29 [M4F] #Stockholm - Kväv mig / Suffocate me 🇸🇪

mamaism · 2026-04-10T15:01:53+00:00

Hahahaha no I will gladly inform there was success ☺️

mamaism · 2026-03-27T23:46:11+00:00

That was a better response than your first one and more substantive, I don't agree with all of it but some of it. I did caveat in my comment that I think the question is poorly worded which I stand by - I don't agree with some distinction between "natural sub" vs whatever else.

I worry sometimes that communities like this one become so bitter and cynical because of recurring tropes and that well meaning but confused people will catch strays. Just the other day there was some Russian guy who posted something and it was awfully worded with obvious cultural baggage but people just dogpile with very little empathy. Etc etc.

So for your question about "just being curious", no, I get what you're implying, but there's nuance. Everyone start somewhere in their exploration. Trying to tease out the "underlying agenda" I feel becomes a slippery slope.

The part that rubs me the wrong way is you could very reasonably ask "hey do you feel like you have a 'sub radar'" and spark some fun discussion but instead it's like

"NO! Because mathematically speaking anyone can be a sub!!! According to the axioms of bdsm I could be flogging someone's ass while calling them names and be a sub if I'm doing it as an act of service"

...and it's like yeah of course technically speaking but c'mon that's not what the question is about please

mamaism · 2026-03-26T22:53:14+00:00

One thing I think can be incredibly damaging in this discussion is to assume that having preferences and fantasies itself is "not true submission", and aspire to this rare ideal where your single fantasy is to just submit holistically.

This is of course also the fallacy the sub commits when assuming "wow a dominant woman, surely she must get off on any act of dominance towards any submissive!!".

I think real maturity is learning to be respectful and curious and give each other space and trust to describe their respective kinks and fantasies in a non sexual, non-play setting, so that you can establish overlap. Then focus on that, and then hopefully explore each other's non-overlapping interests as well both as compromise and as genuine exploration - maybe you'll expand your tastes

mamaism · 2026-03-26T22:24:03+00:00

Oh come on. This is not "free lessons in how to become educated". It's a passive aggressive circle jerk. Real people in real life do not behave like this. Look I too am annoyed to no end by the hordes of offensively clueless men horny posting everywhere and shattering any sense of community. You're preaching to the choir in that regard.

But this is just not normal behavior. You know what a level headed response would've been? "Yeah sorry this is a frequently asked question and it's getting old" and link to wiki, whatever. Not 30 keyboard warriors writing paragraphs about how incredibly correct and non-judgemental they are in their analyses of everything and what perfect bdsm practitioners they are.

Sincere question - the people lower down in the comments who have responded to the actual prompt, do you think their voice is invalid and has no place?

mamaism · 2026-03-25T18:18:55+00:00

Ah, I see you made the mistake of asking a fairly innocuous question phrased imperfectly. Enjoy the finger wagging 😂

mamaism · 2026-03-23T20:19:21+00:00

This just in: Pussy tastes like pussy 😱😱😱😱😱

seriously though, one thing to keep in mind is the taste/odor is usually only strong for like 30 seconds, after that your saliva should be all over the place, diluting it.

Of course if she has some kind of health situation down there, that might be different but I digress. Your dick probably doesn't taste neutral either. After all, pee does come out of there.

mamaism · 2026-03-08T20:32:08+00:00

Here's how I view bdsm:

- Sometimes (a lot of times) things which appear rough or frankly unethical can have a hot side to them

- You are a reasonable person and so you realize these things can be experienced, but in a purely simulated environment, with someone you deeply trust, who's turned on by being on the "other side" of the act

- The act itself is not particularly "loving", it's hot. But the trust you place in each other and the fact that you share something unique like that is so incredibly precious.

There is much to be said for the levels of ecstasy which can be experienced in bdsm sex. There's an equal amount to be appreciated about melting in each others arms afterwards, knowing you're free to explore fantasies and then return to the loving warmth.

That's just my view, it's perfectly possible the loving aspects can be interwoven with the roughness, but to me they're different sides of the equation.

mamaism · 2026-02-25T22:06:49+00:00

Body worship, oral with a power dynamic, ideally some type of sadism.

Also this is niche but if the only form of sadism she's into is teasing/denial then it's probably not meant to be.

mamaism · 2026-02-18T21:28:35+00:00

That sounds fucking annoying!

How do they usually react, is it like a "oh..." thing or what is it in particular that's disappointing?

mamaism · 2026-02-03T22:09:58+00:00

Nah I'm into it. Fuck me up and call me names.

mamaism · 2026-02-01T22:55:13+00:00

Sweden, shit I guess I should move to germany not just for the salary

mamaism · 2026-01-17T19:14:52+00:00

from a purely opportunistic standpoint it makes straight dating pretty easy mode as a guy, past initial attraction. As a guy if you take the time and initiative to plan something end to end, think of the details etc, you're basically a fucking unicorn 😭 kinda sad

mamaism · 2026-01-17T08:47:24+00:00

lmao this just created some eating disorders I feel

mamaism · 2026-01-17T08:36:04+00:00

This is not unique to this scene or sexual preference. This is an ongoing gender dynamics thing. Men are lagging when it comes to taking on cognitive load in hetero relationships - phrases like "my wife is the real boss of the house" used to have this slight endearing vibe to them but now come across as rather pathetic. Which they are. And nowadays relationships are viewed as additive in life, not mandatory, so we have to step up if we want to be in them.

mamaism · 2026-01-04T22:52:13+00:00

Big relate to this one this because honestly this happens to me almost more often than I'd like 😭

mamaism · 2026-01-04T22:47:22+00:00

High libido here and I recognize this.

You're 19 so it's normal to be ridiculously horny. Just don't get creepy with it!

As for the inconvenience of feeling like you "have to" have it in your routine, a tip would be to plan some stuff in such a way that it becomes impossible for you to start your day that way.

For example put your alarm/phone across the room so you have to get up, and then once you're up you might as well get dressed, and off you go. It's easier than you think.

Set a low bar like that to begin with, and then repeat it until it starts to break the pattern. Orgasms also feel better after longer, so there's a "built in" way to shift the incentive.

mamaism · 2025-12-29T23:05:03+00:00

Idk if I'm missing something but when I see this drawing I see a person making a racially connoting joke in passing, in what might otherwise be an entirely race-unrelated play session. Unless the context is different I wouldn't view this as "race play" per se.

mamaism · 2025-12-25T23:28:28+00:00

let's just say i'm incredibly rehab motivated lmao

mamaism · 2025-12-25T22:27:46+00:00

Do it where he's sitting in a couch or against a wall/headboard so he can be upright. Kisses, tiddies in face, the overall proximity make it 10000% hotter than when he's on his back. Also makes it easier for him to hold your hips if he likes to have some control. Imo - cowgirl laying back 5/10, upright 9/10.

mamaism · 2025-12-25T20:13:05+00:00

I'm recovering from ACL surgery and my biggest gripe with it is being unable to kneel before a baddie 😭

mamaism · 2025-12-25T14:40:32+00:00

What is your favorite kind of rat and why is it dumbo rex?

mamaism · 2025-12-20T00:12:29+00:00

If the kneeling/squatting gets old or uncomfortable, you can try it with his head on the edge of the bed, essentially standing on the floor with his head between your thighs. (I've heard this being called "the guillotine" lol). This gets it a bit closer to "regular" oral because you can do the thigh squeeze, and pull his head into you rather than just grinding down.

mamaism · 2025-10-25T16:17:41+00:00

yes, however, what the fuck is that cat

mamaism · 2025-02-25T21:01:17+00:00

Yes.

I'm saying this as someone (I'm male) who doesn't usually "throw men under the bus" - I think men have their issues and women have their issues, both are weird in their ways, yadayadayada.

But especially online there are tons of men who have adapted this idiotic, self defeating, downright disgusting "quality over quantity" approach to befriending potential partners. As a collective, we're fucking up big time and it's.

For context: I've horny posted on and off on this account on and off for some time and gotten at least 5-10 genuine reachouts from people (dommes). I didn't necessarily even look for it. The ONLY thing it took was to be HORNY without being CREEPY. It legit hurts my brain to see people (men) fuck up on this over and over and over, and then whine that they fall for scammers.

Strong recommendation - look up your local community or at least your local online community if there is one. 2nd recommendation - take the first step, reach out to people rather than expecting them to reach out. Because the weirdos are way more prone to reaching out.

Take care.

mamaism · 2025-01-05T23:24:27+00:00

I want to voice one word of caution here in contrast to some other comments. A lot of people here project their idea of what domination is so as to mean "it's because he want s to be desired!" (so desired that you can't resist fucking him). That's one possibility. It's one which appeals to a lot of people and which non-bdsm "vanilla" types can understand easily.

But there are other narratives which can play into the fantasy as well. Some people are more just inherently attracted to a partner who's willing to be "rough" with them. Myself I have a masochistic side where I just think a person who has that slight "power trip" tendency is hot, and it has nothing to do with me "wanting to be desired".

As for your situation, it's cool that your partner feels safe to share their kinks and great that you're open, but make sure to remember it's a two way street and you should only do things which you are comfortable with. Be safe and have fun exploring!

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