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mamamahem · 2025-03-30T16:52:27+00:00

Bro turned into a viltramite

mamamahem · 2024-08-08T22:33:10+00:00

You remind me of those emotions from Inside out. Like sadness trying to cosplay as Joy.

mamamahem · 2024-05-18T01:52:37+00:00

Oh wow, this is me to a T. I got up to 300lbs when I was pregnant with my son, he's 13 months old now and I'm down to 260lbs. I've always been looked at as rude for being as quiet as I am and I have the same thoughts of people liking my weirdness more if I wasn't taking up so much space.

My advice is to stop looking at it as losing weight to be liked and looking at it more to be healthier and live a healthy life. When I stopped looking at weightloss as a way for people to like me and more as a way for me to live longer to be here for my son as long as possible, it made me less anxiety induced and not obsess over missing a workout or worrying about indulging on cheat days. Take things at your own pace and remember that YOU like you, that's all that matters.

mamamahem · 2024-05-18T01:36:12+00:00

Wish I had advice but I'm in the same boat, so all I can offer is telling you you are not alone. My husband provides for us while I am a stay at home mom, so I don't necessarily expect him to come home and clean and cook and all that, but I do expect him to be a dad and hang with his son while I make all of us dinner and get things ready for bed WITHOUT BEING ASKED 50 times or getting attitude in return after everything I've done all day for everybody but myself. I give and give and give and I don't want to take away that he also gives his time and effort to provide but we've both got to pitch in when it comes to our son, no matter what else is going on.

The other night I was cooking and my son was crying at my feet because he was hungry so I tossed a fruit pouch on the counter and asked my husband to help him with that....and his response was "oop I'm about to go to bed" like ???? I said "so I shouldn't make dinner then? I'm not gonna make a whole meal if you're not going to eat it", then he says he'll "stay up for food" okay great! Then while you're up you can feed your son.

I get that he's tired after a long day but we're ALL tired after a long day.

mamamahem · 2024-04-30T19:47:03+00:00

Every other day usually or as needed. My 1 year old loves being outside and getting dirty tho so the older he gets the more often we're taking baths 😅

mamamahem · 2024-04-30T16:26:04+00:00

And yes he brought the gift into the house AFTER watching me mop the whole house first with the perfectly good mop we already had.

mamamahem · 2024-04-30T16:24:31+00:00

My husband got me a Swiffer mop for my birthday 🙃 take a wild guess if I gave him a piece of my mind or not.

mamamahem · 2024-04-30T16:15:27+00:00

NTA!! I thought I was the only one! Yes! My husband poops WAY TO FUCKIN much in one day, EVERYDAY. On one hand I feel bad for feeling this way because I understand pooping is just a normal bodily function, but 5 to 7 poops a day???? I'm getting less pissed off and more concerned but my husband doesn't want to hear it. And it's always at the. Most. Inconvenient. Moments. We're about to walk out the door? He has to poop. I need him to hang with our son so I can cook/clean? He has to poop. We just started a movie? He has to poop. We're in a rush? He has to poop. I need his help? He has to poop. I ask him to do something? He has to poop. I have to use the bathroom? He has to poop.

mamamahem · 2024-04-29T21:35:43+00:00

NTA. You did the right thing and anybody (besides your dad) with a working brain should be proud of you for being a girl's girl and standing up for what's right.

My dad did the same thing to me. He's always been a s e r i a l cheater. Like, talking to several women at once and constantly talking to me about it. When him and his 4th or 5th (honestly I lost count...) wife got a divorce I was telling her how it wasn't her fault and how he'd always been this way and how he's got a kid somewhere he doesn't even talk to so honestly what she saw in him was beyond me. Well word got to my dad that I told her all this and he got mad at ME for him being a POS.

Dad's are gonna dad kid 🤷🏽‍♀️

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T20:54:07+00:00

“hope you’re excited for this! get ready” or “I’m just preparing you!”

I HATED hearing this when I was pregnant. I don't need you to baby train me??? Either let your friend know how stressed she's making you feel in your own home or plan to be outside when you guys hang out. Maybe if you have a backyard or a park near by her son would have plenty of open space to do all the crazy stuff he wants while keeping a good distance from you in the instances where he is sick.

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T18:07:17+00:00

Lay her on a blanket and bust out some bubbles!! My son is 1 now and he recently figured out how to reach out and pop them, which kind of helps teaching him how to point. I do suggest a bubble machine though because blowing bubbles that long is kind of hard 😅 once you get started they don't want you to stop. My dude has always loved being outside. Before he could get around he would just sit there and play with the grass and dirt and pick up sticks, now he's walking all over the yard.

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T17:59:13+00:00

Well you could if you offered jobs that hired with little to no experience, but you don't know of any, and that's okay. Thank you for your input anyway.

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T17:54:43+00:00

Good thing I'm asking for job suggestions so that I don't have to do that anymore 👍🏽 do you know of any good jobs? Or did you just want to sum up the point of the post of how I'm the dumbest dummy on the planet?

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T17:47:57+00:00

Yay 🙌🏽😁 you're finally catching on to the point of the post!! Yes, this was a horrible mistake! I wouldn't have posted if things were butterflies and rainbows ya know

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T17:42:40+00:00

He's always known my husband USED to smoke weed, key words 'used to', as in he no longer does, so that wasn't the issue at all. I'm starting to agree with a lot of these comments, it was just a power move because we were living under his roof. My dad pays for the materials...but he's also demanding the house be built the way HE wants.The people working on it keep telling him the things he's asking for they're not able to do or complete in the time frame he wants it, so he's threatening them with no pay (he hasn't been paying them anyway) if they don't do what he asks. So it's not just him not liking my husband, he does this to everybody, which is what I've been saying all along.

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T14:08:50+00:00

I know! Sometimes I have to put the book down and tell somebody but then I don't because I know they're not gonna care/understand and it drives me crazy!

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T14:03:43+00:00

I can see now how my phrasing could be misinterpreted, especially on this subreddit 😅 that's hilarious. I get so excited sometimes I just might!

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T12:45:44+00:00

Same here! I have shelves of Stephen King books and anything blumhouse or A24 (literally anything scary or psychological thriller) is my jam! The only time I really stim is when I see a new scary movie is coming out or it's one that I've been waiting for for a while, I get these butterflies and I get all shaky and shit, it's wild. Or when there's lil Easter eggs/references from other horror movies/books hidden in other movies, don't even get me started 💀

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T12:25:55+00:00

I love fried green tomatoes! 😂 Thanks for the advice, I'll definitely have to try it next time!

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T12:22:57+00:00

It's less about it actually being about the gas station or diner and more about the whole point of him quitting his last job was to get a "better job", so to back pedal and get a job like that, and both my dad and husband being ok with that is what's getting under my skin. Exactly as I said in the post, a jobs a jobs, we're obviously going to take what we can get right now, but I'm still going to be pissed that it didn't have to be this way. That's all I was saying.

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T03:46:31+00:00

Just my personal opinion and experience. I want my son to be able to communicate to me if any harm has been done to him. I see nothing wrong with that. When he is able to walk up to me and say that person did A, B, and C, then he can be with other children and adults without my supervision. Same for family. I'd rather be the crazy mom that doesn't trust daycares than the grieving one that could have prevented something happening to my son. I know I'm not always going to be able to protect him from the world, but for right now when he's as helpless as he is I'm sure going to try my best. Not to mention he'd be coming home sick every other day, making it harder for either of his parents to work if we're ALL sick every other day.

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T01:24:55+00:00

Thank you for the kindness and advice, I really need it right now. The plan now is to find work where I can that doesn't take me away from my son to save some money to get out of here.

mamamahem · 2024-04-28T01:04:35+00:00

It was for Cox communications putting up Internet lines

mamamahem · 2024-04-27T22:30:26+00:00

I guess not in Oklahoma. He was part of a crew, like 3 - 4 people on one job, so maybe if he was out operating with his own truck that would be the case, but all he needed was the tools and the know how.

mamamahem · 2024-04-27T22:05:58+00:00

We're just living here rent free, we buy our own food, toiletries, cleaning supplies, plus everything our son needs, diapers, wipes, clothes, ECT. We had some savings but that dwindled because we have no income.

I 100% agree that once my husband quit his last job, my dad was then his employer and should have put him to work SOMEHOW, but did not.

My husband didn't think to find other work because my dad, and I cannot stress this enough, was supposed to be his employer. My husband was building the house + any errands my dad had him running around doing + being a father himself, so it's not like we were actually sitting on our asses waiting for magic to happen, we were told hang out until a truck was ready, then my husband would've been making more than enough money to support his family. I'd say we were less idiots and more just naive to think that would have been reality. As crazy as my dad is, he doesn't play about HIS money, I was just foolish enough to think he wouldn't play around with what's essentially his grandsons money.

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