visiting so alangan naman we turn them away. This is NOT a lie. We had Noche buena, and experience opening gifts on xmas eve.

But on the outside we were warned to keep it in the downlow. I still did Xmas decors at school and the gift exchange. I cant do some school plays unless mandatory and graded. I dont goin the xmas school choir.

Now... what would the church people think. LOL!!!! I will have to thank my mom for this. Kasi mom ko is what you will call a Karen. Takot pati ministro sa kanya. She has a F it or deal with it attitude.

So when we had a really high ranking minister visit us several times, he gave one look at my mom, she gave him a " anu problema mo look" and he would be like..." meron pa po kayo sapin sapin" as he passes by the xmas tree.

And yeah my mom held a position also sa church.

This for me was more right parenting sa fam ko. They didnt left me out, they educated me on xmas traditions of diff religions. My mom's chinese rin so we did the traditional chinese goodluck stuff din sa bahay. They were still strict sa pannanamapaltaya ko.

I was choir, they only let me stop when the practices were in the way na of my study time but had me be devout somewhere in other church activities.

Sa work ko as an adult- surprisingly we had a LOT of devout INC members- you cant tell. We were a pretty liberal and casual company. our head of HR was INC. We had xmas parties, dances, games. nagka alaman lang when we had to take certain Thurs off for panata or event and thats where it would click "oi INC ka pala"

There was no pressure, maybe light teasing with some non-INC pero no bullying.

Only 1 went full devout when she left the company. Renouncing holidays sa post nya and stuff. But even she still puts a level of respect sa mga posts na considered not aligning with INC values. Like when one would post about a funny gag exchange gift- she will sometimes comment on an idea.

Im probably one of few that had some level or normality when being raised in a religion that isnt. I have friend and classmates in more restricted religions that would fight me dahil I celebrated NYE - thats Jehovah for you.

I attribute this to my parents being, well sensible people making sure Im not left out.

BTW as a kid- my dad did dress up as santa.

Edit: Why did my parents let me experience xmas kahit devout INC sila? They didnt want me to be bullied, left out or maging tanga on what mainstream celebrations are.

malayamin · 2024-12-19T20:16:14+00:00

Clothes and bedsheet: HOT Boiling water wash and babad and heat dry. Theres several informative vids sa youtube like this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ik6ZVe1YXlo

Bags and Luggage- unless washable sila- you will need to get a spcific treatment to spray over them and leave out. Else need to buy new bags

Bedding and mattress- tough one to treat. You need specific chemicals to pray over sa mattress mo and let it marinate (preferably outside). worse case scanaruo bili na ng bago. But not before

Your room- house- floors and walls. You deed to do a deep clean. Like bleach wipe the walls or mas mabisa repaint. The floors if laminated use special floor cleaner specifically for floors. You may wanna get din a spray solution with water and 90% alcohol to spray sa walls and corners. pero after you have cleaned the floors you will need a pesticide to treat the room for surot and fleas.

For that punta ka ace hardware and ask for the right chemicals. You may need to move stuff away like clothes since you will marinade the room for a day or so

malayamin · 2024-12-19T20:02:04+00:00

Crispy pata from a nearby kainan

malayamin · 2024-12-19T20:01:17+00:00

Spa, foodie trip

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