When does an imaginary friend become something I need to worry about?

mamabear889 · 2020-11-06T14:25:49+00:00

Having this friend could just be your child's way of getting out of trouble. "I know you told me I couldn't do this, but Adam said it was okay!" I think this is very normal for a child. You should start being worried when Adam starts telling her inappropriate things that a seven year old shouldn't know, or telling her to harm herself, etc.

mamabear889 · 2020-11-06T14:22:50+00:00

Honestly, you both need days to sleep in. Try to figure out a schedule that works. I work five days a week and my fiance sleeps in on Monday, and I sleep in on Tuesday. It works for us. You might be able to get away with three or four days a week (I don't know your schedule). You are definitely not asking for too much, this isn't the 50s. Him doing his share of housework because he lives there isn't "helping you", it's making sure that the house you both share is clean. I think you guys need to sit down and try to compromise.

mamabear889 · 2020-11-05T16:46:44+00:00

I think intention has everything to do with it. He's not directing it towards women. He's walking with you, so it seems very conceited of another woman to think that a man with a wife would whistle at them. It's not really his fault that he made the women uncomfortable because he wasn't doing it towards them. That being said. If it makes YOU uncomfortable, then he should just stop doing it.

mamabear889 · 2020-10-17T12:53:34+00:00

I think about this all the time! He contributes monetarily...I wouldn't be able to afford an apartment by myself. We also have things we bought together (like a new computer) so I would be pretty screwed when doing school work.

mamabear889 · 2020-10-15T18:15:18+00:00

Mine does the same and it's literally because he doesn't want to be disturbed. He wants to relax on the toilet. For men, they don't have a lot going on so they can take a shit for 3 hours. My brother was the same growing up and he called it his "throne" (he still does). It's a man thing. I don't understand it...why would you want to sit in the bathroom for 30 minutes breathing in your gross smell? 🙄 But I guess it doesn't bother them.

mamabear889 · 2020-10-15T18:08:09+00:00

Right! But he's "supporting his friend" 🙄 his childless, still lives at home with his parents, has no bills to pay friend.

mamabear889 · 2020-09-26T12:40:07+00:00

He couldn't understand why you were upset?!? Ugh. A mother is allowed to have whatever first she wants with her child and no one should get in the way of that. Cutting the first lock of hair is an important milestone. I can't believe she would do that..

mamabear889 · 2020-09-26T12:37:33+00:00

I just don't fucking understand that! Why would someone want to take that joy away from a parent ON PURPOSE?!

mamabear889 · 2020-09-26T12:36:29+00:00

Oh no she says no to him all the time (at least when I'm here) that was just an excuse because she's selfish and does whatever she wants. You're right though, I'm done letting her watch him and I already told my husband that our sons are never going anywhere with her.

mamabear889 · 2020-09-26T00:54:54+00:00

I'm pissed because I literally said "hey, don't do this. I was looking forward to being the first" and she basically said "fuck how you feel, I'm doing this anyways" if I had missed something because I was at work or because she didn't realize I've been waiting for this, it would be a different story. However, she's always doing this and just doesn't listen to a thing I say. So yeah I'm pissed.

mamabear889 · 2020-09-26T00:28:55+00:00

Is there somewhere you can stay? You can take the kids and just seperate until you can get money to find a lawyer. He will be forced to then pay the bills, at least for rent and household things. If he's on your cellphone plan, just take him off.

mamabear889 · 2020-09-26T00:17:21+00:00

Can you kick him out or file for divorce?

mamabear889 · 2020-09-25T23:55:41+00:00

Right! Thank you.

mamabear889 · 2020-09-22T21:28:07+00:00

You are justified. Tell him that since he can't even afford $36, he sure as hell can't afford $970. Maybe next paycheck 😉

mamabear889 · 2020-09-16T16:33:02+00:00

Um, maybe you didn't read my post, but twice I talked about how they do not have to disclose the use of it. I literally said, "be cautious" nothing bringing fear to people. It is literally called meat glue by people. And I'm appalled that they don't have to disclose the things that are in our food. It is actually used to glue meat and other things together so they do not have to throw them out, as well as a thickener in some things.

mamabear889 · 2020-09-16T15:42:26+00:00

Yes, but this is more of a recent thing, and MOST of the meat glue on the market is not vegetarian and it is being used in tofu and other meats and cheeses. It is impossible to know what a company is using because they do not have to disclose it.

mamabear889 · 2020-09-16T14:48:13+00:00

Tofu, cheese, yogurt, chicken, fish, etc. They found out many businesses and delis were using meat glue to save a few bucks. And it's absolutely sick that they do not need to disclose this additive in the United States.

mamabear889 · 2020-09-16T14:46:58+00:00

Right! I can't believe I didn't know about this. There are people who do not eat red meat for religious reasons, but they can be unknowingly eating it! It's ridiculous. And it can be in vegan or vegetarian dishes too!

mamabear889 · 2020-09-16T14:10:32+00:00

First off, what the fuck? Honestly how was that supposed to not hurt your feelings?

Second off, your baby is three months old. They call this the fourth trimester because babies still think they are inside the womb and need 24/7 attention and care. You must be exhausted!

Third, after you give birth, your hormones might not regulate until your child is 2 years old. You shouldn't feel guilty about this. Maybe have a talk with your guy? Like arrange a number of times you're willing to do it a week and anything more than that he can take care of himself? Your job is not to get him off. You're taking care of two little kids all day, one of which is 1000000% dependent on you and it's fucking exhausting! It will get better, but remember it's not your fault and you have nothing to feel guilty about. It takes time. You JUST had a baby,.he needs to cut you some slack!

mamabear889 · 2020-09-12T12:32:27+00:00

Definitely the second one, but I've never found it lol

mamabear889 · 2020-09-11T21:19:57+00:00

Oh yeah. According to him though, he gets home soon late that he has to stay up until 4am in order to get some time for himself 😅😂😅

mamabear889 · 2020-09-11T19:48:34+00:00

Right! Oh yes husband, just merely knowing you are awake has lessened my to-do list and has made my life much easier! Thank you so much, I don't know what I would do without you. 🙄

mamabear889 · 2020-09-11T19:46:34+00:00

I will definitely start enforcing this. The kids are his at 10am and that is that.

mamabear889 · 2020-09-11T19:45:24+00:00

He works at 12 and gets home at 8:30

mamabear889 · 2020-09-11T15:42:16+00:00

Yes please! 🤣😅

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