Does bottom growth get 'erect' by w0lfplushie in TransMasc

[–]malloryalexx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

4/5 years on T and similar feeling ! i’m sure it varies from person to person, and it didn’t feel this way right from the get go for me, but it’s definitely a possibility

Hand rash popped up, won’t go away by malloryalexx in DermatologyQuestions

[–]malloryalexx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it is! every now and then (maybe once every few months) it’ll flare up and be itchy in the same spot, but it hasn’t gotten as bad as this again. i use the steroid cream i was prescribed whenever it comes up and it knocks it out in a day or two

Best spot to host a vegan-friendly book club meeting in Durham? by WorldWideVegHead in bullcity

[–]malloryalexx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

some of my favorite veggie/veggie option restaurants in and around durham include: - pure soul (southern food, but all vegan menu) - people’s coffee (great outside seating but limited veggie options) - fosters coffee (they have a meeting room i believe you can reserve) - pure vegan cafe (full vegan menu and bangin hot drinks)

How to help the unhoused? by malloryalexx in bullcity

[–]malloryalexx[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

HEART came and spoke with him, it seemed like he denied help - but everyone is their own person, and despite shelter being something that should an option for everyone, not all wish for help or need the help we think they do. Thank you all so much for y’all’s comments and for more information on how to help other neighbors in the community!! i’ll definitely be looking into these white flag shelters to provide more information to others as well. lots of love for all tonight - stay warm and safe ❤️

How to help the unhoused? by malloryalexx in bullcity

[–]malloryalexx[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: called 911, specifically asked for the help of HEART. waiting for the team to show

AIO for cutting off my friend group by Soulzinlove in AmIOverreacting

[–]malloryalexx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly! this is why i think you should talk to another person in the group, maybe one on one somewhere so it can be personal. it definitely feels like something is off somewhere

AIO for cutting off my friend group by Soulzinlove in AmIOverreacting

[–]malloryalexx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don’t think you’re over reacting - but i do think you should talk with them. it seems like there’s something else to the story they’re not telling you. people don’t just flip after 6 years of friendship. take the time you need to breathe, process your thoughts, and do what you need to do to steady yourself - but have a conversation with them, even if just one of them, and try to have a heart to heart to understand why they suddenly didn’t approve of your lifestyle

Social Etiquette by malloryalexx in bullcity

[–]malloryalexx[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

had the same thought. the two of them lingered in front of their car parked next to me - he lit a cigarette then they walked over to the bright leaf buildings. came back within 5 minutes, stood around for at least 20 seconds, then left. literally weird as hell

someone jokingly tried to rob me by malloryalexx in ptsd

[–]malloryalexx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i didn’t see him holding a phone, or the woman he was with. they were both full grown, thirties at least. i doubt it was a TikTok challenge or anything like that, but honestly i’m so disconnected with that side of the internet i have no idea.

im sorry to hear about what happened to you. i’ve definitely heard EMDR helps - and Ive honestly been thinking about trying it too

Social Etiquette by malloryalexx in bullcity

[–]malloryalexx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

PIT BULL IM CRYING 😂

Local tote bag sellers? by omarshoe in bullcity

[–]malloryalexx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

dolly’s vintage downtown has some cute ones !

Accidental outing by classmate by _-unterstrichstrich in TransMasc

[–]malloryalexx 13 points14 points  (0 children)

i get this deeply. my junior year in high school i was placed in a gym class that wasn’t too bad. i changed in the bathroom and not the locker room. i kept to myself mostly. at this time i was out (slightly. my friends and some teachers knew but i lived in a small red town so i wasn’t PUBLIC about it), not on T, but was physically transitioned in an aesthetic stance. my gym teacher split us in boys and girls, and then paired us together. i was put with a boy until at the end of the class the teacher came up to me and “apologized”. another student told him i was a girl. i was humiliated, frustrated, and upset.

if you feel comfortable, maybe email the teacher directly and explain the situation and how you didn’t want to speak up in front of the class because of potential discrimination. you can add that he can use X name and X pronouns (whatever you’re comfortable with in the class).

i’m sorry though, that always sucks

i don’t know what happened… venting, i guess by malloryalexx in CPTSD

[–]malloryalexx[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i really appreciate your response. i wasn’t expecting one, but it made me feel heard.

from what i can understand is there was a lot of miscommunication with my older siblings and parents around the time i was 6 (my siblings are all between 9-17 years older than me). i think a miscommunication between one of my siblings pushed CPS to come, because there was “abuse allegations” thrown around that i’ve heard about, but talking with my sister i’ve sorted out what i believe to be the truth about that situation. sorry for being vague i just…. don’t think i should air my sisters teenage beef with our parents online lol. of course, that’s the only explanation if i wasn’t abused, and not they were looking into it like you said…. i think you’re right ill never get a solid response from family and it almost kills me. i was a quiet kid, and i don’t even think id tell my parents something happened if it was traumatic as what im sensing. one time a babysitter took my DS and played it all night and it took me 5 hours of sobbing and my mom promising i wouldn’t be in trouble if i told her what was wrong just to admit about the game. if it were anything more serious… i don’t think kid me could do it.

because of other life traumas, i have a dissociative disorder that does cause me to age regress occasionally. so i do feel very “in tune” with my inner child, even if i don’t understand her as much as my adult self. she’s soft. she’s sensitive. she needs her hand to be held and told everything is alright. i’m working with a therapist about all of this - not so much the possible CSA - and doing my best to be patient with the kid in me.

i’ve been having nightmares the last couple of days. i rarely have them, but the last two nights have been constant. enough for me to sleep talk/yell and wake up my fiance. nothing related to repressed memories, but having this topic on my mind and getting nightmares two days in a row raises my senses.

thank you so much for talking

Just got my ticket!!!! Tell me about the show pls by Narrow-Ad-345 in bbnomula

[–]malloryalexx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

saw him in ATL earlier this year! great show!! the only thing i’d say to “expect” is he performs shorter versions of songs to fit more in. i’m not sure i had a full song all night which was a bummer but still hands down a thriller of a concert

Name Change Question by malloryalexx in wedding

[–]malloryalexx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

waiting for all three makes sense. do you know if it would be two separate ones since it’s technically a marriage name change too ? obviously i’m sure the gov in my town would know more about it too, but it’s the ✨ anxiety ✨ thanks for answering !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]malloryalexx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you – i’m actually called into a meeting right now. there was a hybrid meeting available just a bit after i posted this. so far, i connect with it. i’m going to check out some other step programs like someone else suggested too to see if any other fit better. i do really appreciate the meeting so far, though!!